Ive got a boyfriend for almost 2 months to whom i lost my virginity after about a month of dating (which is not something i would usually do).

Everytime before we have sex he goes down on me, and naturally, i guess, expects the same from me from time to time. Now considering the fact i was a virgin not long ago, i find that wierd.

I do understand his side, i mean i barely even touch him, but im kind of disgusted of the idea of having the thing he urinates out of in my hands or mouth. I would prefer him never going down on me again (it isnt that great anyway) but i can't bring myself to do that.

Ok thats it. Now what?

(Btw- blowjobs are totally out of question, handjobs arent)

Why? Is it evil?

Swallow your pride.. and his load!

Sorry, doesn't sound inviting, does it? Learn to want to make him happy.. usually that turns into love for cocksucking.. or at least it hopefully will. Treat it as a chore if you must, but at least try it.

That's weird. Sounds like you have no libido. I actually get more pleasure sometimes by just pleasuring HER rather than being pleasured.

quote:Originally posted by voodoonirvana:

That's weird. Sounds like you have no libido. I actually get more pleasure sometimes by just pleasuring HER rather than being pleasured.

Now see I would have to agree here because I am the same way. I enjoy pleasuring them more then me getting a blowjob. But on the other hand I like blowjobs everyonce in awhile. You should really try it atleast once. If you want something to taste good there are gels and shit out there to make it taste better for ya. My girl didnt like doing it at first either but when we bought the gels she began to like it alot more. Now she cant get enough of it.

How could you lose your virginity to him if you don't even want to touch his penis?

I used to think blowjobs were gross. But that was until I met my boyfriend. I love him so much, and I love going down on him, because it turns me on to turn him on.

If you think it's gross, why don't you just hop in the shower together, and you can clean him up before you do it...

Don't do anything you don't want to do.

If he stops being your boyfriend because you don't want to put his pecker in your mouth, dump him and forgive yourself for letting the loser be your first one.

Save the blow jobs until the men in your life are in their 40's. They have to have blow jobs to get the thing stiff.

So you have plenty of time to get use to the idea.

USE BIRTH CONTROL. I got pregent my first time!

Maybe you'll grow out of it?

I was nervous for a fair while after I lost my virginity about touching the guy, but kinda just dealt with it after and you'll learn to think of it as nothing and maybe even want to start doing it more.

But it probably is just because you've only recently lost your virginity and are still really shy?

quote:Originally posted by Duck In Fog:

Maybe you'll grow out of it?

I was nervous for a fair while after I lost my virginity about touching the guy, but kinda just dealt with it after and you'll learn to think of it as nothing and maybe even want to start doing it more.

But it probably is just because you've only recently lost your virginity and are still really shy?

Dude no.. not shy. mabye its the way this kind of thing is talked about. I see it as kind of lowering my pride.

^^^Do you think less of your boyfriend for going down on you? Do you think less of anyone for performing oral sex?

Probably not...

So basically you're a selfish bitch and you wont do one stupid minutely uncomfortable thing for your boyfriends happiness.

It's not like he's asking you to stitch your nipples together whilst he and his friends fuck youp the ass with a barbed wire coated dildo!

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

So basically you're a selfish bitch and you wont do one stupid minutely uncomfortable thing for your boyfriends happiness.

It's not like he's asking you to stitch your nipples together whilst he and his friends fuck youp the ass with a barbed wire coated dildo!This is what I wanted to say, but couldn't find the words to! Thanks.

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

So basically you're a selfish bitch and you wont do one stupid minutely uncomfortable thing for your boyfriends happiness.

It's not like he's asking you to stitch your nipples together whilst he and his friends fuck youp the ass with a barbed wire coated dildo!

Its people like you, who use detailed disgusting phrases, that sometimes give people like me who have not come across these things, the thought that you might be right. I mean i can just imagine what you'd say if this was him complaining on here.

And I would appreciate it if you people wouldnt insult me, I am writing here coz its a problem and id like to solve it somehow.



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quote:Originally posted by Evil Person Girl:

Its people like you, who use detailed disgusting phrases, that sometimes give people like me who have not come across these things, the thought that you might be right. I mean i can just imagine what you'd say if this was him complaining on here.



If shit like that bothers you, I suggest you leave totse immediately...lol

Do not fear the cock, it is your friend.

problem solve: Practice with a dildo are you can use my dick to practice. Don't worry I got sate farm with that comes the accident fogginess plan.Remember if you bite I smack

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quote:Originally posted by Evil Person Girl:

Dude no.. not shy. mabye its the way this kind of thing is talked about. I see it as kind of lowering my pride.

