So i've been with my g/f for a while now and being with her is amazing. As much as she loves being with me also, she can't cum. She's really into clitoral stimulation and virtually has no gspot. When I finger her or go down on her, her entire body will go crazy. Her muscles will spasm and she'll go nuts, but that just builds up until she has to tell me to stop b/c it hurts so bad. She can never go over the top of that and have that release of an orgasm. She's never been able to make herself orgasm either. Her best friend told her it took her two years before she had her first orgasm. So to any chicks that may have had difficulty and have overcome it, what worked for you?

Every woman has a g-spot. Either continue going for the clitoral stimulation or try again to search for the g-spot.

Men can be pretty rough on the clit. Keep that in mind.

Also, try to communicate more with her about it. While you are going down on her, ask her to rate the sensation on a 1-10 scale, until you know what she likes.

buy a vibrator



but ya my ex had that problem, like many nights of just trying to get her to failed

even she had trouble doing it to herself

have her start masterbating and she will figure out what works

it's definitely an idea to get her to try to have an orgasm by herself. then you can narrow it down to a physical or emotional issue.

i can have an orgasm fine by myself, but am yet to have one with a guy (even though they do EVERYTHING right on)

Some women just can't. Be lucky they don't start crying on you. I my girlfriend does it all the time, she can't orgasm with another person. She can by herself and managed one during anal while she rubbed her clit but that's it. The girl I was just with(I'm in an open relationshp) also started crying... it was weird. I had made her orgasm with my fingers earlier but she cried, twice. I find the cryig kinda hot though.

max foreplay/teasing = the answer

inless shes just one of those women who can't O, which would be really sad to hear.

chances are you're going directly on the clit too much or there hasn't been enough build up. build up is most likely the problem though. figure out what turns her on, and do it.

Could be a whole bunch of things...

You'd be amazed at what a little alcohol/pot (if she's into that) can do. Sometimes it's a mental thing, where you can't release.

2: Slow your ass down and take your time. Sometimes this helps also.

-Dust

see weve pretty much done what the majority of these posts say. we can build up for an hour and she can get close , but then have me stop. if i go for the gspot, shell just tell me to stop b/c she swears she doesnt have one(which i think is crap b/c all girls do). i think the closest weve gotten is anal while rubbing the clit, but even then, its like going down on her. She gets so fired up and going crazy, but just cant seem to finish. Even with the vibrator, she loves it, but just has to stop eventually. I think i picked one that just cant cum :-/

Let her ride on top and make her grind her clit up and down your shaft without sticking it in... then stick it in slowly when she gets really worked up and on the verge of a climax. and when she is cumming pound away. always works.



quote:Originally posted by couldbecrazy04:

So i've been with my g/f for a while now and being with her is amazing. As much as she loves being with me also, she can't cum. She's really into clitoral stimulation and virtually has no gspot. When I finger her or go down on her, her entire body will go crazy. Her muscles will spasm and she'll go nuts, but that just builds up until she has to tell me to stop b/c it hurts so bad. She can never go over the top of that and have that release of an orgasm. She's never been able to make herself orgasm either. Her best friend told her it took her two years before she had her first orgasm. So to any chicks that may have had difficulty and have overcome it, what worked for you?

When my ex found it hard to cum, I would let her watch me masturbate for a while- it would drive her crazy. Then a few licks, sucks and rubs, a few minutes later shes O'ing all over the show.

quote:Originally posted by y4m4:

Some women just can't. Be lucky they don't start crying on you. I my girlfriend does it all the time, she can't orgasm with another person. She can by herself and managed one during anal while she rubbed her clit but that's it. The girl I was just with(I'm in an open relationshp) also started crying... it was weird. I had made her orgasm with my fingers earlier but she cried, twice. I find the cryig kinda hot though.

if you find crying hot then why do you bother putting all that effort by getting her to orgasm to do it when you could just punch her in the face or kill one of her close friends or relatives. lets not make things more difficult than we have to

Maybe you're both trying too hard?

quote:Originally posted by Aspera:

Let her ride on top and make her grind her clit up and down your shaft without sticking it in... then stick it in slowly when she gets really worked up and on the verge of a climax. and when she is cumming pound away. always works.

How do you "make her..."? :P

That doesn't work for all girls. He could try it though.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

How do you "make her..."? :P

That doesn't work for all girls. He could try it though.



By asking.

"Hey, I've thought of something new we could try, you know, just for fun"