Okay, I'm currently eighteen right now and I have never had a girlfriend or been in a serious relationship in my entire life. I'm so sick and tired of being single. Every day I wake up feeling so empty and alone, I fucking hate it.

Now I don't think of myself as being a total loser, because I have probably made out with a little over twenty girls, had sex with one, and oral with two. I think I am at least fairly attractive to the opposite sex because there have been quite a few pretty hot girls that have had a crush on me in the past, or that have tried to pick up on me at parties. I have a little bit of trouble talking to girls sober. I prefer to be under the influence of something so that I can gain a higher sense of self-esteem and confidence. Once I'm drunk, high, rolling etc.......approaching girls, starting a good conversation, and getting numbers is no problem for me. The same probably goes for most people as well.

Most of the time when I meet girls, it never goes any further than the night I meet them. Sometimes it does, but even that won't even last for more than a week. Every time I meet girl and start making out with her or whatever, I always think everythings rolling by so smoothly, but I always fuck it up in some way or another. I either end up saying something stupid, do something stupid, come off boring, some bullshit always happens that I end up scaring the girl away or something. I'm also sick of girls leading me on at parties by making out with me, telling me I'm cute or whatever, and never talking to me again. I probably sound like a pussy but that shit really gets to me and it hurts like hell. I don't understand why girls do that for. I guess it has to do with them being intoxicated as well, but still that shit happens to fucking much. I just don't know what my fucking problem is. Sometimes I get so fucking desperate and depressed to the point where I have even let a guy suck my cock. And NO, I'm not gay, bi, or confused about my sexuality. I really like girls alot. I could never see myself kissing, fucking, or being in a relationship with a guy. I think maybe I might come off as clingy and desperate most of the time. I think that might be one of my problems. Or maybe I just seem like a boring ass person or something. I don't think I come off too nice or too cocky. I just don't get it. I think I would be a good guy to be with. I like to party, have a good laugh, listen to music, and go out and have a good time just as anybody else does. Please somebody give me some fucking advice before I go insane!

[This message has been edited by NaRcO (edited 02-12-2007).]

You're eighteen for fucks sake!!

You're not meant to have seen the world or fucked it yet! It's not exactly a big deal to be a virgin at that age, nor is it 'lame' to not have had a girlfriend.



I really hate how young people now seem to feel it's of vital importance to be coupled up and cherry free simply because they feel it's expected of them.



Give it time. You'll meet someone you'll fall for and who will fall for you at the most unexpected time.

quote: WHAT'S MY GOD DAMN FUCKING PROBLEM?

AN OVERUSE OF CAPS LOCK!!!!!!!

I'm not a virgin. I know what your saying but I just can't help feeling so lonely and depressed over the matter. I guess It's some what part of our human biological make up to feel a need to be with the opposite sex.

[This message has been edited by NaRcO (edited 02-12-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

AN OVERUSE OF CAPS LOCK!!!!!!!

*chuckles*

Come on this isn't a joke. I'm being serious I need some good advice.

Why do you want a girlfriend? What makes it so important do you?

Was yr mommy never there for you?

Well why would anybody want a girlfriend/boyfriend? I don't know fuck. I am human you know. I just get so lonely it kills me inside.

For fucks sake, I can smell the desperation from here so I'm pretty sure any girl is going to sense it immediately... losing your game when sobriety sets in sounds about right.

You complain that a girl who "makes out" with you at a party for the sake of it hurts you... FAG!

Live your life, learn from your experiences, play everything by ear and stop fucking complaining.

Maybe it seems like the rest of the world gets everything on a silver platter, but it's not true.

Dont eat yellow snow, stay in school, kiss my ass and have a nice day.

Yeah. You know, the thing is, you'll start talking to girls, and they'll like you, and then it will feel worse.

Because instead of never having it, you will have had it then lost it. Repeatedly.

It's not a fucking fairytale, and it's not worth the thought and worry you're putting into it.

you're not gay/bi/curious but you let a guy suck u off? now that doesn't sound right...

Well that mother fucker was begging for it and I was also drunk at the time, so I guess I just didn't care. I know It might sound pathetic, but oh well fuck it. I'm still comfortable with my sexuality. Besides there's no way I was going to suck his dick.

IM YOUR FUCKING PROBLEM BITCH

quote:Originally posted by NaRcO:

Well that mother fucker was begging for it and I was also drunk at the time, so I guess I just didn't care. I know It might sound pathetic, but oh well fuck it. I'm still comfortable with my sexuality. Besides there's no way I was going to suck his dick.

Fair enough...

Just enjoy the time that you do get spend flirting and making out with chicks at parties without any kind of regard for where it goes from there. That's more than alot of other eighteen year old guys get.

You're problem is most likely that you come off so clingy and desperate. Quit worrying about not being good enough for a chick and start wondering if she is good enough for you. You don't want to have a girlfriend just for the status, you want to actually have mutual feelings for eachother and all that stuff.