May I presume you're not in love with this guy?

That's the only thing I can think of that could relate this to "lowering my pride", because there is a huge difference between fucking and love making.

Also, what goes on in the bedroom can stay there. I prefer to be slightly dominant in a relationship, but I love being teased, tormented and bossed around in bed. Do I consider it lowering myself? No, because it's hot, all in good fun, and it's only during sex.

Do you catch my drift?

Jesus. She says she doesn't like sucking cock and all the S&A hags explode.

Some chicks don't. That's all there is to it. Nothing more nothing less.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

Some chicks don't. That's all there is to it. Nothing more nothing less.

A lot of girls don't. But that's not the point. Oral sex is an act of giving. You're not SUPPOSED to like it, but if you do, it's a huge bonus.

Suck it up, and suck his dick. I'm pretty sure he doesn't like putting his face in your snatch, but he does it any way, have a guess why. Because he wants you to enjoy your self.

You're a selfish slut (you lost it in one month! SLUUUUUT). Seriously, sex is dirty. It involves genitals, sweat, cum and your juices. If you can't deal with that, don't have sex. Simple.

Maybe you should try insexts. Does this poem turn you on?

I want to fuck a beetle

I want to fuck it hard

Reduce it to the fetal

And then smoke some shard

I want to cum on a mosquito

Then eat some mescalito

I want to shove flies in my ass

Ugly despicable and crass

I love them all, the squiggly things

Inside the earth they are the Kings

In my heart they reign supreme

Thinking about them makes me cream

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

A lot of girls don't. But that's not the point. Oral sex is an act of giving. You're not SUPPOSED to like it, but if you do, it's a huge bonus.



Ahh. Slippery, slippery slope my learned friend. Certainly it is an act of "sacrifice" or giving if the girl does it even though she detests it. But really, how much do you expect us to compromise our own morals and comfort for those we love?

Sure, its fine to say that she gets on her knees for her boyfriend, maybe wears outfits and whips him a bit... beats him so badly that he bleeds, and then orders him to fuck this young girl that’s blindfolded and tied to the bed because she’s a dirty “slut” who deserves it. I’m not even out ruling using a strap-on dildo on him.

But there have to be limits; she has to have a right to say she’s not comfortable with that. It just all reminds me of Karla and Paul Bernardo. We have to give people the right to say no. Otherwise you’re degrading her to a piece of meat in service to her man.



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I've never fucked a piece of meat, but that's next on my list, after apples. I doubt any woman is as good as a nice piece of fucking meat. Fuck I'm hungry.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

she has to have a right to say she’s not comfortable with that.

Of course she does. But a girl who wont suck dick is broken. Seriously, there's something wrong with her.

It's not degrading, demeaning, immoral or any of that bullshit. It'd be all cool too if she said "currently I don't feel comfortable with giving him oral sex, maybe in the future", but instead she says:

quote:Originally posted by Evil Person Girl:

Btw- blowjobs are totally out of question

Like there's no room for discussion. "End of arguement, period", such a female attitude. The only thing more female she can do is when she gets angry at him because he will want a bj, and when he asks why she's angry she'll say "if you don't know why I'm angry you don't deserve to know!"

Also...

quote:Originally posted by Evil Person Girl:

but im kind of disgusted of the idea of having the thing he urinates out of in my hands or mouth.

You're a kid or way too prissy. Either way you shouldn't be having sex.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

Of course she does. But a girl who wont suck dick is broken. Seriously, there's something wrong with her.

No. She's not. She's just no longer the norm. Not so long ago she would have fit right in, but yes, times have changed and suddenly she's broken because she doesn’t want to suck cock?

So what, in the future when pornography and MTV have changed society to the point where bisexuality is the norm and being fucked in the ass is expected, are you going to be fine with some bitch telling you “But you have to let him fuck you in the ass! It’s what everybody does. Maybe you should get some counselling”*

I want the fucking RIGHT to say I won’t do that, that it’s my personal choice, why are you insisting she does what everybody else does? Why are you so damn set on her bending to peer pressure?

She’s not broken. She’s not wrong. She has made a personal choice, you can point out that her parents or her religion influenced her to think like that, but then your youth influenced you to think Oral Sex was obligatory. What makes you so sure you’re the right one?

Some people are raised to believe fucking their own kids is what god intended; all things considered she’s not that bad.

