Ok this is a little long and confusing, but i'd really appreciate your time and help. I'll try to make it as breif as possible.

Summary at bottom for lazy fucks.

I'm dating this girl, we'll call her S. Everything was going good until she introduced me to this online game. She had a friend on here, we'll call him SR. I knew S had something for him, because she'd send comments to his page and what not, like "I miss you" which she sent after we started going out. So while at her house, I found her password and sneaked onto her account. I found out she used to love this guy, but it was from a long time ago. They don't really talk anymore, but I couldn't be sure.

I later confronted her about him. I didn't like her talking to him, so she quit the game and said she wouldn't be on there. she said she was just using him, because he gave her stuff all the time. I found out later she was giving him stuff too though.

The next day I didn't really get an apology or anything and she was kind of ignoring me. When I got home I found out she made a new account that she wasn't going to tell me about. Of course, I got super pissed and we broke up.

Before that, she ignored me at her grandma's house to the point where I was just going to leave, before she came and said she was sorry. She's ignored me in stores and once at the movies. She says she's shy in public, which I believe, because at her house, she's all over me.

Her password was the same for her e-mail. On her e-mail I found out she asked this one guy, who liked her, to a movie. I confronted her about it, she said she didn't go to the movie, she set it up for her friend, which I kind of believe.

When I write her long messages telling her how much I love her and how she's special to me, she doesn't really reply to it, only a little bit. kind of like "me too" and that's it.

So we've broken up so many times, but she begs for me back, telling me that i'm the only one in her life and it'll never happen again and stuff like that. She promises she'll never ignore me again. When we break up, she cries and her mom has to talk for her, and she threatens to kill herself. The last time, i had to call the cops because I was afraid she'd really do it.

I moved away to another state with my dad a long time ago, because I didn't think she really loved me, after all the shit she's pulled. But we've been together long-distance for quite awhile now. She never wanted me to go, she always wants me to come back, she tells me she loves me, she makes me things and draws things for me. She's a really awesome girl.

We were going to forget the past, and start all over. It's too hard for me to forget the past, and I feel like I can't even trust her. The truth is, I kind of don't. I feel like I can't love her because she's shit on me so many times. She's ignored me so damn much (on "accident though")

But like I said, she doesn't ignore me all the time. She tells me she loves me so much, and back when i was there, in her room, she'd be all over me. She really wants me to move back, she tells me she can change, and she'll never ignore me again and stuff like that.

So I can try to break up with her somehow without having her want to kill herself, because I just don't feel it anymore. Get on with my life and find someone here so theres no hassle, because I really just want to stay here.

OR

I can really try giving her another chance, and visit her for spring break to see if she can be a better girlfriend, like she says she reallys wants to. she says she wants to be a better girlfriend to me, and all she wants to do is love me. But like i said it's hard to trust her and love her because of all her mistakes.

As of now, we're together, but earlier today we were on the phone and she was talking to her cousin and ignoring me a little bit. Only for about 30 seconds, but she could of at least said she was on the phone or something.

summary

This girl is in love with me, and I was in love with her, but she's ignored me and lied to me and made me feel like shit so many times, but she says she doesn't mean to. She tells me she really loves me and wants me to move back with her, but it's hard for me because I feel I can't trust her, and I really don't want to move back.

She wants me to give her a chance to be a better girlfriend. I've already given her like 5 chances. It's hard to let her go because I love her, but I hate the things she does. When we break up, she cries and her mom talks for her. She threatens to kill herself, so I'm afraid I can't try to break up with her again.

What do I do?

Forget her, you'll be better for it. She sounds like she is more trouble than she's worth.

She's manipulating you and using you for her own ends. Break all contact and move on.

It disgusts me when someone threatens their own life on a matter like this.

In reality, she's saying that she has nothing left to bargain. Leave her, and don't try to be gentle about it. I doubt she'll so much as cut up her arms; even if she does, all she wants is attention.

And the only way to teach her that that is unacceptable, is to let her sort out her own affairs.



Oh, and by the way: Shut up, Steve.

[This message has been edited by RedWasp (edited 01-29-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

Break all contact and move on.

Yep. It's time to cut her loose, put that fish back in the sea. You'll catch another.

[This message has been edited by Whore of God (edited 01-29-2007).]

She's playing you man.

quote:So I can try to break up with her somehow without having her want to kill herself

My sisters BF threatens that all the time, so every single time she gets back with him, not only because of that but because she loves him(even though he cheated on her and almost killed her at one point

You will never ever get out of that one unless you take action and stand your ground. She should threaten you to not split up with her, not if she really is the decent GF you love.

quote:and I feel like I can't even trust her. The truth is, I kind of don't. I feel like I can't love her because she's shit on me so many times

You've just said it yourself; the relationship wouldn't work just for the fact you don't trust her and don't feel the same love.

Why waste time if it will never be reletivly(*sp) stable.

quote:Get on with my life and find someone here so theres no hassle, because I really just want to stay here.

Your entitled to do whatever you want, don't let her pressure you into anything. She's the one that fucked up; let her live with the mistake while you could possibly have a happy life with someone else.

She's baggage dude, I'd let go; because it most likely won't work out anyway. And one day you'll regret you didn't get out when you had the chance.

She will not change.

I know this because it's similar to my sisters situation, except hers is worse.

Hope I helped.

It's fairly likely her feelings for you are genuine, but she doesn't know how to express them, and isn't learning.

I'd suggest taking a lead in the relationship, and teaching her how to be. Don't worry about treading on her toes: She needs the discipline, and if you love her as you say you do, I think it's time to put in the hard yards.

Is it just me or did the get the perception that his game maybe runescape. lmao. Is it?

But for the girl, I think you should just leave her and move on she is more detrimental then beneficial. Cut your losses and move on.

i had a girl like that one time. we went out 12 times in 1 year (i gave her 3 chances, the rest were from her annoying me and my friend trying to be hitch) the best advice i can give is that you just need to move on and forget her.