So theres this girl at my school, lets call her Chloe. We've been talking for the last few years, a bit of flirting, but nothing more than that. As of lately, I've developed feelings for her, sort of like a storgic thing.

Anyways, she once inadvertently told me that she liked me, but as of late she says she doesn't like me 'that way'. But at the same time, she says I should 'check her out' more often. Its like she doesn't care that I like her sexually, but to like her as a PERSON... god forbid. I'm fucking confused. Does she like me or not? Would she get pissed if I went for it?

Help? I know its disasterous asking &T for help, but you guys seem to have the answers most of the time. And the flames.

Basically the same as the friend trap.

Same solution.

Get drunk together and let things do their own thing. And talk about it in the morning.

You're rather dumb, aren't you eh? I bet you wonder why she doesn't wanna do you when all you do is act the nice guy act...

Enjoy being fuckless.

quote:Originally posted by slim-ov-derby:

Get drunk together and let things do their own thing. And talk about it in the morning.

I was thinking that. Good 'ol alcohol, always there to take the blame if it goes wrong

What the hell is the 'nice guy act'? I thought it was holding doors open for her, telling her shes beautiful, being there for her with open arms, spend all of my time with her, etc.

I do none. It's not like I have a vagina, Gus.

She doesn't want to be with you, but she enjoys your attention.

Move on.

She just wants your dick. Can you deny her that?

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



She doesn't want to be with you, but she enjoys your attention.

Probably true. She used to go out of her way to talk and be with me, but ever since the storgic transformation, its been the other way around I guess. I WOULD try to do minimal contant and reappear as a 'new person' with better appeal, but I would rather have her as a friend than not at all. Sucks.

If I understand this right, sounds like you have one hell of an attention whore on your hands dude, not interested in you, but in you looking at her all the time.

Look on the bright side, at least she's not disgusted...

So is an attention whore worth persuing? I like her. A lot. But if it will almost certainly end up shitty, I can live with letting it go.

"No matter how intensely reciprocation is desired it cannot simply be asked for. To ask is to risk premature self-disclosure. The interplay is delicate, with the reactions of each person inextricably bound to the behavior of the other. Progression toward ecstatic mutuality may not involve externally created difficulties but feinting and parrying, minor deceptions, and falsehoods. The uncertainty required by the limerent reaction may often be merely a matter of perception.

Despite ideals and philosophy, a process begins that bears unquestionable similarity to a game. The prize is not trifling: reciprocation produces ecstasy. Whether it will be won, whether it will be shared, and what the final outcome may be depends on the effectiveness of actions and those of the limerent object; indeed on skill. Deviations from straightforward honesty become essential limerent strategies.

Fears lead to proceeding with a caution that will hopefully protect from disaster. Reason to hope combined with reason to doubt keeps passion at fever pitch and too-ready limerent availability cools. Open declaration of true feelings may stop the process. Limerent uncertainty as well as projection can be viewed as the consequence of the limerent inclination to hide feelings.

Because one of the invariant characteristics of limerence is extreme emotional dependency on the limerent object’s behavior, the actual course of limerence must depend on the actions and reactions of both people. Uncertainty increases limerence; increased limerence dictates altered action which serves to increase or decrease limerence in the other according to the interpretation given. The interplay is delicate if the relationship hovers near mutuality; a subtle imbalance, constantly shifting, appears to maintain it. Each person knows who is more limerent."

Limerence. Nailed it.



[This message has been edited by Arrow2brain (edited 02-09-2007).]

I've known about the concept of limerence for a long time, and I used to exhibit quite a few of those features for a girl. Not anymore, now I'm just a cold-hearted bastard.

no pics? not reading

I wonder how many pics on S&A HAVENT been fapped to. I would never put her picture up.

Plus shes under 18. You wouldn't fap to someone under the age, WOULD YOU?

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

You're rather dumb, aren't you eh? I bet you wonder why she doesn't wanna do you when all you do is act the nice guy act...

Enjoy being fuckless.

When was the last time you saw your dick with out looking into a mirror?

OP, get drunk with her. She may be holding back for stupid reasons, but when drunk those reasons wont seem so clear any more.

[This message has been edited by arquin (edited 02-09-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Arrow2brain:

I wonder how many pics on S&A HAVENT been fapped to. I would never put her picture up.

Plus shes under 18. You wouldn't fap to someone under the age, WOULD YOU?

no srsly, post pix.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

no srsly, post pix.

http://www.sum.ccsd.k12.co.us/images/stick-figure-me.jpg

quote:Originally posted by Arrow2brain: http://www.sum.ccsd.k12.co.us/image s/stick-figure-me.jpg

fail @ element of surprise



[This message has been edited by arquin (edited 02-09-2007).]

Yeah, just ignore her, she'll come running back wanting to suck your dick..

Sounds like a ditzy bitch slut.. Sorry for being so blunt, but it sounds like you should move on to someone else and not an attention whore ^_^

The answers on this post make me lol. I mean you think all she wants to do is suck his dick. give me a break. Dude I dont know how old she is but you have to choices here. Either tell her you like her and wanna take her somewhere or move on and find someone to be with. Because like a few on here have stated she sounds like and attention whore. Now when you find someone to atleast have a passing relationship with. Prolly nothing to serious cause (sorry ladies) but you can use some of them that way. See how she acts towards you then. If you see jealousy then you know you can get her. If there isnt any then fuck it find someone else to entertain your mind with.

I say go for it. If you don't you'll regret it. If you do and get rejected you'll regret it. But if all goes well things will be splendid, and at least you won't ... ok, I don't know where i'm going with this.

Just go for it.

quote:Originally posted by slim-ov-derby:

Basically the same as the friend trap.

Same solution.

Get drunk together and let things do their own thing. And talk about it in the morning.

Or follow the girl to college hoping things work, get drunk with her 1,000 times and become one of her best friends, then drop out a year later when she decides to start fucking the guy that pretended to be your friend so he could fuck her.

FUCK!

Ditch her.

just find some other chick to make her jealous or somethin. don't go to her, let her come to you, etc etc. dont act like you need/want her or anything

I was on bars today so I hugged her and tried to tell her that she was amazing. She laughed, and I'm laughing about it now too because I dont remember that ever happening. Oh well.

PLAN: when we're both on bars/drunk, Ill go for it. I wont fuck her though, Im not THAT sleezy.

quote:Originally posted by CatharticWeek:



She doesn't want to be with you, but she enjoys your attention.

Move on.

YOU CANT TURN A HO INTO A HOUSEWIFE, HOS DON'T ACT RIGHT

Having a housewife would be gay though.

Besides the sammich making.

Mmmmmm...

Well, I guess she likes the attention, and I like giving it to her, so whatever.

Sucks that theres no chance of a hookup, though.

quote:Originally posted by Arrow2brain:

Well, I guess she likes the attention, and I like giving it to her, so whatever.

Sucks that theres no chance of a hookup, though.

YOUS A BITCH CUZ!

quote:Originally posted by Fascismo:

YOUS A BITCH CUZ!

qft

Yeah I'm a tool.

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