Here's the deal, im 22 yrs old.. Ive been with this girl for a little over six months.. when things are good.. theyre great! She takes care of me, cooks, i get laid whenever i want with at the most a couple days in between... At one point she told me she just couldnt deal with the commitment and needed time blah blah blah, which i understand (shes 32 and the mother of two, and a good one at that) so women who are single mothers tend to be generally more independant because they have to be...so we break up for about a week and she calls and tells me she IS in love with me and wants to give me her all...so we get back together.. more bliss for a couple of weeks, until you know how you just start to get that feeling, by their comments, and the way they react to you, that they just arent that into it, and for lack of a better phrase you just dont "feel the love"?

well thats the direction it was going and i could tell it was going to end up the way it did the first time, so i took the initiative to try and save myself more heartbreak, and broke up with her.... a week later there is a girl at my house and were in bed.. im really trying to just get over my ex which is really hard because i really did love her and i know you may say, "you didnt love her or you wouldnt have a chick at your house a week later" allthough i dont think thats true.. i was trying to justify it in my own mind so i could forget about her.. shed made it VERY clear after i broke it off, that it wasnt going to work anyway... so here i am with this girl in my bed and who starts calling? my ex.... my roomates gf answers the phone and proceeds to tell my ex that "woman to woman" this wasnt a good time to come out to the house... so of course 30 minutes later my ex is in the driveway.. thanks bitch.... anyway... she calls and tells me shes outside and the my roomates gf(ex now)runs outside and starts talking shit to her because i guess my ex called her a cunt on the phone... so theyre both drunk and arguing, and finally the bitch that made her show up comes inside and my ex calls me and says shes scared cause this chick tried to beat her up and to come home with her... i want to soooo bad but of course i cant... i tell her i have to get up early for work and that i want her to call me tomorrow and see if she still thinks she "loves" me because right now shes drunk and i dont need to hurt myself or her anymore... she gets furious because she basically knows ive got someone here but cant prove it... she leaves furious at me.. that was two days ago.. am i stupid for continuing to even pursue her, even though i know i love her and i think she loves me....? this fucking sucks

She's older than you, has two kids, can't make her mind up as to whether or not she loves you and wants to be with you.

Dude, go for the easy route and work towards a future and fuck as many chicks on the way as possible.

This one seems to be a little...Emotionally confused. Not worth pursuing something that has no real certainty and too much trouble for what it's worth.

Do you really want to be with someone that much older..and so..encumbered?

She might be nice and all, but she's allreay done the love and kids thing, now she's looking to settle down. From the sounds of it she wanting a father charecter for the kids, and she's not quite sure if you're up to it.



To be honest, you're probably not. At your age you should be having a little fun with a girl of relative age, not being trapped into being a father/provider/protector allready.

Especially considering they're not even your kids!

End it now. The longer you leave it, the more painfull and harder it will be.