I get seriously like... infatuated, like I can only ever think of that one girl for days on end, longing to have her. But i'm too shy to actually ask her out or make a move or whatever.

Its like... I like her so much it actually makes me pissed off with myself, because I don't know if I stand a chance with her, and I get annoyed at myself because of that, and also because I have a very poor view of myself and I get real pissed off at myself for being such an ugly, unlikable fucker.

Not only that I get seriously paranoid and jealous, but since I moved school that has decreased by huge amounts and its very rare now. I put the former paranoia and jealousy down to me hating everybody at my old school.

She probably is the nicest person I have ever met, and we just kinda... clicked as soon as we met.

I'm just too fucking shy to make a move and find out. And I really wouldn't know how to go about doing it either.

Plus I'm kinda scared of rejection and that I will ask her out on a date or move in to kiss her and she'll reject me and then everybody would laugh at me.

Fuck it.

I'm going for a joint.

If this is a phase, then I'm going through something similar.

So your problem is you think too much.

Stop thinking so much.

quote:Originally posted by LostieDrunkard:

If this is a phase, then I'm going through something similar.



Probably is. Or we're screwed for life

quote:Originally posted by stab:

So your problem is you think too much.

Stop thinking so much.

Haha yea. Probably true, I always think of the worst case scenarios, and not the best case.

I mean, yesterday in the cinema (there was a group of us, but she invited me along) she sat next to me, and I was trying to psychoanalyze her body langauge. But I think I was too stoned to do it successfully. She appeared to be giving off mixed signals.

Gah. This is gay.

Because I think the way its either going to go is she likes me too and something will come of it, or we just like... I dunno, it'll be awkward.

Better to have loved and been rejected than to never have made a move at all.

You don't want to be spending the next few months thinkings "what if...?". The worst that can happen is that you end up in the same situation you are now, except with the knowledge that she won't want anything to do with you in that way. The best is that you end up in a relationship with her. Go for it. It's always better to do something than to do nothing.

quote:Originally posted by Mr.Happy:

Better to have loved and been rejected than to never have made a move at all.

You don't want to be spending the next few months thinkings "what if...?". The worst that can happen is that you end up in the same situation you are now, except with the knowledge that she won't want anything to do with you in that way. The best is that you end up in a relationship with her. Go for it. It's always better to do something than to do nothing.

I know you are right, but how?

I'm kinda shy, especially when it comes to asking chicks out and stuff, so any help is appreciated

You know those movies that have some dopey guy that is totally in love with a girl that is way out of his league? And then he does all these silly, extreme, wonderful things to show that not only does he love her, but that he appreciates her for who she really is and not just her looks yet he won't just walk up to her and talk to her like an honest and interested party?

Yeah, why go out with someone that talks to you all the time, tells you how much they like you, makes you feel special, but at the same time isn't so into you that they disapear as a man when you can have some John Cusak fucknugget blast his stereo in front of your house.

I'm sure you are a great guy and you have a lot to offer. If she shoots you down, then you will want to kill yourself for about a month, but you will move on and find someone better. Why doesn't anyone, who lives in a world with 7 billion other human beings understand that there is ALWAYS someone better?

Stop sedating yourself with pot.

You're fucking paranoid, just relax and let yourself interact.

It's what we're designed to do.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



Stop sedating yourself with pot.

You're fucking paranoid, just relax and let yourself interact.

It's what we're designed to do.

I have no more pot

Currently I have 2 choices in my head.

I do the lame kiddy thing and ask her best mate, or I ask the chick directly.

First one results in less embarassment if she doesn't like me, second one results in more chance of success and at least she knows.

Merr...

Fuck those women, you know it'll end badly. Maybe you endure the situation even though it hurts because you want an excuse to shut yourself off.

Move on, meet new people, start fresh.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



Move on, meet new people, start fresh.

That's what I am doing at the moment.

Theres are the new people, this is the fresh start, i'm not having 2 fresh starts with new people in the space of 6 months or so.

quote:Originally posted by CptnCrackHound:



So looking at the fundamentals of human behavior, if she is interested, she'll start showing you more and more signs.



