My latest girlfriend of two months, who I have been trying to have a slow relationship with, is a tight lip kisser.

She says that she isin't ready.

I think have some type of problem.

In more ways than one.

Hopefully you've realised that one of these problems is your girlfriend making excuses to not kiss you? :/

dam thats a slow moving relationship, dump her buddy.

Just to eliminate possiblities, how long can she hold her breath?

Does she gag easily?

It might be a good idea to let her explore on her terms. So she doesn't freak out and feel pressured for any reason. Because that could freak her out, and you'd be all alone.

quote:Originally posted by Solidus:

your girlfriend making excuses to not kiss you? :/

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

She won't kiss LONGER than two seconds

Maybe she doesn't know how.

Maybe you should enjoy those 2 seconds, and then find something else to do.

Maybe you should graduate middle school before you start dating. Just a thought, ya' know.

I've had similar problems with a girl I've recently started talk with. I kind of understand because I'm only the second guy she has ever kissed. But now things are worked out ten fold.

Just be patient, she will open up to you eventually, metaphorically and literally. *Ba-dum chi*

Sorry.

Anyway, your girl is probably just nervous that maybe she isn't that good at kissing/making out, believe me had a few of those and had them turn out to be crazy nymphos after a couple months. And if you're really that worried, just get some booze/THC/X/whatever flowing through her veins and she will be all about the makings outs. And yes I said "makings outs" on purpose. Why? Not sure, sounded fun in my head.

make your mouth like this

http://tinyurl.com/jaydk and itll go good

There's a lot of reasons fopr that.

1. She may just not like you.

2. She's a bitch.

3. Depending on how many guys she's kissed it could be nervousness.

You gotta decide though, it depends. Is it just a quick peck, or is it a real kis just short.

Somebody else brought up a good point. Are you in middle school? haha.

quote:Originally posted by Rizzo in a box:

Maybe you should graduate middle school before you start dating. Just a thought, ya' know.

Whats the matter, can't stand reading something someone other than you typed?

Think OUTSIDE the box

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

Whats the matter, can't stand reading something someone other than you typed?

Think OUTSIDE the box

But he IS "Rizzo IN a box."



[This message has been edited by Paul Kemp (edited 02-12-2007).]

Its probably because she hasn't had alot of experience, and is self conscious, or you just have something wrong with you. I had the same proble, and it resolved.

Patience.

quote:Originally posted by Paul Kemp:

But he IS "Rizzo IN a box."

*tries to valiantly contain you but is blown back by your sheer hilarity*

I have no idea what any of this rubbish means but I must assure you that in all matters trivial and serious I am completely and totally correct in all assumptions, statements, and postulations.

Oh, so I have to still be in school to be in a relationship with a female who doesn't want to have a fast relationship most likely because she was in a bad one previously but I'm not going to fucking ask about that just yet?

Look, it seems to me you already know the answer then, and you're just here for some validation from the TOTSE community about why you can't man up, tell this girl you're not that last guy, or that you care for her and have NO PROBLEM WITH WAITING FOR HER TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH MAKING OUT, and you are just getting some steam let out.

If you're just letting some steam out, tell us and let this thread die, because then you know what to do and don't need our help.

Oooooor, you have problems with this girl holding back in which case you need to access what this relationship is based on.

Sex/physical things? Not moving fast enough for you, then break it off.

Actual love/happiness/mutual respect for one another? Then take a breathe, drink some booze, smoke some weed, whatever. Just relax and don't worry about it. Enjoy the high that is true or at least imitated true love. That one is pretty common these days.

Stop dating 11 year olds :\

What a bitch.

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

Oh, so I have to still be in school to be in a relationship with a female who doesn't want to have a fast relationship most likely because she was in a bad one previously but I'm not going to fucking ask about that just yet?



Yeah, actually. kissing doesnt mean shit in the adult world. Some adults are conservative and wont kiss random strangers. But after two months of dating, and you still only get quick pecks, she's not interested.

If an adult woman was in a bad relationship, and maybe her partner abused her or raped her or made her feel ashamed sexually, I could understand taking sex things slowly. And theres nothing wrong with taking sex slowly, not at all. Hell...I can even understand not kissing on the first two or three dates.

But stop trying to make up bullshit rationalizations. Either you're still in middle school, or she totally doesnt want you.

i had the same problem and it wen ton for six months. heres what i did: got a new girlfriend and im much happier now.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:



Yeah, actually. kissing doesnt mean shit in the adult world. Some adults are conservative and wont kiss random strangers. But after two months of dating, and you still only get quick pecks, she's not interested.

If an adult woman was in a bad relationship, and maybe her partner abused her or raped her or made her feel ashamed sexually, I could understand taking sex things slowly. And theres nothing wrong with taking sex slowly, not at all. Hell...I can even understand not kissing on the first two or three dates.

But stop trying to make up bullshit rationalizations. Either you're still in middle school, or she totally doesnt want you.

This coming from someone who I am sure has assessed every possibility in the world of infinite possibilities about what anything means to anything not restricted to a kiss, on what two people in the infinity of infinite outcomes could have mean to them, including the infinite possibilities of the past experiences of the person. So you know all THAT, and form assessing all possibilities and infinite outcomes have assessed my age?

SnA has definitley been filling up with more asses lately...

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

SnA has definitley been filling up with more asses lately...

Sorry, I think I maybe being too successfully by attracting others. I've had my license for a while now.

quote:Originally posted by eye.luv.the.9ds:

i had the same problem and it wen ton for six months. heres what i did: got a new girlfriend and im much happier now.

The OP needs to read this statement many times over, and very carefully.

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

This coming from someone who I am sure has assessed every possibility in the world of infinite possibilities about what anything means to anything not restricted to a kiss, on what two people in the infinity of infinite outcomes could have mean to them, including the infinite possibilities of the past experiences of the person. So you know all THAT, and form assessing all possibilities and infinite outcomes have assessed my age?





You're right. Maybe I havent considered all the possibilities. Maybe she was kiss-raped again and again. We all know how traumatic an unwanted kiss can be. Poor girl.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:



You're right. Maybe I havent considered all the possibilities. Maybe she was kiss-raped again and again. We all know how traumatic an unwanted kiss can be. Poor girl.

You didn't even get the point.

No that wasn't the point.

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

You didn't even get the point.

No that wasn't the point.



The point is, you're inventing worst case scenarios in your mind because you dont want to believe that theres a chance that she really isnt interested.

Remember Occums Razor?

Sounds like she has intimacy issues. Does she have any history of abuse/broken home?

Maybe she doesn't have teeth.