and her ex is a good guy, who's been a friend of mine in the past. I've talked to her about it and she assures me that everything is okay. She wants to hang out with him this weekend, with or without me. What do I do, where do I draw the line?

you sound like my friend.. but with my friend he's been cheated on. i say that is the line.

Why, you go with her of course.

And remember, they broke up for a reason.

how long did she go out with him for?

how long ago did they stop going out?

how long have you been going out with her for?

god thats awkward ... i bring nothing productive to the table ... but jeez that is awkward.

Perhaps you should hire a private detective to spy on them "with hilarious consequences"

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

how long did she go out with him for?

how long ago did they stop going out?

how long have you been going out with her for?

a year and a half, 8 months, 4 months. Blood enangel, thanks for that. And the rest of you, too.

YO

its simple. you install a keylogger on her/your computer and retrieve her myspace password (though if you install one on hers you can read her AIM logs too) and then you just freely let her do whatever.

you'll soon find out if she's faithful or not, if she isn't simply break it off and never talk to her again.

at least that's what i'd do hehehehehehehehehe.

but uhhh... otherwise, i'd (being paranoid and untrusting) think that's kind of shady. she's probably going to bone him.

If you start gettin all paranoid telling you don't want to her to see him, she is going to know you don't trust her, that will be a whole new set of problems. Give her the benefit of the doubt and even a second chance, we all deserve one.

Since you have been friends with that guy before it should be relatively easy to hang out with them. Go with them and see how they act together. This can either thwart your paranoia or increase it. Just relax and don't jump to conclusions.

BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. Guess who she is with now? That is right, her EX. DUMP HER

man becareful with that she could end up fucking him and then tell you that it was a "mistake" or she could just end up dumping you after fucking him.

quote:Originally posted by meckt:

a year and a half, 8 months, 4 months. Blood enangel, thanks for that. And the rest of you, too.

She should be over him by now. Still, be firm with her. Let her know seeing him too much or for too long is not acceptable. Even if you really doubt she would cheat, she should still respect your relationship.

I hate to not give you comforting advice, but I want you to know that it could easily be the early steps of her going back to him.

From personal experience, when you're willing to go see someone that could be a potential interest "with or without you" then it often means "preferably without you".

I'd keep a keen eye on her, don't let her feel spied on, talk to her, love her more than ever and make her see that you're the one she REALLY wants. I think that's your best bet.

Best of luck (sincerely meant).

quote:Originally posted by busyhands:

I hate to not give you comforting advice, but I want you to know that it could easily be the early steps of her going back to him.

From personal experience, when you're willing to go see someone that could be a potential interest "with or without you" then it often means "preferably without you".

I'd keep a keen eye on her, don't let her feel spied on, talk to her, love her more than ever and make her see that you're the one she REALLY wants. I think that's your best bet.

Best of luck (sincerely meant).

Her words were closer to "So-and-so and I were thinking of hanging out this weekend, want to come?" Thanks for the advice, all of you.

Rule #1- Don't make assumptions. I'm sure you already know that, but it's always good to have a reminder. You can't pick who your girl's friends are, so unless she gives you a real reason to think she wants to get back with her ex, just trust her. This is kind of a sensitive spot for me because one of my best friends in the world is an ex-boyfriend. We dated for a year and broke up over 2 years ago, but it still causes relationship problems for me today when people I date hear that I'm so close with my ex.

totse people = paranoid

i think it might be the drugs

nothin against those...but..well

Anyways. Dude, just go along, cause

1. how they interact will let you know if you should be worried

2. he can't make advances while your there can he

But, be grownup about it, treat him normal and stuff. Don't go jalous or somethin cause actin like a child will only be against your interests

and hope he has forgotten to learn this lesson

He's taking back what was his, but is now your girl. Kill him, and eat his heart. You'll gain his game.