This has been a problem for quite some time.. probably about 5 months now, and I think its time I ask about it.

As the title implies, about 5 months ago I found myself with seemingly no sex drive. Me and my wife were married March 15th, and like all newly weds, the first 3-4 weeks were constant fucking. I've noticed, more and more its Angela asking ME for sex, not the other way around.

I'm not cheating, I'm not even masturbating on the side. I've just noticed I'll go 2/3 weeks with no sex or orgasm and feel just fine about it. It occasionally gets so bad we'll shag just so I'll stop having to hear, "Matt? I was wondering if later tonight..."

From her pics, my wife LOOKS young and cutesy. Scratch this idea immediently, she behaves like a fucking BEAST in bed, and I honestly don't know why. She was a virgin before we got together, and I've never heard of a girl so young (19) wanting to try all these absolutely fucked up little ideas in bed.

Getting back on topic, is it normal for someone whos 24 to experience loss of sex drive?

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When I was 15 or 16, I noticed a lump on one of my ballz. I found it in showering, but didn't think anything of it. When I was 17, it was still there, so an ultrasound was done and they just simply said, "Its filled with liquid, nothing to worry about".

I've also, around that same time, developed a sort of "comes and goes" insomnia, if anyones had similar problems.

So.. in closing, any suggestions of cranking the old horny engine back up?

I had a low sex drive about a year and a half ago when I was depressed.

It came back as I got over my depression.

Are you depressed about something?

You think that's bad? My new smoking habit has caused me to lose some of my erection hardness. So now when I WANT to have sex, my cock is unwilling!

It's bad enough to make a man consider quitting. I expected cancer, emphysema, yellow teeth... but not this.

quote:Originally posted by mindh4X0rz:

I had a low sex drive about a year and a half ago when I was depressed.

It came back as I got over my depression.

Are you depressed about something?

EXTREMELY depressed over the present state of my teeth, which is, horrible.

Haha, that might be it. Maybe you don't feel attractive so you don't feel like having sex.

But I don't know.

I don't know about you, but I don't want a liquid filled lump anywhere on my body where it wouldn't have grown naturally.

Shit like that can turn into something else years down the road, or in your case, change your lifestyle (slowing sex drive).

You could always try to slab Kayla. Haha, j/k.

Maybe you're gay.

I've been with a girl for about a month now...and all we do is fuck whenever we get together....2-3 times a week....2-5 times a night/day....

sometimes I don't want to...sometimes I just wantto sleep...like between classes...but damnit, if she starts kissing me I can't resist her....maybe you're just not attracted to her...even though you think you are.

Can't believe no one's said it yet... man up, grow up, and go to the doctor.

Your problem? You're actually a girl with a penis.

This is usually a problem experienced by older men

Mate, I don't think it's anything to worry about. It's just one of those things that happens for no reason. Explain to your girl that your sex drive is near nothing, and you don't know why.

You two will work around it somehow, you'll find a way. That's why you're a couple. It doesn't mean you have to change, to try to have a higher sex drive. If that's how it is, roll with it for now.

I don't doubt that it will end.

If you want it to end NOW, try new things. Simple as that.

The lump? Not even something to worry about. My left testicle has a lump, a really fucked up one. It's been there for a long time, but hasn't affected my sex life at all and given me no problems.

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Don't worry about it, my sex drive is hardly anything at the minute, when i look at porn i dont get the slightest aroused at all, i'm not finding the other sex attractive at the minute, unless shes dressed like a pure slut, but other than that, it just doesn't do it for me anymore.

Perfectly normal. Chances are that it isn't anything physical.

You as a man are now over your sexual peak (sorry but its true). From here on in its downhill all the way

The time when you had an erection 24/7 are gone.

Assuming your're fit and healthy then sex about 3/4 times a week would be normal for your age.

However as you indicate that you don't even make that then I'm guessing your getting hit by th eresponsibilty of being a husband. Things like working a crummy job to put yourselves through college can kill your sex drive after a few months.



You ommited to mention what else is going on in your lives at the moment.

Anyways best wishes as ever to the both of yous.

ps Don't worry, after you finally do your duty and give her a baby then you'll never have to worry about having sex again...trust me on this :P

why dont you try getting out of town with you wife. maybe getting away from the stresses in your life will let you relax so you can enjoy the pleasures of your wife again. plus its always nice to get get away like a vacation.

~gecko

P.S if your not in the mood for sex then just explain to her that you could cuddle instead. or just satisfy her through oral or something.

The idea of not wanting sex baffles me.

As a young guy I'd choose sex over the air that I breathe.

It's quite possible you're no longer attracted to her.

Ok, I recently got so pissed at my fucking succubus of an ex that i just didnt think about it anymore.. Stopped masturbating, and just started drinking and hanging out with friends.. I was mainly so void of emotion that it wasnt important to me. Of course.that lasted like.. a week :P Then I went to the local bar with a few girl friends, bump and grind em on the dance floor and im the horn dog i once was. But i dunno.. depressed maybe? Maybe its getting too routine for you? try anal? lol, sorry if this speel didnt help any.

