Okay, my brother moved up about a year and a half ago, and before he moved up I was kind of a loser.

Well, since he moved up I have went to a LOT of parties, and have gotten a HUGE self esteem boost.

He also taught me how to talk to girls a little better, and got me into more popular music, and over all turned me into kind of a player.

Well, now it's just my true nature to be the person HE is.

Well heres the odd part: I just got a girlfriend, which I'm not saying is a first, but she is really good looking (to me any way, I'm not sure what you all would think *pics pending*), and I was pretty stoked that it lasted more than a few days.

Well anyway, I started wearing the right clothes and stuff, and all of the sudden all these girls have been all up in my shit!!

I'm not sure if I should treasure what I have with my girlfriend, or if I should just play the pimp card and get with as many girls as I can.

This one girl (22) is always hugging on me and saying she loves me, and every time I leave she gives me a kiss (on the lips of course)and when ever I crash over at her place we always end up on the couch and I have my arm around her, or I have my arm over her and we are holding hands.

Her neighbor hangs out there a lot, and we also usually end with my arm around her, sipping off the same drink, and smoking off the same square, and we always hug and she always says "I love you" before I leave/she leaves. She is turning 17 or 18 pretty soon.

Now this OTHER girl always hugs me and is always pleasant with me every time I see her, but she WAS with someone at the time (just turned single last night). But I'm prolly reading into that one too far.

There is ANOTHER girl who always calls me up and talks about how her and I have to hang out a drink and see where it goes and shit, but I don't see that one happening.

I'm just astounded at how I went from being anti social, to being cool with everyone in what seems like a month.

Every since I started hanging out with people out side of my brother, I have gotten a lot of friends.

I just need a little advice here.

Thanks for your help and such, and I'm sorry if my post seems random, I'm a little out of it since I went back on the patch.

This question will decide your destiny:

Can you stand waking up to your girlfriend every day for the rest of your life?

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

This question will decide your destiny:

Can you stand waking up to your girlfriend every day for the rest of your life?

I would have to think deeper about this, but I'm thinking yes.

But then there is the golden rule of a relationship: You don't really know until you have lived together.

I DO love Ashley with all my heart, but she loves me a lot too, and I'm afraid of hurting her in the long run.

This is a fucked up problem. A year ago I would have just tagged as much ass as I could

quote:Originally posted by ArgonPlasma2000:

This question will decide your destiny:

Can you stand waking up to your girlfriend every day for the rest of your life?

That's stupid advice. Actually, that's not even advice.

I fucking hate people like you. You act like you have problems and feel sorry for yourself over shit like this?

This isn't a fucking issue. This isn't a problem. It isn't 'fucked up'. So shut up.

Just be with your girlfriend, and if it goes down the drain, the move to these other girls, because they're not going anywhere are they? It's really not that hard, goddamn idiot.

Write a book about the changes in your life and make some dough.

quote:Originally posted by Tokolosh:

I fucking hate people like you. You act like you have problems and feel sorry for yourself over shit like this?

This isn't a fucking issue. This isn't a problem. It isn't 'fucked up'. So shut up.

Just be with your girlfriend, and if it goes down the drain, the move to these other girls, because they're not going anywhere are they? It's really not that hard, goddamn idiot.

It's fucked up that I long for a relationship for as long as I did, now all of the sudden I have my pick of the litter, and I really can't do it because I don't want to betray Ashley.

Also, these other girls are prime women that any guy would be estatic to have, and for SOME reason they pick me when I'm IN a relationship. By the time things go down the drain with Ashley and I, they COULD be gone for all I know.

Thanks for the tough advice though.

quote:Originally posted by Agent 008:

Write a book about the changes in your life and make some dough.

Thats a plan. Even if one book sells thats still $10-$20

quote:Originally posted by helladamnleet:

I DO love Ashley with all my heart, but she loves me a lot too, and I'm afraid of hurting her in the long run.

I think that is a crock. If you loved her with all your heart then this would not be an issue. Of course, your heart could be very very small I suppose.

I think you need to play the field. You just might lose your girl though.

quote:Originally posted by oc6:

I think that is a crock. If you loved her with all your heart then this would not be an issue. Of course, your heart could be very very small I suppose.

I think you need to play the field. You just might lose your girl though.

Thats the problem. I love her and all, but it just feels weird to have jumped into a relationship like this so quick. Kind of like I half regret the fact that the relationship COULD last and I never experienced a whole lot of other women.. .. .. you know?

quote:Originally posted by helladamnleet:

Thats the problem. I love her and all, but it just feels weird to have jumped into a relationship like this so quick. Kind of like I half regret the fact that the relationship COULD last and I never experienced a whole lot of other women.. .. .. you know?



Yes, I do know. Funny thing is that when a guy has a relationship with a girl, oftentimes that makes him more appealing to other girls. How do you know if you weren't in a relationship that these girls would be hanging around so much? You might behave differently which could change the interaction.

But yeah, if you're wanting to stray already then you probably should not be in a relationship.

