well theres this complicated situation between me and my GF and we broke up the other day (kinda mutual even tho i didnt want it to happen like that).

basically we live almost an hour apart and id see her 3-4 times a week and whenever we were together wed spend a lot of time together. both of us are really busy with schoolwork and family situations and all kinds of stuff so we were missin out on other areas of our lives to be together.

sooo, we broke up (in a kinda bad way) but weve talked since and agreed to be close friends.

i know both of us still have feelings and of course theres a strong attraction.

i think theres the possibility that when our lives are less hectic we could get back together but that could take a while.

whats the best way for me to handle this situation? i want to be w/her but i know it cant happen right now. i know some of u are thinking "dont be freinds with exes" but this is a unique situation.

so ur input?

Talk to her about getting back together in the future. It takes two people to have a relationship, most of the time.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Talk to her about getting back together in the future. It takes two people to have a relationship, most of the time.



how should i bring this up though? just casually when were comin to terms with our relationship, say somethin like "hey maybe when we have less stuff goin on in our lives we could get back together"?

i mean no shit i have to say somethin like that, but that might come off as too direct, or maybe too soon since the breakup.

at what point should i bring up the possibility?

and what should i do in the meantime while we are "just friends" to keep things goin smoothly?

Well, how did you break up? What was bad about it?

Who suggested staying friends?

get away from her before she fucks your best friend and you're crushed emotionally for a long period of time and your entire social network is fucked.

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get away from her before she fucks your best friend and you're crushed emotionally for a long period of time and your entire social network is fucked.

Fucking listen to this poster.

100% correct. Or she'll sleep with your friends in an attempt to get u back... which sounds retarded, but it happens.

Talk to her about it once. Then give her time.

Don't bug her though.

Dude, an hour's drive and you can't make a relationship work? That's pathetic.

Figure out right now if you want her back or if you could find something better.

And who the hell locked the boobies thread?

i dont reallly want to get into how the breakup happened, it would take such a long time to explain. basically we were at a party, she got flirty with another guy, i talked to her about it, we got into an argument, and i ditched the party without givin her a ride (which screwed her over the next day cuz she had work and other stuff and no ride).

she calls me late that nite when i get home, drunk and pissed off, and says its over....

the next day she calls me again and explains how shes sorry and she didnt want it to end like that, and then justifies breaking up with the fact that we live kidna far apart and time commitment is a problem because we both have relaly busy lives (and shes havin problems w/her familiy that she doesnt want to pull me into).

so we agree to put the breakup behind and still keep in touch quite a bit and be good friends.

the thing is i know both of us still have feelings and i dont think getting back together is out of the question.



btw, to you idiots who think shes gonna fuck my best friend, maybe you misseed the part about us living an hour away. we have some mutual friends but she doesn't really know my good friends all that well and frankly the thought of her fucking around with one of them is not a concern.

in any case, i dont want the situation to go too far into the realm of friendship to where we dont have romantic/affectionate feelings for each other. how should i handle this?

Reality Lol.

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Maintain your affection till the day you die?

Hell yes, Play chess!

White and nerdy!

[This message has been edited by TheParkinator (edited 02-15-2007).]

what was she doing that was flirty?

In my experience, the relationship is over. You may still fuck and talk a lot, but the magic will be dead from here on in. Think about finding new people, and don't feel binded to her, because you're not.

It seems to me like she wanted to break up so she'd be free to pursue other guys without you being able to bug her, but wants to stay close friends so she can keep you around as an option, just incase she gets bored with/doesn't work out with whichever guys she's got her eyes on at the moment.

Don't let yourself become the backup boyfriend.

Anyways, goodluck with your situation. I was in the same boat not too long ago (we'll kinda). Then basically she thought I was screwing her over somehow (by being her friend) so she stabbed me in the back. It happens, it sucks, but prepare for the worst.