My friend's 19. He's had a few girlfriends, maybe 3/4 different ones, but the "relationship" never lasts longer then a few weeks. The reason it doesn't last is because the he won't do anything at all sexual. He's never even kissed a girl. The most I've ever seen him do is hold hands. This isn't "normal" for a 19 year old guy, right?

Is he gay, or just scared?

Ask him.

Prolly he travelled back from time - just traditional.

Oh, and btw, you might wanna make friends with me.

quote:Originally posted by Mahatma Gandhi:

Oh, and btw, you might wanna make friends with me.

Why is that?

Probably just nervous because hes got to this age without doing anything sexual - the longer time goes by the harder it gets.

Either talk to him, or (and this would be more fun) tell a really easy girl to make him do sexual stuff when hes a bit pissed. Works a charm.

Maybe hes got a small penis and is scared that if he does anything sexual then the girl will make fun of him and/or tell other people how small his penis is.

Does he close his eyes when he kisses you?

Only way to be sure......

EDIT:

Now that I think about it, it is pretty normal. Most guys kinda build up their experience. Start by having a girl friend. Move up to holding hands. Then hugging. Then kissing.

Only in the movies, or in weird situations does it start out as sex with your first girlfriend.

I'd guess he is just nervous, and when the right girl/ slut comes along, he'll be fine.

BTW, how would he feel if he knew his "mate" was on an internet forum asking annonamous people if he is gay or not? If you don't have the balls to ask him, your more of a pussy than he is!

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How does someone that sucks with wmen possibly get a nymph? Does he look like Jhnny Depp or something?

Anyway, dont make baseless assumptions. Your friend seems to have gotten farther than I have and I am not gay.

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

How does someone that sucks with wmen possibly get a nymph? Does he look like Jhnny Depp or something?

Anyway, dont make baseless assumptions. Your friend seems to have gotten farther than I have and I am not gay.

you have never held hands? Are you kidding?

** Deuce Omen

probably just nervous. does your gaydar go off when you are around him? that should tell you. my gaydar rarely malfunctions. course, mine was made in the usa, not china!

I thought this thread was about me at first.

quote:Originally posted by DeuceOmen:

you have never held hands? Are you kidding?

** Deuce Omen

Ohh, I have held hands at a couple's skate thing many years ago. Was my school crush since 3rd grade.

Interestingly enough, I get to see her again after 5/6 years this Friday.

quote:Originally posted by smallpox champion:

I thought this thread was about me at first.

Me too

Maybe he's a self-loather who denies himself any sort of pleasure or enjoyment in life, subconsciously sabotaging all of his relationships as punishment for some perceived defect or worthlessness.

Or maybe he just has really low self-esteem/no confidence, and can't possibly imagine anyone being interested in him, which leads to a slight paranoia complex whenever the possibility of a romantic relationship is on the horizon.

Or maybe he's afraid that, based on past relationships (even those that aren't sexual in nature), that he can't possibly maintain a healthy relationship and is afraid that it would only end in one or both parties getting hurt, and it's better to just not risk it at all, because, let's face it, he's already got substance abuse problems and he doesn't really need another reason to self-medicate what with the shitty situation his life has fallen into.

Or possibly, it's some amalgamation of all three scenarios. We can smell our own...

Or perhaps he doesnt have confidence making an approach? You overanalyzed and still didnt draw all conclusions.

Not all negative traits someone may possess are caused because of bad experiences or hatred for oneself.

quote:Originally posted by robinhoody:

Or maybe he just has really low self-esteem/no confidence, and can't possibly imagine anyone being interested in him, which leads to a slight paranoia complex whenever the possibility of a romantic relationship is on the horizon.



damn, I know how that feels...

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

Or perhaps he doesnt have confidence making an approach? You overanalyzed and still didnt draw all conclusions. But he's had relationships in the past, so I don't think the approach is the problem quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

Not all negative traits someone may possess are caused because of bad experiences or hatred for oneself.Sorry, I got too caught up analraping myself and lost sight of the original post.

