okay so basically im seeing this girl i use to date about four years ago, she cheated on me back then but since we both got a little older and shit we ended up talking again and i helped her get away from her abusive now ex boyfriend. so everything was good, we both smoke pot and drink and thats usually it but lately she started smoking crack and her friends she does it with are in there 30s while she just turned 18.they avoid me completly, like shes always by herself when they do it i mean they are some fuckin junkies though and im not suppose to know they smoke crack. i told her it bothers me because it makes her bitchy not to mention it takes away time that we can be together. I told her this and how much it bothers me and she basically told me shes 18 she'll do what she wants because its fun and i should except it, she tries to say im being controlling and picking her friends and since all of this im really starting to feel less towards her alot, like i fucked around on her the other day i didnt want to really but she kept turning me down and i heard she fucked one of her buddys (which was a rumor so i heard)but anyways from this im hoping to get an outside view. i love her and want to be with her but talkings getting no-where. should i say with her and be loyal while risking getting fucked over and settling for less or should i stay with her for the great sex?i wanted so bad to end it tonight but i didnt have the nuts, and i still want her sexually.any advice worth while?

quote:Originally posted by JDOGGYDOGG:

any advice worth while?

Learn some grammar

Well if you've already told her what you think theres not much you can do other than end it. You dont want to grow emotionally attached to someone who is going to be missing their teeth in a few years. Give her a bit of time, if she doesn't stop end that shit nigga. Same to people dating meth addicts, thats even worse shit and more addictive in my opinion.

Well I read that she cheated on you, had an abusive ex boyfriend, and smokes crack.

Just stay the fuck away from her. Honestly.

She sounds dirty.

Keep her for the sex, and slowly disattach(I don't think that's a word) yourself from her. Make sure you always use a condom, don't know what you can catch from these hoes!

NOTHING good can come of this. Heartbreak and that is about it. Crack heads are NOT for dating, they are for laughing at and being glad you aren't as fucked up as they are. You can try to help her, but I would really just break it off. I've seen it before; hell, I've BEEN the one getting fucked up and trust me, high > people.

If she loved you, she'd stop. I gave up cocaine for my boyfriend...

Get awway will you can. Find somebody worth it.

I stopped drinking and smoking pot and drugs with my ex girlfriend.

Now I have one that will drink and smoke with me. She won't do acid, x, etc. etc. with me. She's done shrooms with me once though haha.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

If she loved you, she'd stop. I gave up cocaine for my boyfriend...

Can you do me a favor?

I've always had a thing for girls and drugs. God damn is it fucking hot. Just getting completely trashed with a girl and seeing where the night takes you...

But not crack. I hate that shit.

As has been said, she doesn't give two shits about you. If she did, she'd at least try and talk to you about it, but it seems she's ignoring all your attempts at having an open relationship. The fact that she cares more about herself than your relationship, and that you clearly don't have an honest, communicative relationship, my advice is to cut her loose and move on to greener pastures. This isn't the kind of person you should be with right now.

People change, and in the future, she may be the kind of person that you can have a real relationship with, but right now, she's not, and you need to move on before she drags you down with her.

quote:Originally posted by Internet-Weed-Dude:

You dont want to grow emotionally attached to someone who is going to be missing their teeth in a few years.

Some men might consider this an advantage. :P

why the fuck do you wanna hook back up with a bitch who cheated on you? Disloyalty is a hard thing to shake man. Disloyalty and crack go together like peanut butter and jelly.

Just dump the bitch. She's obviously not worth the trouble.

That bitch is going no where in her life dump her seriousley, I dumped my ex because she started smoking meth and the last time I talked to her I found out she dropped out of school and splits a 1 bedroom apart with 6 other crackheads. and now shes a meth/crack addict.

Get out of this shit before you become too attached being attached to a crackhead would suck.

Cut off ALL contact with her, delete her off AIM/MSN make a new account deleter her number etc, chances are she will want you back one she runs out of money and will try to mooch off you my ex tried to do that and I told her straight up fuck no I warned you before and now look at your self :P

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

If she loved you, she'd stop. I gave up cocaine for my boyfriend...

A casual cocaine interest is kinda different from a serious crack addiction.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:



Just stay the fuck away from her. Honestly.