Just try to have fun: party, socialize. Get into a habit of talking to girls more when you haven't been drinking or doing drugs.

Yeah, your right, talking to girls sober is something I definitely need to work on more. I shouldn't depend on drugs and alcohol to maintain a good sense of self-esteem.

[This message has been edited by NaRcO (edited 02-12-2007).]

If you want things to happen with a girl after you make out with her at a party... forget about it. Any girl you make out with is ONLY there for that specific reason - making out with you. Except for maybe the rare case where she realizes she likes you afterwards, but then she probably won't say anything because she thinks you're only there to make out with her.

If you want to have a relationship, don't try and start it off by making out. If you get a number at a party, leave it at that for the time being, then call a few days later, maybe something will happen. The reason we make out with guys at parties is because it's fun, and you don't have to worry about any attachment/commitment, because you won't see them again. If you're looking for something serious, you could talk to people from your classes, strike up conversations in the laundry room (if you live in res), go to a coffee shop with a friend and pick up the tab for a couple of girls there, things like that. Drunk usually doesn't get you very far unless you just want to fool around.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

You're eighteen for fucks sake!!

You're not meant to have seen the world or fucked it yet!.

On the contrary. My brother lost his virginity at 17, 18 he fucked somewhere around 15+ girls.



Back to the topic. Don't worry. I totally understand what you're going through. It's really a bitch.

Just go out there a find one, it's pretty simple. I have to get fucked up to to get the confidence to talk to girls. Just get those numbers and call em up.

There may be one other thing, maybe you really don't want a relationship. I thought I did for a long while thanm woke up one day and realized I just wanted the company. Just call some of those chicks, maybe hook up with a few. Keep em around. Fuck buddies man, you can actually be buddies with a fuck buddy.

Girls who want serious relationships are generally not found drunk at parties offering their services..

I too have learn this through experience:/ (last time I ever make out with a fat chick>=()

I think the thought that I can die at any given moment by some freak accident, and never have experienced true love is VERY SCARY. But I guess the best route is to not worry so much, relax and enjoy life, and be patient.

Sometimes good people have bad luck...especially in the romance department.

Don't make a girlfriend out to be the key to your happiness.

Someday one of the girls who finds you attractive enough to make out with you will love your personality too. Relationships are trial and error; you just have to wait for it to happen.

There have been girls that have really truly liked me, but I some how always tend to fuck things up and scare them away. I just have to try to keep it cool and try to be myself more. It's so hard meeting the right girl.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

AN OVERUSE OF CAPS LOCK!!!!!!!

WHAT DID YOU HAVE FOR DINNER LAST NIGHT!!!???

quote:Originally posted by Leduc:

You're problem is most likely that you come off so clingy and desperate. Quit worrying about not being good enough for a chick and start wondering if she is good enough for you.

Seriously. If they think/know you're desperate, they're going to run for it. And for God's sake dude, you're not going to meet someone who wants to have a long-term relationship at a drug/alcohol filled party! If you haven't figured that out, you're doomed to a life of celibacy.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:



I too have learn this through experience:/ (last time I ever make out with a fat chick>=()

Damnit...

I get my hopes up way too fuckin much. I need to chill out.

I have the same sort of problem to a lesser extent. It bugs me, but I deal with it. I think it's partly because I have such high fucking standards. It's starting to get to the point where I can't stand women any more. Oh well. You'll find someone some day, just chill.

Oh, and do a lot of drugs on Valentine's day.

quote:Originally posted by Bazzle:

WHAT DID YOU HAVE FOR DINNER LAST NIGHT!!!???



Transparent strips of beef fillet, stirfried in spices and served with a garlic greek jughourt in pitta bread.

Whysies?

CAPS LOCK IS CRUISE CONTROL FOR COOL

I think it would be hot as fuck if a pretty girl was desperate for me. So why do girls truly hate when guys are desperate?

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quote:Originally posted by NaRcO:

I think it would be hot as fuck if a pretty girl was desperate for me. So why do girls truly hate when guys are desperate?



It doesn't make them feel special to be propositioned by a guy who would proposition alot of other people.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

It doesn't make them feel special to be propositioned by a guy who would proposition alot of other people.

That sounds a bit confusing. Can you clarify what your saying.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

Damnit...

You don't look fat in the pictures I've seen.

This world is about making money so do that!

quote:Originally posted by NaRcO:

That sounds a bit confusing. Can you clarify what your saying.

Would you feel that great having a girl who has liked/been with alot of guys and tries to get with you really quickly?

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

You're eighteen for fucks sake!!

You're not meant to have seen the world or fucked it yet! It's not exactly a big deal to be a virgin at that age, nor is it 'lame' to not have had a girlfriend.

Um, I've seen the world, had a girlfriend, fucked, am finacially stable, have a steady career, (in a respectable position mind you), getting ready to go to college, live on my own, and I'm only 19 years old. (Without my Mommy or Daddy's help or support)

I believe you vastly underestimate us youngsters.

Okay I get you now.