why cant i seem to call a girl? i dont know why, im just being a total pussy about this...fuck! i dont know...just kinda depressed cuz i cant do this, i just get too fucking nervous...comments? advice? i dunno

-Kman101

I know exactly what you mean.

Youre stuck between pushing for more and ruining things forever.

Get to know her better.

Then, you'll know if its OK to ask questions like that.

If you already know her well, then I'd say to be careful, and consider what you're risking.

All human reactions are dictated by fear.

What you fear is the controllable aspect.

I'll give you a hint. Fear not getting with her. At all.

Look, grow some balls. Shes only a girl. Big whoop, believe it or not, they'll be a million other ones. You fuck up, no big deal.

My advice is man up, and get on that fucking phone, and call her! Hell take a shot of whiskey or smoke before you do it, and before the tobaccah wears off, or w/e the fuck calms smokers, call her!

One day this piece of advice will haunt me, probably the day I realize I can still love someone...

But luckily we're dealin with your problems and not mine!

CALL HER!

NOW!!!



[This message has been edited by DesertRebel (edited 02-11-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by stab:

All human reactions are dictated by fear.

What you fear is the controllable aspect.

I'll give you a hint. Fear not getting with her. At all.

I feared losing her more than I feared looking ridiculous. So I called. And I am so. fucking. glad I did.

Get this, your both afraid of sucess and failure. It's tough to break out of, the way to do it is to just fuck it and call spontaneously. Or... One that used to work well for me, get a buddy round and start making jokes or whatever makes you laugh hard. This puts you in a really nice state of mind. That's when you call.

"I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.

Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.

I will face my fear.

I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.

Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.

Only I will remain."

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

Originally posted by stab:

All human reactions are dictated by fear.

What you fear is the controllable aspect.

I'll give you a hint. Fear not getting with her. At all.

I feared losing her more than I feared looking ridiculous. So I called. And I am so. fucking. glad I did.

I have the same thing too. But there is one thing. Im not sure of her intetnions toward me. If I push too hard I will loose her. If too little I will loose her. Now, just gotta figure out what the heck am I supposed to do now

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

"I must not fear.

Fear is the mind-killer.



Haha, must try that. If it helped young Paul, it might just help me...

[This message has been edited by LiquidIce (edited 02-11-2007).]

Did he ever call her? I want results!

quote:Originally posted by DesertRebel:

Did he ever call her? I want results!

not yet

I have the same problem. Im a MMA fighter, yet im terrified of speaking to girls when I like them. Heres what i've read about the unreasonable fear that comes with talking to girls.

Primates live in small groups, mostly 30 to 40 in a pack or whatever they call a group of chimps. Having such a limited amount of females around you really had to be careful who you got with. Because if you fucked up and got with one that the alpha male had his eye on or had his way with already, him or his friends were going to come fuck you up. So it really is a deep seated fear thats buried in the very heart of your gentics. Men who are sucessful with women are confident, alpha male-ish or alpha male and they dont worry about offending anyone.