Seriously. Nothing good can come from this relationship.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

Can you do me a favor?

What kind of favour?

Zonko, who says it was a casual interest?

i have been in your same position. I was with this girl for almost 8 years. the last year and a half she started eating pills. and that didnt bother me. but then it just got worse and worse. i stopped eating pills, and i didnt bother me that she did.

but then she started forgeting everything, loosing shit, getting fiered from everywhere and just being fucking stoopid. so i stuck with her trying to help her wing off the pills.

after 6 months of me trying to get her off the pills i gave up, dumped the bitch and kicked her out. after that she stopped eating the pills to try and win me back, but it only lasted like 5 days.

in the end i am sad im not with her cause i love her, but i feel soo free and liberated that im not with her. tell that girls what it is that she does that bothers you. if she says FU. then u do the same. be her friend but not BF. try and help her. good luck

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

What kind of favour?

Zonko, who says it was a casual interest?

ZOMG U R SO HARDCORE! U WER ADIKTID TO COKAN!

fuckin kids.

You know, there are people that will advise you to stick with her. To help her now, when she needs it most. To keep giving.

But you have to learn when to cut your losses.

And when you don't know when to back off, you either become an enabler or you ruin your life or both.

It's a great notion of childhood to always be able to be there, to be the best friend ever, but YOUR life should take precedence in this situation. She will start beinging you down if you stick around. You might not end up smoking crack, but who knows.

What I'm saying is, dump her. You don't need that in your life. From what I remember you're near 20 now? It's sad to let old friends go, but sometimes they're way beyond saving from us. And it will benefit you in the future.

thanks for all the good advice, i gave her a ride to her friends house earlier she told me she had no plans tonight right?then her buddy calls and she asks if they're still gonna do something.we ended up fighting and she swears nothing goes on besides the drugs. I confronted the guy and he told me the same, so tonight im gonna do my own thing and go have some fun!ill keep you posted on what happens!

quote:Originally posted by Gojeero:

ZOMG U R SO HARDCORE! U WER ADIKTID TO COKAN!

fuckin kids.

Jesus, it's not like I was bragging about it. Far from it, in fact. Coke is lame.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

Zonko, who says it was a casual interest?

The way you talk about it, when you were talking about it says it was fairly casual.

quote:Originally posted by Zonko:

The way you talk about it, when you were talking about it says it was fairly casual.

Probably because I'm not exactly going to come on the internet and brag about my drug use, lol. I was definitely beyond casual use when my boyfriend and I hooked up. Every penny I had went to cocaine...But like I said, coke is gay.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Well I read that she cheated on you, had an abusive ex boyfriend, and smokes crack.

Just stay the fuck away from her. Honestly.

QFT

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

Probably because I'm not exactly going to come on the internet and brag about my drug use, lol. I was definitely beyond casual use when my boyfriend and I hooked up. Every penny I had went to cocaine

WAI TO KONTRUDIKT YERSELF

So what is happening with the girl situation, OP?

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

What kind of favour?



Take a picture of yourself affirming your sex* by holding a peice of paper that says 'To Forgotten. I am SickBoy and then the date"

I already have three totse girls that have done so for me and I need to add to the collection.

*I don't actually doubt you're female. Then again...*narrows eyes*

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

Take a picture of yourself affirming your sex* by holding a peice of paper that says 'To Forgotten. I am SickBoy and then the date"

I already have three totse girls that have done so for me and I need to add to the collection.

*I don't actually doubt you're female. Then again...*narrows eyes*

Hehe, so you never seen the sickboy with an ak pictures then? shame, damn hot

Ohw, and to the thread poster, i have only one sentence for you

"Run bitch run"

Mack her out! Be her pimp daddy & get some decent use outta her! She can be the first girl in your 'stable'...

Do you like pink cadillacs & leopard skin hats?

quote:Originally posted by dark-easterbunny:

Hehe, so you never seen the sickboy with an ak pictures then? shame, damn hot

Ohw, and to the thread poster, i have only one sentence for you

"Run bitch run"



Wow. I just got massive Deja vu.

Wha'? Kinda like Lara Croft...but hotter?

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Wha'? Kinda like Lara Croft...but hotter?