Guna tell what happened with me, if that'll help. Bout an year ago i jumped into my first big deal relationship. anyway, he wanted to play the field as well and ended up cheating on me... because it was long-distance when he cheated and because i was a fool back then, i forgave him and stayed with him. he still wanted to play the field and gave me a hard time about wanting open relationships and all.

there's nothing wrong about wanting to play the field when you're on your 20s, a bit less or a bit more, i guess no one's ready for a big relationship, BUT we need to be mature enough to consider that we might be hurting someone BADLY.

well now i'm the one playing the field lol we broke up anyway... that just gave me the chance to stay away from a big relationship and be free and try other guys meanwhile, though i'm seeking another more serious relationship now.

so yeah now you have your gf Ashley... but you're considering you might be missing a chance of getting other girls who might be as nice as her... fair enough, everyone has those doubts.

just think if you want to go for cheap thrills or if you want to hang onto her... that's what I always think when I'm in a relationship, if the person I'm with is worth dissing everyone else. And if it is, then I devote myself to the guy I want to be with.

Tough choices =)

with every guy that isn't born a player, and sometime down the line catches onto the game and how simple it is, there's going to be a phase where you want as much pussy as you can get. you might as well bone all of those girls (wear protection) and not torture yourself thinking about it. once you're content with your ability to get pussy and a little more confident you may be able to be pleased with only one girl in your life.

First of all, congrats on becoming a player, lets just hope I can do the same soon haha.

Your situation, though as one pointed out isn't a major issue, is a little bit of a toughie to decide what to do.

My original advice would be to go out with the girl for as long as you need to see where it goes, theoretically, you should still have the skills afterwards, to get what you want. But you'll get to a point and be wondering, what if I did this?

However, me.. I want to add as many as I can to my "magic number", so sticking with one girl probably wouldn't be the idea.

Go forth and conquer.

quote:Originally posted by helladamnleet:

Well heres the odd part: I just got a girlfriend, which I'm not saying is a first, but she is really good looking (to me any way, I'm not sure what you all would think *pics pending*), and I was pretty stoked that it lasted more than a few days.

Well anyway, I started wearing the right clothes and stuff, and all of the sudden all these girls have been all up in my shit!!

There is a very simple explanation here. When women see you with other women, it makes them become attracted to you. They see that you are desireable. You go higher up on "the ladder" in their eyes.

Who gives a shit about the rest of this garbage? Post the motherfuckin pics nigga. Only thing you should be worrying about is if I judge these girls hot or not.

[This message has been edited by SlapinFoFun (edited 02-08-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by deathbyrainbows:

Guna tell what happened with me, if that'll help. Bout an year ago i jumped into my first big deal relationship. anyway, he wanted to play the field as well and ended up cheating on me... because it was long-distance when he cheated and because i was a fool back then, i forgave him and stayed with him. he still wanted to play the field and gave me a hard time about wanting open relationships and all.

there's nothing wrong about wanting to play the field when you're on your 20s, a bit less or a bit more, i guess no one's ready for a big relationship, BUT we need to be mature enough to consider that we might be hurting someone BADLY.

well now i'm the one playing the field lol we broke up anyway... that just gave me the chance to stay away from a big relationship and be free and try other guys meanwhile, though i'm seeking another more serious relationship now.

so yeah now you have your gf Ashley... but you're considering you might be missing a chance of getting other girls who might be as nice as her... fair enough, everyone has those doubts.

just think if you want to go for cheap thrills or if you want to hang onto her... that's what I always think when I'm in a relationship, if the person I'm with is worth dissing everyone else. And if it is, then I devote myself to the guy I want to be with.

Tough choices =)

Thats prolly the best adive I have gotten.

quote:Originally posted by camper velourium:

with every guy that isn't born a player, and sometime down the line catches onto the game and how simple it is, there's going to be a phase where you want as much pussy as you can get. you might as well bone all of those girls (wear protection) and not torture yourself thinking about it. once you're content with your ability to get pussy and a little more confident you may be able to be pleased with only one girl in your life.

That also is good insight.

QUOTE]Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

First of all, congrats on becoming a player, lets just hope I can do the same soon haha.

Your situation, though as one pointed out isn't a major issue, is a little bit of a toughie to decide what to do.

My original advice would be to go out with the girl for as long as you need to see where it goes, theoretically, you should still have the skills afterwards, to get what you want. But you'll get to a point and be wondering, what if I did this?

However, me.. I want to add as many as I can to my "magic number", so sticking with one girl probably wouldn't be the idea.

Go forth and conquer.[/QUOTE]

I'm sure you will get your's one day. And yes, in theory I will still have the player in me afterwards. I guess it kinda runs in my blood.. .. .. Both my older brothers were players, and I guess the skill only gets rusty, never gone.

If you love Ashley, stick with her. If you don't, don't.

