well theres this girl i met about a week ago and i really think we've got something goin. were both attracted to each other, we communicate pretty well, (we've only seen each other in person like 3-4 times though because we live kinda far apart, but thats besides the point, we may not have known eachother for long but we feel like we know eacho ther well).

anyways i was talkin to her last nite and she dropped me this vague hint but i think if i figured it out right, she wants me to make the move and kind of make it an "official" bf/gf situation.



its hard to explain what she said, and i didnt catch all of it cuz she muted the phone in a couple spots to say stuff to her friends that i guess she didnt want me to her (ie. stuff that would let me definitively know wtf shes talking about, lol).

but basically she was like "most guys would have done...(something) after what we did the last few nights" (which was cuddle, talk and flirt a lil bit, play around and makeout). then she also gave these little indirect hints that she wanted to be shown respect and (i think...) that she wants to know she can trust me and not just leave her after we have sex. maybe because of her past boyfriend experiences.



we haven't been on an official "date" yet, maybe doing that then saying something to let her know i want a more serious relationship would do the trick?

could you guys gimme some advice here on what to do in this situation?

*Bursts through the glass ceiling to dispense his coveted pearls of wisdom!*

What you need to do is walk up to her, look her square in the eye and say in your most casual, most normal manner.......

"So... do you want to start dating officially then?"

AND THUS! I DECLARE YOU SHALL HAVE YOUR ANSWER YOUNG PADAWAN!

*Hurls smoke bomb to the ground.* *The air clears to reveal he has disappeared.* A mood of quiet awe settles across the thread*

i'd just play it so and let it naturally progress, rather than blatantly put the issue out in the open. If you're wrong about her wanting something, you save face this way...if you're right, then she will eventually turn the convo that way when she wants...don't move to quick or she'll think you're desperate, even if you're not....keep her always wondering, wanting more....if you make every first move she'll lose interest....she wants to catch you, not have you delivered.

I thought this was about marriage at first