I'm not following..?

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:



I'm not following..?

I took it that you were remembering S_B's 'Gun pic'? It was a hot machine gun pic & it would have been amazing if she was dressed 'book cover' style? Eg. Half uncovered...

No I got Deja Vu from what he said. That particular arrangement of words.... *ponders*

Everyone has said everything that needs to be said, but just to stress the point... I've been through the same thing... And I didn't end it. I tried to help her. It DOES NOT WORK. Not with people like that...



She's 18, and she wants to be a big girl. She's not going to listen to you or anyone else, so don't even bother trying anymore. And you will end up getting hurt, one way or another. Even if she's not a full-blown crackhead now, it's only a matter of time. And for some people it doesn't take very long at all.



End it now. And tell her exactly why. Maybe she'll change... But probably not. The best you can do is to save yourself from the pain of having someone you care about become something that absolutely disgusts you. It happened to me. It's not fun. It gives you this sick feeling in your stomach that doesn't go away for quite a while...





Good luck with it. I'll hope for your sake that she changes, but I'm mostly hoping that you get out without being hurt.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

Take a picture of yourself affirming your sex* by holding a peice of paper that says 'To Forgotten. I am SickBoy and then the date"

I already have three totse girls that have done so for me and I need to add to the collection.

*I don't actually doubt you're female. Then again...*narrows eyes*

This is the best I can do right now (it's old, but it's me, lol).

http://i3.photobucket.com/albums/y82/Chelseus/IMGP0525.jpg

Gojeero:

OP, have you decided what you're going to do? I hope you listen to us and get out of there fast...

sick_boy wow i never knew, the name kinda made me assume you were a boy....lets see more pictures if at all possible, just so we REALLY know its you anyways though.

so this morning i came to see her at her cousins right?and she was all geeked out she told me she didnt sleep till 4 am so my exact words where "stupid fuckin bitch" she got pissed and yelled a little, come to find out she ends up tellin me she stayed in the town next to ours and on her phone list was the hotel. so she went there and stayed with a 50 year old crack head lady and my step cousin whos 34 and has been slipping her all kinds of cash lately. I looked her in the eyes and told her I was done with her and she just lost the best thing she ever had. she said thats okay and looked pretty sad and i left, got my shit from her house and havent seen her since.still kinda sucks and im bummed but i guess i shouldnt be.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Well I read that she cheated on you, had an abusive ex boyfriend, and smokes crack.

Just stay the fuck away from her. Honestly.

qft.



That bitch sounds like a nasty goddamn skank.

Dont count on those rumours being just 'rumour'.



18 is a really,really bad fucking age to get into crack.

But as she says, it's her life and she'll do what she wants, so if she wants to fuck it up that's her choice.

But you dont have to sit around and watch her fuck it up and risk being dragged down with her.



You mentioned her great sex and how you still want her sexually, which is really fucking stupid. She may be hot, she may be great at sex,but seriously, she's not the only hot girl in the world, nor is she the only female who's good at sex.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

This is the best I can do right now (it's old, but it's me, lol).

http:/ /i3.photob ucket.com/albums/y82/Chelseus/IMGP0525.jpg (http: //i3.photo bucket.com /albums/y8 2/Chelseus /IMGP0525. jpg)

Gojeero:



If it's not addressed to me it's useless. I have a theme going here.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

18 is a really,really bad fucking age to get into crack.

But as she says, it's her life and she'll do what she wants, so if she wants to fuck it up that's her choice.

But you dont have to sit around and watch her fuck it up and risk being dragged down with her.



You mentioned her great sex and how you still want her sexually, which is really fucking stupid. She may be hot, she may be great at sex,but seriously, she's not the only hot girl in the world, nor is she the only female who's good at sex.

So true...

Let her go, it's for the best, certainly in your best interests anyway...

Sorry man

[This message has been edited by Mellow_Fellow (edited 02-04-2007).]

UPDATE-----

holy shit i dont know where to start!so we have still been talking and we both still had feelings for her as of this morning and she was acting alot different like her old self.so we go up to springfield for a half day for school and on the way back she has such a bad stomach ache shes crying screaming and sweating badly!i mean you know it was serious she was balling, so i sit with her to comfort her and all and i end up having to use her phone to call 911. the ambulance comes and i guess i stuck her phone in my pocket, so we get back to school and i accidently forgot her books on the bus.