I think what will happen is you'll start trying to "play the field", maybe have sex a couple times, lose Ashley, and get stuck with a bunch of girls who only wanted to fool around a little. I personally wouldn't want to throw away a relationship for girls who just want to fuck a "player" (fucking nigger slang), but maybe I'm just weird.

sounds like someone wants to boast the fact he be "mad playa" and is "tappind dem hoes"

If you really loved her you wouldn't have even thought about "playing the field" and excersising you "pimpizzle-ness power"

Does your girlfriend know you're cuddling and kissing other girls?

You probably shouldn't be with her if you can't keep your hands to yourself.

get rid of her, she'll fuck you over once she realizes you like her back.. trust me dude, i've been pimping a lot longer than you and i know how to deal with this shit now. just keep being a pimp and hooking up with girls, long term relationships are for old people.

once your girlfriend goes, so does the attention from other girls. at least this is my experience... its like they can smell monogamous relationships.

The pragmatics is boasting.

quote:Originally posted by helladamnleet:



I DO love Ashley with all my heart, but she loves me a lot too, and I'm afraid of hurting her in the long run.



and yet you'll kiss/flirt with other girls...

you're just letting this all go to your ego. you're being an idiot. wow, so you can now function as a human being. so what? you claim to love this girl but you can't even keep your hands off other girls because it makes you feel like a big man.

your appearance might have changed but it sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do.

Hah, damnit yes I know your situation too well my friend. Well okay I don't go around holding other girls and shit, but...

I used to be a loser, then things start going the right way though and I become a cooler guy. All of a sudden chicks like you and shit... But I got a gf in no time. Heck, it was a girl I at first didn't really want, but I got stuck with her and now I'm completely addicted to her.

I also thought man shouldn't I be out taking advantage of my newfound talent?

Hmm yeah it'd be fun, but dude you're just looking for sex and boosting your ego.

Waking up sunday morning, next to a babe is probably very cool. But it's cool for a short time, eventually you'll realize it was a lousy one night stand that did you nothing good.

Compare a bunch of those one night stands to... Well, remember when you were a loser, you got all lonely and wish there was someone who got you? Remember when you were out partying but at the end of the night you just wished you had someone to cuddle with? Some crazycool girl who'd hold you?

I think that's all I have to say... Oh and yeah, when you go single again, you'll probably realize the girls just aren't looking at you the same way. I know opportunities come all the time when you're in a relationship, it's so friggen unfair, but they will drastically decrease in number when you go single, just you watch.

Stay with her, but find a backup when she wants to breakup with you. In short stay loyal, but have the ability to become mobile.

quote:Originally posted by helladamnleet:

Thats the problem. I love her and all, but it just feels weird to have jumped into a relationship like this so quick. Kind of like I half regret the fact that the relationship COULD last and I never experienced a whole lot of other women.. .. .. you know?

you're making something out of nothing, just have fun, this is not the time in your life to be bitching about this kind of shit, you have a long life ahead of you to deal with issues (unless you die tonight in some freak accident)

They only want you because you have a girlfriend. If you break up with her, it'll be a lot harder to get those girls than it is right now.

quote:Originally posted by YouLookFourteen:

and yet you'll kiss/flirt with other girls...

you're just letting this all go to your ego. you're being an idiot. wow, so you can now function as a human being. so what? you claim to love this girl but you can't even keep your hands off other girls because it makes you feel like a big man.

your appearance might have changed but it sounds like you have a lot of growing up to do.

The 22 year old is the only one that I kiss or cuddle with. Ashley already told me BEFORE anything started that the 22 year old was the ONLY other girl she would approve of me seeing.

quote:Originally posted by B-Phaze:

Hah, damnit yes I know your situation too well my friend. Well okay I don't go around holding other girls and shit, but...

I used to be a loser, then things start going the right way though and I become a cooler guy. All of a sudden chicks like you and shit... But I got a gf in no time. Heck, it was a girl I at first didn't really want, but I got stuck with her and now I'm completely addicted to her.

I also thought man shouldn't I be out taking advantage of my newfound talent?

Hmm yeah it'd be fun, but dude you're just looking for sex and boosting your ego.

Waking up sunday morning, next to a babe is probably very cool. But it's cool for a short time, eventually you'll realize it was a lousy one night stand that did you nothing good.

Compare a bunch of those one night stands to... Well, remember when you were a loser, you got all lonely and wish there was someone who got you? Remember when you were out partying but at the end of the night you just wished you had someone to cuddle with? Some crazycool girl who'd hold you?

I think that's all I have to say... Oh and yeah, when you go single again, you'll probably realize the girls just aren't looking at you the same way. I know opportunities come all the time when you're in a relationship, it's so friggen unfair, but they will drastically decrease in number when you go single, just you watch.

Wow, thanks man. That really put it into prespective. I really appreciate it.

Oh god, another Bushy.

Not every girl that looks your direction wants your cock. Get over it.

quote:Originally posted by helladamnleet:

Wow, thanks man. That really put it into prespective. I really appreciate it.

Holy crap, did you guys see that? :P

I think I've made my first constructive totse post. Feels weird.

Anyways, glad to help!