Ohh good point.

quote:Originally posted by robinhoody:

Maybe he's a self-loather who denies himself any sort of pleasure or enjoyment in life, subconsciously sabotaging all of his relationships as punishment for some perceived defect or worthlessness.

Or maybe he just has really low self-esteem/no confidence, and can't possibly imagine anyone being interested in him, which leads to a slight paranoia complex whenever the possibility of a romantic relationship is on the horizon.

Or maybe he's afraid that, based on past relationships (even those that aren't sexual in nature), that he can't possibly maintain a healthy relationship and is afraid that it would only end in one or both parties getting hurt, and it's better to just not risk it at all...

Or possibly, it's some amalgamation of all three scenarios. We can smell our own...

Sounds like me. Any advice?

quote:Originally posted by kurdt318:

damn, I know how that feels...

Likewise.

quote:Originally posted by reject:

Maybe hes got a small penis and is scared that if he does anything sexual then the girl will make fun of him and/or tell other people how small his penis is.



story of my life

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

Anyway, dont make baseless assumptions. Your friend seems to have gotten farther than I have and I am not gay.

Same here, farthest i have ever gotten is to kiss a girl once and im not gay or ugly.

quote:Originally posted by smallpox champion:

Sounds like me. Any advice?Opioids.

Robin man, I gotta say I didn't read any of your post. I read the first line or two and realized it was something real complicated, and at the moment my brain can not focus on many things.

Just so you know.

Man I haven't been this stoned in a long time.

£25 for about 7.5g of GOOD weed?? Man im fuckin' stoked about that deal.

quote:Originally posted by robinhoody:

Maybe he's a self-loather who denies himself any sort of pleasure or enjoyment in life, subconsciously sabotaging all of his relationships as punishment for some perceived defect or worthlessness.

Or maybe he just has really low self-esteem/no confidence, and can't possibly imagine anyone being interested in him, which leads to a slight paranoia complex whenever the possibility of a romantic relationship is on the horizon.

Or maybe he's afraid that, based on past relationships (even those that aren't sexual in nature), that he can't possibly maintain a healthy relationship and is afraid that it would only end in one or both parties getting hurt, and it's better to just not risk it at all

HOW DID YOU KNOW

maybe he loves someone else? I was kind of that way with my neighbor and people thought i was socially retarded, when in reality we had a heavy relationship in secret, you never know

man i miss those days....

You losers emo'd the shit out of this thread.

Best answer: dude has small penis/foreskin (if he lives in the states)/something that deals with his dick that hes embarassed about.

quote:Originally posted by Paramount:

My friend's 19. He's had a few girlfriends, maybe 3/4 different ones, but the "relationship" never lasts longer then a few weeks. The reason it doesn't last is because the he won't do anything at all sexual. He's never even kissed a girl. The most I've ever seen him do is hold hands. This isn't "normal" for a 19 year old guy, right?

Totally fucked up faggot, beyond doubt!!!

Is he gay, or just scared?

quote:Originally posted by reject:

Robin man, I gotta say I didn't read any of your post. I read the first line or two and realized it was something real complicated, and at the moment my brain can not focus on many things.

Just so you know.

Man I haven't been this stoned in a long time.

£25 for about 7.5g of GOOD weed?? Man im fuckin' stoked about that deal.

Weed is cheaper here. 1 ounce = 50 CDN.

quote:Originally posted by InTheShadows00:

maybe he loves someone else? I was kind of that way with my neighbor and people thought i was socially retarded, when in reality we had a heavy relationship in secret, you never know

man i miss those days....

Same thing happened grade 7 and 8 for me, once that shit with the girl i liked was (mostly) over, i slutted out man.

quote:Originally posted by DeuceOmen:

you have never held hands? Are you kidding?

** Deuce Omen

More than likely, shy and gay.