Alright, last night, my girlfriend calls from work on her break as she normally does, and tells me she might be going to hang out with her friend, who I'll refer to as Mr. X. Now, Mr. X supposedly has been a friend of hers since childhood, he is a white male, I believe around 18-19. From what she's told me of him, it sounds like he has no other friends.

Now, they tend to hang out quite a bit, going to movies and such. I've told her that it makes me feel kind of awkward when she's spending so much time with him, especially since I'm 500 miles away, but I don't want to restrict her social life, so I let her go.

So last night, when she's about to leave from work to go home, she calls me and tells me she'll just be going home; she's not spending time with Mr. X tonight. She gets home, we talk for a while, she goes to make some dinner. Now, the time is around 11:15. She then tells me Mr. X is coming over for a little while, and she'd be back in a bit. I really don't like the idea of this, especially considering the time of day, but since she said it'd only be for a little while, I say okay. She leaves, I stay up for a bit waiting. I normally go to sleep around 1, and she knows this. So finally, she comes back at 2:15 am.

Naturally, I am very, very bothered by this. Am I right in feeling this way, or am I paranoid and over-reacting?

[This message has been edited by MomentaryLapseOfReason (edited 02-24-2007).]

I'd say you're overreacting. If she was doing it to actually cheat on you, she wouldn't have told anything. I'd say you should absolutly not let it bother you.

But she didn't come back until 2:15am!

Edit: And I'm not worried about her cheating on me; I just don't like the idea of other males being around her that late at night in a situation like that. We all know why males spend time with females; I'm mainly afraid of this guy trying something on her.

Edit to my edit: Also, we don't get a lot of time to talk to each other, and we especially didn't have much time yesterday, because of her working, and the fact that she fell back asleep after I called to wake her up. And I feel that during that time of night, I should be the one talking with her.



[This message has been edited by MomentaryLapseOfReason (edited 02-24-2007).]

Nah, you're overreacting. He's just a friend and sometimes when you're out with friends you overrun on timing a bit. It's no big deal.

EDIT: Males are perfectly capable of being platonic friends with girls. Really.

[This message has been edited by Mr.Happy (edited 02-24-2007).]

Lock her in a secret room, hidden from the rest of the world. Then you can always know where she is and what she is doing. She'll thank you later.

Alright, if I am paranoid about this, how do I fix myself? One of the psychs I went to a long time ago said I had problems with paranoia, but I stopped going to him, and went to a different one, who had a completely different dx and ddx. Is there anything I can do myself to stop myself from feeling this way?

Not aslong as you don't like him being with your girlfriend, which probably won't change. But atleast act like it doesn't bother you and stay busy.

Realize that other guys might hang around her, but at the end of the day you're the one fucking her.

Find something to busy yourself.

It's just part of your relationship at the moment, simply not something you can avoid.

quote:Originally posted by Mr.Happy:



EDIT: Males are perfectly capable of being platonic friends with girls. Really.

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Ladies and gentlemen, please fasten your seatbelts . We are leaving La-La Land and will be returning to reality shortly.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Find something to busy yourself.

It's just part of your relationship at the moment, simply not something you can avoid.

But then that'll eat up even more time that I could have spent talking to her.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

But then that'll eat up even more time that I could have spent talking to her.

You should have more in your life than just the relationship.

There's no such thing as too much effort, but. If it's not appreciated or reciprocated in any way, then you probably shouldn't take the time.

It's difficult with looming plans to move, you see that there is a lot that will change in your life. This is all contingent upon her, rather than yourself; it's a difficult leap of faith. You simply have to have confidence that you love one another, rather than focusing on the distance and lack of communication.

[This message has been edited by Euda (edited 02-24-2007).]

haha you found your girlfriend on the internet, you fucking loser.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

You should have more in your life than just the relationship.

At this time, I don't. I have no friends outside of the internet, no job until I move, no hobbies anymore, nothing. I try to make friends, but nobody will have me. I try to indulge in hobbies, but people get pissed off at me.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

At this time, I don't. I have no friends outside of the internet, no job until I move, no hobbies anymore, nothing. I try to make friends, but nobody will have me. I try to indulge in hobbies, but people get pissed off at me.

You need to find something to take up your time. I know that few things are as compelling as a woman that you love, but you need to find something. There are lots of possible hobbies out there.

What sort of hobby is interesting you?

I used to be really heavy in shooting, off-roading with quads, trucks, and ATV's, drugs, alcohol, and fire training. I had to give up drugs because of the relationship, but I guess I can still shoot my guns for another month.

All right, throw yourself into guns and other things that go bang for a while.

Although, I'd suggest trying to find a hobby that you can continue with after you move.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

At this time, I don't. I have no friends outside of the internet, no job until I move, no hobbies anymore, nothing. I try to make friends, but nobody will have me. I try to indulge in hobbies, but people get pissed off at me.

Just kill yourself.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

All right, throw yourself into guns and other things that go bang for a while.

Although, I'd suggest trying to find a hobby that you can continue with after you move.

I could get interested in brushing cats, I guess...

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

I could get interested in brushing cats, I guess...

Go volunteer at a pet groomer's business.

That was sarcasm.

Edit: All the stuff I'm interested in, I can't do in the city. Plus, when I move, most of my life is going to revolve around work and the relationship.

[This message has been edited by MomentaryLapseOfReason (edited 02-24-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

That was sarcasm.

Edit: All the stuff I'm interested in, I can't do in the city. Plus, when I move, most of my life is going to revolve around work and the relationship.

I know, so was mine.

