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Me and my girlfriend have been together over a year, We've had sex and stuff, But she will only let me "Fingur" her through her clothes.(If you even want to consider it finguring)

Every time I try to go inside her pants she stops me. Why is this?! And how do I get her to let me "pleasure" her without her clothes in the way.?



It makes no sense to me because we have sex, Thanks for any replies.

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[This message has been edited by isTHATso (edited 01-26-2007).]

OMG I spelled it wrong again, oh well sorry!! Any advice?

I fingure that makes absolutely no sense. I cant fingure out why she wont let you fingure her bare. I mean you have to fingure, you've had sex, it doesnt fingure that she'll only let you fingure her through her panties. But, shes a woman. Fingures, dont it?

[This message has been edited by Shadowhunter_36 (edited 01-26-2007).]

^^^*chuckles*

I once dated a woman that was just great and let me do whatever and would do whatever to me...except....that what you mentioned above.

I started to ask and the look and the vibe was REALLY serious, so I left it at that. That which was implied was that something terrible had happened. ie. RAPE or inappropriate touching at some point so I let it go. Could be the same reason this chick is doing it to you. If she is cool with every thing else, then dont push it cause fingERing a bitch is not as fun as fucking or eating so dont blow it(no pun intended)

Sorry shadow about my spelling, I'm not sure why I forgot how to spell Finger, wait is that right?

I rather agree with asa.

However, if you feel you must try then I recommend that you slide your fingers under her panties but don't try to finger her. Instead just lightly touch nearby. Do that for a while and she might then invite you to do more as time goes on.

Btw. What kind of condition are your hands in? I mean are they clean and well manicured. If not then make certain they are. It's a must in my book or it's a no go.

my hands are always clean and i keep my nails short.

She won't let me eat her out either, but we have sex...lol

She tells me she's not ready, she'll give me a hand job when i ask her to though, ugh?! Confusing...

Most likely she thinks she smells disgusting down there and doesn't want you putting your body parts except the one that's meant for that hole in there.

Really now, you need to slowly work on her, giving her a compliment or so. Heck, maybe try the taking a shower together way!

I agree with asa. If you've been together for a year, maybe try to very gently ask about it, but if she keeps it to herself, don't push it. Don't keep trying the fingering or anything else she's uncomfortable with either, sounds like it might be upsetting her.

yea she is very self consious<*SP*? She let's me suck on her nipples, but she doesn't like me seeing them alot, she is way to self consious, I complement her alot and tell her how good she looks.

She really does look good, She is short, 17yrs/old, about 5'2" and like 103lbs. Skinny,

That brings me to another question, how do I get her less self consious? Just keep complementing her and stuff and hope it works? Thanks

If you've been together for a year and she is that self conscious, there are big problems headed your way. Furthermore, why aren't you asking her these questions?

I sense a rift between you and her that will undo your entire relationship if you do not fix it.

She might just have a very sensitive clit, and prefers to be played with through cloth. But that shouldn't have any bearing on actually penetrating her with your fingers...

It confuses me, I guess she is just scared or nervous, BEcause The most she did with a guy before she went out with me is kiss, That was the same situation with me, We lost our virginities to each other,

One of her main things is she is scared I'm going to leave her. Her aunts told her I was going to break up with her as soon as "I got what I want" So she was nervous to have sex at first. She realizes I'm serious and I don't ever plan on leaving her,...