is it crazy for someone to be in love? is it crazy for someone who is 18 years old to have found the true love of their life? the only person they could ever imagine themselves being with? is it crazy for that person to seek a relationship even though they are like a thousand miles away? is it crazy to not care about what anyone thinks aven though they all think your crazy?

If that's crazy, I'm crazier and I don't want to be sane.

yes

what is crazy to seem makes perfect sense to others. just do whatever you think is right.

and the only thing i can say, is no matter what the circumstances, when you are 18 don't push for forever. putting that much pressure on a relationship can be daunting, and can make even a perfect relationship crumble.

don't just throw love around. that word is used too much. i don't even say 'i love you' to my boyfriend, and we have been dating for almost 2 years.

mind you, i am 18, so i am not just a lecturing elder.

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

what is crazy to seem makes perfect sense to others. just do whatever you think is right.

and the only thing i can say, is no matter what the circumstances, when you are 18 don't push for forever. putting that much pressure on a relationship can be daunting, and can make even a perfect relationship crumble.

don't just throw love around. that word is used too much. i don't even say 'i love you' to my boyfriend, and we have been dating for almost 2 years.

mind you, i am 18, so i am not just a lecturing elder.

yeah i completely agree with that. that word is used way to much. but ive only said that word to one person ever in my entire life. and its HER. ive never even told my own mom i love her.



and i have always thought the same way. i dont care if someone thinks im crazy if what i have in my head makes perfect sense to me.



just lately shes been telling me she thinks im unstable...

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

If that's crazy, I'm crazier and I don't want to be sane.

actualy thats the "sane" side of the story.

is it crazy for me to not be able to continue living without her love?

quote:Originally posted by The Infamous Mobb:

yeah i completely agree with that. that word is used way to much.

That's true... but if you've dated someone two years and still don't love them, why are you dating them? (@ oral fixation)

quote:just lately shes been telling me she thinks im unstable...

Has she said why?

quote:Originally posted by The Infamous Mobb:

actualy thats the "sane" side of the story.

What's the crazy side then?

quote:Originally posted by The Infamous Mobb:

is it crazy for me to not be able to continue living without her love?

That's a little excessive. Especially since no matter what you think, you will get over it.

If my True Love didn't love me back, I'd turn to drugs... but never suicide.

It's crazy when you get up on the podium to make a speech about the war in the middle east, but accidentally sing the lyrics from "breakfast at tiffany's".

As long as you don't do that, you'll be fine.

Seriously though...

I'm 18 and I don't have a freaking clue what love is. I'm not saying that other people don't either, but that's me. It's a word people throw around too often, it loses meaning.

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:



That's true... but if you've dated someone two years and still don't love them, why are you dating them? (@ oral fixation)

oh god i wish it was that simple...



quote:Has she said why?

she doesnt think the "love" i got for her is rational

quote: What's the crazy side then?

very long story...



quote:

That's a little excessive. Especially since no matter what you think, you will get over it.

If my True Love didn't love me back, I'd turn to drugs... but never suicide.

mary jay will always be my first love ...

and its not as much suicide as the fact that i dont think i will ever get over her and i will never stop telling her i love her no matter what happens i will never give up unless one of us is dead. hence the crazyness.

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

That's a little excessive. Especially since no matter what you think, you will get over it.

If my True Love didn't love me back, I'd turn to drugs... but never suicide.

its not smart to take hard drugs when im feeling like this. i took extacsy last friday and i still havent got over how the fuck it made me feel about this situation. and i took some shroom pills the week before and im just lucky that i have a strong mind for drugs and i didnt let the insanity control me.

quote:Originally posted by Twisted_Ferret:

That's true... but if you've dated someone two years and still don't love them, why are you dating them? (@ oral fixation)

its not that i don't care for him, don't get me wrong. he is the most important person in the world to me. its just i don't want to abuse that word. its important to me. when i hear the girls i live with CONSTANTLY saying i love you to guys they been dating for less than a month i get angry. these people throw such an important word aroud like it is nothing. and until i am sure that what i feel for my boyfriend is infact love, i am not going to say anything.

i am 18, how the hell do i know what love is?

and to the op:

while loving someone at a young age is not insane, believing you cannont live without someone is (no matter what age you are). not only does what you say worry me for your safety, but hers as well. if i were you i would lay off the mind changing drugs, cut off contact to her, and go to therapy.

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

its not that i don't care for him, don't get me wrong. he is the most important person in the world to me. its just i don't want to abuse that word. its important to me. when i hear the girls i live with CONSTANTLY saying i love you to guys they been dating for less than a month i get angry. these people throw such an important word aroud like it is nothing. and until i am sure that what i feel for my boyfriend is infact love, i am not going to say anything.

i am 18, how the hell do i know what love is?

and to the op:

while loving someone at a young age is not insane, believing you cannont live without someone is (no matter what age you are). not only does what you say worry me for your safety, but hers as well. if i were you i would lay off the mind changing drugs, cut off contact to her, and go to therapy.

it not that i believe that i cant live without her. its that i cant posibly imagine life without her. and the last thing i would ever want to do is hurt her. and i would do anything for her. if she asked me to i would never speak to her again. if at any point i would think that she cant be happy with me or she doesnt want me then i would leave her alone. but she hasnt. she says she loves me but shes not in love with me. she wont let me go but she wont accept me. shes a thousand miles away and i cant stop trying to build this relationship that cant funtion with the distance. hence more crazyness...

quote:Originally posted by oral fixation:

its not that i don't care for him, don't get me wrong. he is the most important person in the world to me. its just i don't want to abuse that word. its important to me. when i hear the girls i live with CONSTANTLY saying i love you to guys they been dating for less than a month i get angry. these people throw such an important word aroud like it is nothing. and until i am sure that what i feel for my boyfriend is infact love, i am not going to say anything.

i am 18, how the hell do i know what love is?

You have a love fixation. Don't get so caught up on a simple word... putting too much meaning into it is as bad as putting none. The feeling is, I suspect, love, whether you want to call it that or not. If he's the most important thing in the world to you, how can it be less than love?

quote:1 a (1): strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties <maternal love for a child> (2): attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3): affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests <love for his old schoolmates>

2: warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion <love of the sea>

4 a: unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

You feel any of those?

quote:Originally posted by The Infamous Mobb:

it not that i believe that i cant live without her. its that i cant posibly imagine life without her. and the last thing i would ever want to do is hurt her. and i would do anything for her. if she asked me to i would never speak to her again. if at any point i would think that she cant be happy with me or she doesnt want me then i would leave her alone. but she hasnt. she says she loves me but shes not in love with me. she wont let me go but she wont accept me. shes a thousand miles away and i cant stop trying to build this relationship that cant funtion with the distance. hence more crazyness...

That sounds familiar. I had the same problem, once upon a time. That girl is now the love of my life. I think perhaps your love feels for you, but doesn't want to... doesn't feel like she should. Until she tells you to leave her alone, I would continue to be there for her. (But don't harass her.)