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

She was a virgin before we got together,

Riiiiiight...

Anyway, I have 2 theories:

1. Maybe your testosterone is low or something. Get your hormones checked. Also start working out if you haven't already. It will increase your sex drive. You need to start pumping some iron anyway, judging by the pics you've posted in RY.

2. You're getting bored with her, just like I said would happen when you first posted about getting married.

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Well...besides the cosmetic factor, germies growing in poor teeth likely affect your whole health level. Dig?

You getting a decent passle of vittals in to your gut, thar boy? Omega-3s & Vitamins C&D?

quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

Riiiiiight...

Anyway, I have 2 theories:

1. Maybe your testosterone is low or something. Get your hormones checked. Also start working out if you haven't already. It will increase your sex drive. You need to start pumping some iron anyway, judging by the pics you've posted in RY.

2. You're getting bored with her, just like I said would happen when you first posted about getting married.



No mate, you've got it all wrong. I'm extremely attracted to her, haven't been bored with her for 3 seconds. I believe I'm just bored with SEX in and of itself.. I don't think theres anything sexual I HAVEN'T done.

Hmmm... Man, im sorry to hear that from ya. Cant really imagine getting bored with sex :S Maybe try in different locations? Maybe risk of getting seen will help? Good luck.

I don't know if you've found it but being around my own things with all their 'usuallness' is kind of a bring down. Sure, it's comforting to be home with your shit?

It's also a bringdown. You've got to do stuff with your stuff. Clean it. Replace it. Move it. Think about it. That takes energy. You live in the country, how far to do you have to go out your door to find stuff you mostly don't give a damn about?

Isn't it a relief? Any local areas where you could spend a couple/three hours hiking & find a spot for a picnic & a place to sex-it if the mood struck?

Just some hiking to get you pumped but not enough to wear your out. I'm a Northuner, suh & have a paranoid about bugs 'n snakes in warmer climes? I know they're not everywhere, but I guess you know your area. If the weather gets passable & you just need an hour or three away from home? Why waste money on a motel? Maybe you've even got places you can walk from home to...

You know if standing up is any good for you two? Some types of underbrush have strong & bare multi-angled branches...

Do you have a half decent tent & foam mat, if the idea is any good? Heck, maybe you've got places you could just drive to that are quiet enough. If I get outside in town here if I walk 5 minutes I'm half-pumped & by 45 mins I'm a new man! Is a Kudzu forest quiet enough? Creepy enough?

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

I've never heard of a girl so young (19) wanting to try all these absolutely fucked up little ideas in bed.

do tell

quote:Originally posted by fullcircle:

do tell

I second that

See a dietician (read; healthy food, not less) and get more exercise.

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

I don't think theres anything sexual I HAVEN'T done.

Have you ever given a reach around to a spider money while reciting the pledge of allegiance?

quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

1. Maybe your testosterone is low or something. Get your hormones checked. Also start working out if you haven't already.

Couldn't agree more. Get your T-level checked. If you're lucky you might be able to do steroid legally.

all ya hav to fuckin do is go on porn BUT DONT WACK OFF keep lookin at porn hopfully youll get a boner keep doin dis until you feel like fuckin a girl on your own and mak her do lap dances for you just tell her it will help you regain your hornyess then wen you fell like fucking her make sure to do som positions dat will mak you do a very big load den youll be cured

You're coming here to ask about such things? The majority of people here are too young to even have a clue. Go see a doctor.

That said...

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

No mate, you've got it all wrong. I'm extremely attracted to her, haven't been bored with her for 3 seconds. I believe I'm just bored with SEX in and of itself.. I don't think theres anything sexual I HAVEN'T done.

What else are you bored with?

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

I've just noticed I'll go 2/3 weeks with no sex or orgasm and feel just fine about it. It occasionally gets so bad we'll shag just so I'll stop having to hear, "Matt? I was wondering if later tonight..."

Shag? Where are you from again?

How do you feel after an obligatory shag?



quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:



From her pics, my wife LOOKS young and cutesy. Scratch this idea immediently, she behaves like a fucking BEAST in bed, and I honestly don't know why. She was a virgin before we got together, and I've never heard of a girl so young (19) wanting to try all these absolutely fucked up little ideas in bed.

Could it be that now that she's no longer a virgin and is displaying a certain kinkyness that you miss that prior virginal state she once had?

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:



Getting back on topic, is it normal for someone whos 24 to experience loss of sex drive?

Again. Talk to a doctor.

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

No mate, you've got it all wrong. I'm extremely attracted to her, haven't been bored with her for 3 seconds. I believe I'm just bored with SEX in and of itself.. I don't think theres anything sexual I HAVEN'T done.

