how long have you known your gf/bf before you asked them out and what all have you done before going out??

..like there's this guy I like..he likes me too, but he hasn't asked me out yet. I thought guys just asked girls out ASAP if they liked them? or do they try to get to know them more first? he's really busy with work and school so he said he's not looking for a relationship right now and he's not gonna be able to give me all the attention I need and that won't be fair for me, basically he said he didn't wanna have a relationship and have that get in the way of his work and not be able to put all his time into it and if he didn't call have the girl all accusing him of doing something behind her back when he's not. He says he likes how it is now where I don't have to worry about him and he doesn't have to worry about me. He calls me every day and everything and when we go out we hold hands and kiss..that's it. Should I just move on or wait?? I mean there's more to the story than this but I don't wanna write all that here cuz it's gonna be really long so ahahha yeah..I need your opinions please? thanks

It doesn't sound like he wants to go with you, just move on.

It depends on what you want. If you're satisfied with things, then it's fine. If you want a defined relationship, then you're going to have to find someone else.

He has told you that he's not going to ask you out. It sounds like he wants a girl in his life, but doesn't want to date or commit.

It could be that he's trying to be considerate, but it sounds more like he just doesn't want a relationship with you. Move on unless you're happy as it is.

as i guy i can honestly say i have been in this guys position on more than one occasion. sometimes it just doesnt feel right. sometimes there are no hidden messages and no secret codes you need to decipher. he just doesnt want a relatioship, but yes he will show affection towards you if you let him, cause guys need to get that from somewhere. you could stay around and wait, but there is no guarentee that when he does come around that he will be looking for a relationship with you.

its hard to just guess what someone truely thinks or feels but in this case most guys are this way, he doesnt want to be tied down to a single girl, yet he wants some of the benefits.

just lay off the holding hands and kissing and see what he does. if it makes him want to do those things anymore then chances are he likes you, and there is some other reason why he wont take the plundge. but if he is cool with it and doesnt really mind you stopped the PDA then just move on

hes probably fucking every chick he can guilt free now before he gets with you and cant do that anymore without worry. he just wants you for the frequent and regulated ass, nothing else. obviously youre an idiot and wont be able to tolerate you too well, but its worth it when he gets to warm and moisten his meatstick in that sweet sweet poon of yours. maybe if you didnt have such a shit personality he would have asked you out already. but since hes going to throw out his pimp card to get exclusive rights to your cumdumpster he wants to make up for the time he will waste with you. then itll really hurt him when he realizes later on that the only reason he even enjoys the sex with you so much isnt because youre that hot or tight or anything, its just because its the only time youre not droning on about pointless bullcrap or embarassing him in front of humanity and gradually lowering his IQ and selfesteem. hopefully he reads this and steers clear altogether.

OR MAYBE HES JUST SHY AND HAS TO WORK UP THE COURAGE that he needs to ask your impatient ass out. why not take the initiative and ask HIM? its the 21st century and thanks to last centuries political leaders pussing out you females have rights and are considered equals now, meaning you are just as much responsible for the delay of events as he is. instead of being a whiney holier than thou bitch here why dont you call him up and do something about your problem>

:\ he would tell me things like "I feel like I could be with you forever" and when I asked him what he looks for in a girl and he said "you..caring, likes to listen, you're always happy..blah blah" he told me he liked me a lot..and eventually he's gonna want a relationship just not right now..he got out of a relationship 2 months before we met. I've only hung out with him twice since I first met him which was in...October since he's always busy.

busy out making sure he has absolutely not chance with any other girl out there before accepting that you are rock bottom and the last resort and might as well take it before he has a sex change, becomes a dyke and sees if that can manage him some pussy that doesnt belong to a retard.

quote:Originally posted by plehem12:

busy out making sure he has absolutely not chance with any other girl out there before accepting that you are rock bottom and the last resort and might as well take it before he has a sex change, becomes a dyke and sees if that can manage him some pussy that doesnt belong to a retard.



lol..damn what is your problem? Is what you're telling me suppose to hurt me or insult me in any way? because it's not, so stop wasting your time. I don't even know why you're getting all bent out of shape about this. You don't even know anything about me or him. Not all guys are like you ok.

i dont have a problem "nigga dont trip". im just giving my indepth opinion on him, you, and the relationship that i came up with based on nothing as i typed. if im horribly in accurate then its your fault for not supplying enough details. but then if thats what happened then that kinda helps back up my current opinion that you are stupid. i think youre stuck here.

quote:Originally posted by Kittie:

...he's really busy with work and school so he said he's not looking for a relationship right now

It sounds to me like there's nothing wrong with him, he just has his priorities down.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

It sounds to me like there's nothing wrong with him, he just has his priorities down.

Basically. I'd say either wait for him or move on, but either way talk to him about it.

quote:Originally posted by plehem12:

i dont have a problem "nigga dont trip". im just giving my indepth opinion on him, you, and the relationship that i came up with based on nothing as i typed. if im horribly in accurate then its your fault for not supplying enough details. but then if thats what happened then that kinda helps back up my current opinion that you are stupid. i think youre stuck here.



Alright well, I know you were just giving your "indepth opinion" and I thank you for that. I asked you about the situation not what you thought about me. But I'm not gonna argue with you, you think what you want, say what you want, I have no control over that. We all respond differently, have different perspectives on different things and there's no wrong answer..apparently you like to just bitch at people and judge without knowing much.

quote: I thought guys just asked girls out ASAP if they liked them?



do you READ S&A?

instead of talking to him about it, use this time you have while youre waiting on him to read one of those how to books to learn how to become a psychic. then instead of posting here which was done instead of talking to him you can just read his mind and finally have a reason to buy one of those genie hats

quote:Originally posted by Kittie:



Alright well, I know you were just giving your "indepth opinion" and I thank you for that. I asked you about the situation not what you thought about me. But I'm not gonna argue with you, you think what you want, say what you want, I have no control over that. We all respond differently, have different perspectives on different things and there's no wrong answer..apparently you like to just bitch at people and judge without knowing much.

im sure you could manage to gain control of what i say, do, and think if you really wanted to. your problem is that you dont believe in yourself enough to do so, immediately write off the thought altogether, and give up. i think you need help. you really shouldnt put down your own self like that and so casual like too. sure some things are very difficult to do. like taking control of my thoughts and acts and beliefs. but if you truly believed that you are able to tackle such a feat then my mind is practically yours already. i think you should see a doctor tomorrow morning and have the doctor run some tests. maybe you have a chemical imbalance or something. its ok girl, youll be alright. its not your fault. a lot of people have chemical imbalances which cause them to realize how worthless they are.

Kittie, plehem is just kidding around, dont reply to him in long drawn out posts. He is quite funny though, especially with the psychic thing

quote:Originally posted by Hecklerkoch777:

Kittie, plehem is just kidding around, dont reply to him in long drawn out posts. He is quite funny though, especially with the psychic thing



I laughed.

quote:Originally posted by Rizzo in a box:

do you READ S&A?

:P quoted for truth

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

It sounds to me like there's nothing wrong with him, he just has his priorities down.

It sounds to me like he can't multi-task.

You're spending time with him... you're intimate with him... your relationship with him is going forwards not backwards.

What does a label matter? I think the only person with a wacky timeframe is you.