Any particular signs that I should be looking for, or is it a "you will know the signs when you see them" kinda thing?

break the ice w/ her over small talk / chatting on an instant messenger or whatever

chances are you can't be that repulsive and she may give you a chance if u guys clicked and what not

just go for it, dont worry about rejection

also... asking her a little tipsy might help :P (but dont use alcohol as a crutch)

Like a few have already said, im pretty damn sure its a phase with teens new or somewhat new with relationships. I had the same problem for a while, scared of rejection, shy, infatuated with girls ive never even talked too =)

One day I just got over it, I guess you could say I now see the big picture. I realized there are a shitload of women out there looking for men, and that highschool is only 4 years of your life, so really rejection dosent matter because even if you were rejected nobody will give a shit let alone remember after a month or two. Just ask your ladyfriend if she would like to hang out sometime afterschool, if she says yes then thats a good start and means she might be interested in you. If things go good while your with her then ask her to get some grub sometime.

quote:Originally posted by Icepick Gag Reflex:

One day I just got over it, I guess you could say I now see the big picture. I realized there are a shitload of women out there looking for men, and that highschool is only 4 years of your life, so really rejection dosent matter because even if you were rejected nobody will give a shit let alone remember after a month or two. Just ask your ladyfriend if she would like to hang out sometime afterschool, if she says yes then thats a good start and means she might be interested in you. If things go good while your with her then ask her to get some grub sometime.

That makes a lot of sense. Probably the best piece of advice given to me on this subject, or just worded in a way that makes sense to me.

She asked to meet after school on tuesday so she can give me the birthday card she has made me. So when I go to meet her I guess i'll ask her if she wants to meet up at the weekend of after school whenever.

Yea fuck it, what have I got to lose? So what if she knows I like her, its probably pretty obvious I do anyway.

stop smoking weed around her.

weed is the worst girls drug.

buy some coke, or some addies, or some vikes, or oxy, or benzos, take a little (just a little).

Then you'll feel confident/relaxed enough to just be like, fuck it, here goes.

quote:Originally posted by Mr.Happy:

Better to have loved and been rejected than to never have made a move at all.

You don't want to be spending the next few months thinkings "what if...?". The worst that can happen is that you end up in the same situation you are now, except with the knowledge that she won't want anything to do with you in that way. The best is that you end up in a relationship with her. Go for it. It's always better to do something than to do nothing.

^^^ This is why he is a moderator, 'cause he says smart shit like this.

quote:Originally posted by reject:

...and also because I have a very poor view of myself and I get real pissed off at myself for being such an ugly, unlikable fucker...

You haven't a snowball's chance in hell. Women don't want ugly men such as you, don't even bother. You're going to die alone and bitter.

quote:Originally posted by Byss:

You haven't a snowball's chance in hell. Women don't want ugly men such as you, don't even bother. You're going to die alone and bitter.

Good one.

You should do more handstands. It always looks better when you're upside down.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

You should do more handstands. It always looks better when you're upside down.

I haven't done a hand stand in a long long time. I'm going to see if I still can, without falling on my head/neck and killing myself.

Just go ask her on a date, duh!

Make sure you have it vaguely planned before hand or you'll get all stuck for ideas for what to do and stuff

quote:Originally posted by ResdogMrwhite:

^^^ This is why he is a moderator, 'cause he says smart shit like this.

Well, it's actually because I gave the admins handjobs, but thanks.

After a while you numb to rejection.

If everything goes wrong, falls to pieces, your worst case scenario comes true... then smoke a joint!

SADLY IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME

...

I've got some kind of plan as to what I am going to do, and I dont know, she might like me she might not, I think she already knows I like her because apparently it is blatantly obvious or something

You and I should be buddies, reject.

quote:Originally posted by Premium Overdrive:

You and I should be buddies, reject.