There's ALWAYS stuff you haven't done...And anyway, how can you be bored with sex in the first place?? I would suggest seeing a urologist or a shrink, because at your age...You should still want to get it on a lot. My husband is 31 and he is still constantly horny. I think most guys maintain a massive sex drive until they are like 40 or 50, but I could be wrong.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:



ps Don't worry, after you finally do your duty and give her a baby then you'll never have to worry about having sex again...trust me on this :P

Vamp and Ange aren't planning on having children if I remember correctly. This might have changed though, I'm not sure. I think He might be stuck doing his husbandly duties for the rest of his life. So you better man up and see a doctor Vamp. Because it'll turn into a cycle, first you have no sex drive, then you worry about having no sex drive, not being able to quell Ange's sexual desires, this will in turn adversly affect your sex drive... Can't you just see how it goes on and on!?!

Even I'm starting to get a little worried...

About 6 months ago I found a lump on my ball, although mine is accompanied by pains =.=.



You should get it checked again, it still might have devolved into something else seeing as how it was left as is

quote:Originally posted by bloodenangel:

Vamp and Ange aren't planning on having children if I remember correctly.

But... they have to continue the reproduction of the glorious white race!

quote:Originally posted by mr.pothead:

all ya hav to fuckin do is go on porn BUT DONT WACK OFF keep lookin at porn hopfully youll get a boner keep doin dis until you feel like fuckin a girl on your own and mak her do lap dances for you just tell her it will help you regain your hornyess then wen you fell like fucking her make sure to do som positions dat will mak you do a very big load den youll be cured

*punches you in the balls*

*toe-kicks you back in the balls while you're down*

No reproduction for you kthx.

quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

But... they have to continue the reproduction of the glorious white race!

Ah but this is the thing: Of course I want to put the White race above all others, HOWEVER, there are millions of white women having babies, we're not going to go extinct just because me and Angela don't want kids, and if we DID, we were in fucked up shape to begin with.

Besides.. I have a genetic disorder I don't want passed.

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:



Besides.. I have a genetic disorder I don't want passed.

I forgot about that, sorry.

I dont know.. maybe some inner part of yourself gets freaked out that she asks for sex?

I know some guys prefer very submissive girls so maybe your penis shrivvels in fear if she's very dominant?

I dont know.



Stress, not liking how you look, more stress and feeling ugly can really really fuck up a persons sex drive.

Post pics of your wife if you want a real answer...

It happens.

Things such as:

- Depression

- Lack of sleep

- Change in diet/eating

- Abuse of drugs

- Alcoholism

- Stress

Maybe if you look at those ideas and go from there to figure out what may be wrong.

Care to share more or do you not apply do any of those?

Maybe because you're settling down in your marriage that you have come to the realization that you're going to be with this woman forever... which'll build lots of stress, even though you may love the person, but kill the sex drive.

Any ideas?

quote:Originally posted by Grab:

Maybe because you're settling down in your marriage that you have come to the realization that you're going to be with this woman forever... which'll build lots of stress, even though you may love the person, but kill the sex drive.

Ouch.

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My fiancee's depression medications have really fucked with our sex life. He was always a horny bastard, but it's been a while since he's been begging. I hate those drugs..

But I know that the last time I was pregnant I was rarely in the mood. Sexual frustration must have set in quickly. It's a good thing that I'm not in the mood as often now..

We've both been content with very little sex..

I'd see a doctor about your problem. It could be a number of various things listed above.. But get it checked out. You have a wild woman to keep satisfied.

vamp? Maybe try to pleasure her orally so you can help fuel your sex drive without weakening it and satisfy her? Toys?

quote:Originally posted by TruthWielder:

Toys?

Check!

Take some viagra you stupid old fuck.

quote:Originally posted by jesus is my homeboy:

Take some viagra you stupid old fuck.

I don't think E.D. is the main problem so if he did that he'll just be chilling out watchin tv with a mean hard on and still not wanting sex, am I right? I don't know viagra...

Some people just don't have huge sex drives. I'm in a similar situation--my girlfriend often wants to have sex more than I do. I'm not too concerned about it, and I doubt you should be either. It'll either come back after a while (in which case whatever), or it won't (in which case you can adapt).

For me, at least, it's not that I dislike sex, or that I have ED--when I do have sex it is quite nice, and I can "perform" just fine--it's that I often have more interesting things to do with my time. To each his own.



Entheogenic

Is it true that males will hit another sexual peak around age 60? obviously it wouldn't be the same as when I was 18, but I'm just curious...

I personally find the idea of an extinct sex drive to be not only depressing, but disturbing. I realize that not all guys feel like this, but I'm pretty sure that vampire does. Maybe adaptation isn't the best answer.

off topic

quote:Originally posted by Vampire Archimiel:

Besides.. I have a genetic disorder I don't want passed.

I'm in the same boat, the guilt would eat me alive.