*For that exercise you’re a hot blooded male who wouldn’t ever consider homosexuality.



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quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

blah blah fucking blah

You responded to one, hardly important aspect of my post, and disregarded the rest. So I want the RIGHT to do the same to yours.

Now I'm going to bed.

p.s. Simple solution: break up with him. If you're not willing to bend your morals, why should he? Just end it now and make it easier on him, he deserves better.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

But really, how much do you expect us to compromise our own morals and comfort for those we love?

I think you make an excellent point here.

Where love is concerned two thoughts come to my mind:

If you loved me then you would....

If you loved me then you wouldn't....

Sometimes finding a good compromise can be difficult.

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quote:Originally posted by arquin:

You responded to one, hardly important aspect of my post, and disregarded the rest. So I want the RIGHT to do the same to yours.



That was the only relevant part. You're just upset cause you can't refute what I said. *smug*

And there's no need to break up with him, he'll probably do it.

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

That was the only relevant part. You're just upset cause you can't refute what I said. *smug*

And there's no need to break up with him, he'll probably do it.

I lied, I didn't go to bed, but I don't see the point in arguing with you. You're not grasping the simple fact that oral sex is part of a healthy sex life. Also, maybe oral sex hasn't always been the norm, in the past it might have been tabboo. But she doesn't live in the past, does she?

Also, what type of reason is "he urinates out of it" for not performing oral sex? It's not even an adult like conclusion. It's something a fucking 12 year old says. Babies come out of girls vaginas, does that make them dirty? Would you hold a baby? She lets him insert the thing he unrinates from into her. Yet wont put it in her mouth. Sure it's gross because he urinates from it. There's a way to solve that: wash it, and just don't suck it (here comes the killer tip) WHILE he's pissing from it. Ya dig?

Sleep time.

I, personally like the idea of both giving and receiving.

For some reason, OP finds penises gross. That's her problem, and if sex is that important to her bf then he will dump her, and she will have to find some guy who is willing to live with somebody who finds them repulsive.

Or, her bf loves her for who she is and doesn't dump her, because he accepts that he can live without oral sex.

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quote:Originally posted by arquin:

You're not grasping the simple fact that oral sex is part of a healthy sex life. Also, maybe oral sex hasn't always been the norm, in the past it might have been tabboo. But she doesn't live in the past, does she?



I'm struggling to write a reply to this, I don't think you've addressed anything I've said, nor even considered it.

Everything you say insists she has no choice in the matter that it is socially wrong to not go down on him. All I was ever saying was that Oral sex isn't crucial to the act of sex itself.

However, what you can't seem to accept, most disturbingly (and I mean seriously) is that she has a personal choice in the matter. Can't you see that you seem like one of those drones in a dystopian movie? "You're just broken, this is the social norm, and it’s perfectly healthy. I think you need to go for a reprogramming"

(Keep in mind that before you commented on it twice, I'd dismissed her reasons (urine comes out of there) as stupid and paid them no heed.)

ok well yall can just forgive me for not qouting everything I agree with and disagree with cause there is just way to much of it. But the big thing is this no she is not broken for not liking to suck dick. Unfortunately hr bf has the to make the choice of wether to stay or find some other hot young woman who will give him a bj. Now as far as her reasoning about "the thing he urinates out of" Yeah well someone else had the right idea. YOUR TO PRISSY!! I mean come on he goes down on you and if I am not mistaken babies and blood come out of the same area. Yes? But yet he does this because you, in some way, make him think you enjoy it. And how do you know you wont like it if you never try it? I still stick to the idea of getting some gels to try and use. You say he isnt to good at going down on you? Well tell him to put a menthol cough drop in his mouth and after you have cum have sex imeadiatly(sp) afterwards. Works wonders.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

Seriously, sex is dirty. It involves genitals, sweat, cum and your juices. If you can't deal with that, don't have sex. Simple.

QFT.

Edit - OP, when I was your age, although I was incredibly horny, I still thought sex was 'icky'. But trust me, the sooner you let go of these feelings, the better. You will enjoy sex alot more if you do...



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quote:Originally posted by voodoonirvana:

That's weird. Sounds like you have no libido. I actually get more pleasure sometimes by just pleasuring HER rather than being pleasured.

ok i second that...now suck his cock for fuck sake...

If you're not ready, you're not ready. Tell him that. May be you jumped into the sex thing a little prematurely and you need to go slower. If he can't deal with that kick him to the curb.

Cheers,

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