We ARE buddies, needmoney

Have you ever tried cowboy boots??

quote:Originally posted by stab:

So your problem is you masturbate too little.

Masturbate once a day, at roughly the same time each day and no more, see how that works out.

Fixed.

don't tell her you like her,EVER, just give relative hints, as if your a surprise adventure and she finally finds the treasure! yay! lol anyways... try and find out if she likes you too so you don't embarass her in front of everyone at school and she tells everyone she knows... that "so and so" asked me out.. it will only lead to disaster....

So be freaking confident... ask her things and if she playfully punches you on one of your cheesy jokes, or laughs without faking it, your in the bag my friend. Asking people out isn't something natural, its something you learn from experience... so i suggest doing this to a girl you especially like will definately give you knowledge for the future anyhow

Good Luck man, ill be rooting for ya



[This message has been edited by 333_Bethrezen (edited 02-28-2007).]

Thanks Bethrezen and CptnCrackHound!

I'm going to ask her on a date tomorrow when I see her. I was talking to my ex about it and she said just to be confident because confidence is hot.

So I figure as long as i'm confident and don't act nervous then it should be all right. And if it fails then oh well, at least I tried.

Thanks for all the advice guys.

quote: I've just realized my problem when it comes to relationships.

You're only 15. That is your problem. You see its not always you dude, it can and probably is the girls sometimes. Girls can be immature as fuck until they hit their mid 20s. Some girls start earlier. Just dont expect a long term relationship or atleast a real relationship at this age. Wait a few years and then go after older girls.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

So your problem is you think too much.

Stop thinking so much.

THAT IS THE FUCKING KEY! Ok, to add some content to this post I can explain.

All the while I had a situation just like yours. Maybe except I was also getting positive vibes from her. But I was always hoping for too much and that got me nervous. Thats why I made some mistakes, or I thought I made mistakes which lead me to being fucking pissed of at myself. I just didnt fucking get it!

Maybe she was just toying with me to show her domination? But then, why the fuck would she sometimes ask to me walk her home? She could just fucking take the bus like she always does, right? But then, why they fuck would she kinda ignore me, or treat me as just a friend or just go to another fucking guy? Shes not in any sort of relationship right now, I even thought for some time that she must be a slut, but nay! She doesnt let many fuckers get close to her, so that cant be it. Sooo... thats the question I got: what the fuck? AND: What the fuck am I supposed to do about it?

Yeah... thinking... Now, I just laid it of, of course Im still jealous when I see her having fun with other guys, or even my friend, which also like her very much and it seems she also likes him more than me, they seem to be more intimate.

But, I think Ive found an answer, something that might be considered a terrible mistake. Befriend her, instead of just having some stupid crush on her, but having her as a friend+, meaning to be sometimes hinting at making it more serious. Thats the only way I see it and now I atleast dont have that self-hatred stuff to deal with.

quote:Originally posted by reject:

Haha yea. Probably true, I always think of the worst case scenarios, and not the best case.

I mean, yesterday in the cinema (there was a group of us, but she invited me along) she sat next to me, and I was trying to psychoanalyze her body langauge. But I think I was too stoned to do it successfully. She appeared to be giving off mixed signals.

Gah. This is gay.

Because I think the way its either going to go is she likes me too and something will come of it, or we just like... I dunno, it'll be awkward.

Definately thinking too much.

Are you stupid? She obviously likes you. If it turns out she was playing you, she's not worth your time. Move on.

So what happened, reject? Did she reject you?

Reject, just for the future: Turn your head off when it comes to women. Your are genetically wired to attract women and take them to bed...thought just gets in the way.

You're a meanie-head, Misfit.

Reject, send a pic to agent008t@gmail.com pls. I refuse to believe you're that ugly.

Go for it. If she wasn't interested, she wouldn't speak to you like she seems to be doing now. Worst case, you can always toke up.

Happens to the best of us.

Back in England, I have no problem pulling whilst pissed/on x.

Meet a girl sober and I become besotted. Its like putting a woman on a pedestal. You can't act rational or logical after this point.