I called my work and told them i wouldnt be in which i couldnt afford anyway, but i go up to see her regardless. I thought she was having a miscarriage and im freaking out obviously because she just got put on birth control and thats not healthy.so i go see her, they say shes not pregnant but they dont know whats wrong with her. I left because the people who drove me had to go home. then i realize when i get home i have her phone, i try to call and check on her and they dont answer, but i see her exboyfriend before me(whos 24 and use to beat her ass until i helped her get away and i fucked him up a while back) is on her recent calls. so i call him up and get into it with him, hes a bitch but they've been talking for a while now, i flip out but hold back because i realize the only reason i have ever had problems with this guy is because of her so he hangs up on me and shit...so she calls and i ask her about it, she flips the fuck out screaming and shit tells me not to go through her shit and yells at me for forgetting her books on the bus and "stealing" her phone. i hang up on her and she calls back wanting her phone NOW!keep in mind she lost my only phone charger at the hotel she stayed at friday, so i say fuck you!i think this is finally enough for me to walk away from her.any comments?

quote:Originally posted by JDOGGYDOGG:

okay so basically im seeing this girl i use to date about four years ago, she cheated on me back then but since we both got a little older and shit we ended up talking again and i helped her get away from her abusive now ex boyfriend. so everything was good, we both smoke pot and drink and thats usually it but lately she started smoking crack and her friends she does it with are in there 30s while she just turned 18.they avoid me completly, like shes always by herself when they do it i mean they are some fuckin junkies though and im not suppose to know they smoke crack. i told her it bothers me because it makes her bitchy not to mention it takes away time that we can be together. I told her this and how much it bothers me and she basically told me shes 18 she'll do what she wants because its fun and i should except it, she tries to say im being controlling and picking her friends and since all of this im really starting to feel less towards her alot, like i fucked around on her the other day i didnt want to really but she kept turning me down and i heard she fucked one of her buddys (which was a rumor so i heard)but anyways from this im hoping to get an outside view. i love her and want to be with her but talkings getting no-where. should i say with her and be loyal while risking getting fucked over and settling for less or should i stay with her for the great sex?i wanted so bad to end it tonight but i didnt have the nuts, and i still want her sexually.any advice worth while?

Are you sure you both grew up?

And she makes out you're controlling? Well, are you sure she was as abused as it was made out?

She just sounds like she doesn't want to stop taking drugs so she's trying to turn it round on you and make you feel you have to accept it.

You need to talk to her. Tell her to sort herself out.

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

If she loved you, she'd stop. I gave up cocaine for my boyfriend...

AGAIN WITH THE BOYFRIEND!

quote:Originally posted by JDOGGYDOGG:

UPDATE-----

holy shit i dont know where to start!so we have still been talking and we both still had feelings for her as of this morning and she was acting alot different like her old self.so we go up to springfield for a half day for school and on the way back she has such a bad stomach ache shes crying screaming and sweating badly!i mean you know it was serious she was balling, so i sit with her to comfort her and all and i end up having to use her phone to call 911. the ambulance comes and i guess i stuck her phone in my pocket, so we get back to school and i accidently forgot her books on the bus.

I called my work and told them i wouldnt be in which i couldnt afford anyway, but i go up to see her regardless. I thought she was having a miscarriage and im freaking out obviously because she just got put on birth control and thats not healthy.so i go see her, they say shes not pregnant but they dont know whats wrong with her. I left because the people who drove me had to go home. then i realize when i get home i have her phone, i try to call and check on her and they dont answer, but i see her exboyfriend before me(whos 24 and use to beat her ass until i helped her get away and i fucked him up a while back) is on her recent calls. so i call him up and get into it with him, hes a bitch but they've been talking for a while now, i flip out but hold back because i realize the only reason i have ever had problems with this guy is because of her so he hangs up on me and shit...so she calls and i ask her about it, she flips the fuck out screaming and shit tells me not to go through her shit and yells at me for forgetting her books on the bus and "stealing" her phone. i hang up on her and she calls back wanting her phone NOW!keep in mind she lost my only phone charger at the hotel she stayed at friday, so i say fuck you!i think this is finally enough for me to walk away from her.any comments?

FUCK THAT SHIT.



Just... fuck that!!

The fucking whore is blatantly fucking her ex!!

Why the hell are you still even bothing with the bitch?!

You know what you do. You go and get any of her stuff you may have left at her place whilst she's still in hospital.

THEN you send obscene insulting texts to the ex boyfriend pretending to be her.

Hopefully he'll get pissed off enough with her to give her a beating she'll really deserve.



THEN, you throw her fucking phone, and all the crap she may have left at your place, into the river.



Why the fuck are you wasting your life over this nasty cheating infected bitch?



BTW, you might wanna get tested. Especially if she's still fucking her ex and her crackhead friends.

Icky icky!

I got my gf to stop doing meth and crack so you can get her to stop doing that shit but my gf wasnt in that deep, yet.

Time for some relationship advice from everyones favourite 16 year old, me!

Return her phone, return all of her stuff, do not look through it (the fuck is the point, your trying to get over he, remember?), do not say anything more than 'here's your stuff', no happy hellos, no sad parting. You ignore any bitching she does when you give her her stuff, if shes screaming, just set the stuff down on a nearby table instead, then you walk out and ignore her some more, close the door.

NEVER INTERACT WITH HER EVER AGAIN AFTER ThiS POINT. Delete her from everything, dont talk to her boyfriend, dont talk to her friends (unless they're also your friends) and don't come to her side because your worried, unless you are medically required. No holding her hand through tough times.

quote:Originally posted by Nereth:

Time for some relationship advice from everyones favourite 16 year old, me!

Return her phone, return all of her stuff, do not look through it (the fuck is the point, your trying to get over he, remember?), do not say anything more than 'here's your stuff', no happy hellos, no sad parting. You ignore any bitching she does when you give her her stuff, if shes screaming, just set the stuff down on a nearby table instead, then you walk out and ignore her some more, close the door.

NEVER INTERACT WITH HER EVER AGAIN AFTER ThiS POINT. Delete her from everything, dont talk to her boyfriend, dont talk to her friends (unless they're also your friends) and don't come to her side because your worried, unless you are medically required. No holding her hand through tough times.

I agree.

"Help" her change? Mostly when people are doing that, they are trying to make the person change. Like they were a parent...

"Who's her dadddy?!" Not you bud. You ever rebel against your parents for trying to make you do the right thing? Why? Why be so contrary?

How will you take it when she rebels against her new 'pa'? Spank her? Ground her? Cut off her allowance?

Unless you're going with my pimp idear? Dump her, daddy.

quote:Originally posted by JDOGGYDOGG:

okay so basically im seeing this girl i use to date about four years ago, she cheated on me back then but since we both got a little older and shit we ended up talking again and i helped her get away from her abusive now ex boyfriend. so everything was good, we both smoke pot and drink and thats usually it but lately she started smoking crack and her friends she does it with are in there 30s while she just turned 18.they avoid me completly, like shes always by herself when they do it i mean they are some fuckin junkies though and im not suppose to know they smoke crack. i told her it bothers me because it makes her bitchy not to mention it takes away time that we can be together. I told her this and how much it bothers me and she basically told me shes 18 she'll do what she wants because its fun and i should except it, she tries to say im being controlling and picking her friends and since all of this im really starting to feel less towards her alot, like i fucked around on her the other day i didnt want to really but she kept turning me down and i heard she fucked one of her buddys (which was a rumor so i heard)but anyways from this im hoping to get an outside view. i love her and want to be with her but talkings getting no-where. should i say with her and be loyal while risking getting fucked over and settling for less or should i stay with her for the great sex?i wanted so bad to end it tonight but i didnt have the nuts, and i still want her sexually.any advice worth while?

haha I think I know which girl youre talkin bout I gave her a huge cock

I'm just posting here so I get page 2.

I couldn't care less about this thread.

"heart breaks a blessing, heart breaks your best friend" - Danko Jones

song: heart breaks a blessing

dump her, shes a crackhead

yep so were done, she even tried to cockblock me with another girl but basically we went our seperate ways.shes coming up with everything she can think of to get back at me.