Take up a hobby or three that you can do in the city. It's good advice; remember, you aren't going to be just visiting.

you're 500 miles away..

drop her and find pussy near you

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

I know, so was mine.

Take up a hobby or three that you can do in the city. It's good advice; remember, you aren't going to be just visiting.

Well, that's the problem. I can't think of anything that would interest me in a city.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

Well, that's the problem. I can't think of anything that would interest me in a city.

It's time to figure something out.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

I could get interested in brushing cats, I guess...

It certainly is a hobby that'll take you all night, especially with Bella being so damn puffy!

But anyways, I figured I'd post in your thread... We're gonna figure things out, and I'm going to be with you until we do. I promise.

I didn't do this for a relationship, but about seven years ago I just up and moved to Seattle, only know a few friends I had met online. Basically I showed up with no job, a little money, and ready made roomates. There was a HOOOOGE adjustment to a big city and living with people I realized I didn't know very well.

It sucks for about two or three months. And then you make friends at work, you get use to the city, and you find new things to try that you never though you would like (sushi and coffee!).

Things will be okay. And you will be very proud that you built a life almost entirely on your own.

quote:Originally posted by specus_meretricis:

And you will be very proud that you built a life almost entirely on your own.

As stupid as it may sound, Totse was the beginning factor in all of it.

<3 I wub you, Totse.

But I wub you even more, Katey. And I don't care if all these people see it, I don't give two shits what the nay-sayers think, you mean everything to me, and I jump at the opportunity to let the whole world know.

^Awwwww!

BTW, you guys might not care, but next Wednesday, February 28th, Pirate Hippie and I will have been together for 1 year.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

BTW, you guys might not care, but next Wednesday, February 28th, Pirate Hippie and I will have been together for 1 year.

First year anniversary is paper. First online year anniversary is porn.

Dont worry about it MLoR

You can just pull a jacketch on the dude if it does turn out he is up to no good anyway

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Ladies and gentlemen, please fasten your seatbelts . We are leaving La-La Land and will be returning to reality shortly.

Um, when you are literally childhood friends, and known each other since she was 6 and you were 8...it reaches a point where you wouldnt even dream of fucking, because itd be like fucking your own sister.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

BTW, you guys might not care, but next Wednesday, February 28th, Pirate Hippie and I will have been together for 1 year.

Want me to perform a weddin for ya over the net?

Or if not me..we can always get Gus or arquin to do it...fine..even jack...jeez...

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

As stupid as it may sound, Totse was the beginning factor in all of it.

<3 I wub you, Totse.

But I wub you even more, Katey. And I don't care if all these people see it, I don't give two shits what the nay-sayers think, you mean everything to me, and I jump at the opportunity to let the whole world know.

Awwww. You're a sweetheart. I love you. <3

quote:Originally posted by DesertRebel:

Want me to perform a weddin for ya over the net?

Or if not me..we can always get Gus or arquin to do it...fine..even jack...jeez...

That's alright, I'm a legally ordained minister through ULC. =P

quote:Originally posted by JAMAL:

haha you found your girlfriend on the internet, you fucking loser.



Better than anything you could ever get, you anal cunt. Go back under the ocean you gingerhead.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

That's alright, I'm a legally ordained minister through ULC. =P

Then perform it yourself!

quote:Originally posted by Mr.Happy:

Males are perfectly capable of being platonic friends with girls. Really.



LIES

And you didn't over react

Edit: KILL MR X

[This message has been edited by MilkAndInnards (edited 02-24-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Behexen:



Better than anything you could ever get, you anal cunt. Go back under the ocean you gingerhead.

mind your own business you fucking bitch, was I talking to you? no, and stop sucking the mans dick, you stupid fuck.

quote:Originally posted by Pirate Hippie:

We're gonna figure things out, and I'm going to be with you until we do. I promise.

I'd be more worried about that "until" part rather than a childhood friend. "Until" means a foreseeable ending in the near future. Also, don't even think about wasting your time on jealousy of a childhood friend. That dude has some real history with her. If anything were to happen, it is something that has been waiting to happen before you even knew she existed.

It's harsh, but thats just the way life is. If anything were to actually come out of this, which I doubt because you are being paranoid about it, it would be for the better of both you and her.

Long distance relationships... you should have already prepared yourself for events such as this the minute you entered this relationship.

dude, i know exactly what you mean. my gf is about 350 miles from me, and we, too, don't get much time together. i'm alsowith you on that part about not going out much and having a big part of my life revolve around a disance relationship.

i think you have the right to be nervious. hell, i know i would be. you can still trust her, but be nervious. it's sometimes jsut the not knowing whats going on thats hard. but if you love each other, which it sounds like you do, then that can comfort you some.

feb 28th, huh? the 29th (so i guess march 1st) will be a year for me. congrats man!

quote:Originally posted by postdiluvium:

I'd be more worried about that "until" part rather than a childhood friend. "Until" means a foreseeable ending in the near future.

There isn't a "foreseeable" end to the relationship, but we're both open to the fact that it might not work out, ya know? And I say that because we've both tried to end the relationship under stress and all that, but neither of us want that. It's complicated... our relationship is NOT simple. But I wouldn't give it up for anything in the world.

quote:Originally posted by Pirate Hippie:



I wouldn't give it up for anything in the world.

that, right there, is why you don't have anything to worry about.

There is a really nice comforting feeling knowing me and my gf aren't alone in this kind of situation.

We're 600 miles apart, its fucking hell...but hopefully we'll be together for the majority of the summer =)



Those who question long distance relationships, let me help. We meet someone, who is so amazing by our standards that the wait, pain, stress, nervousness and distance is 100% worth it in the end...yep.

Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary.