Well, today I went to have lunch with my gf and we got on the subject about how many people we have slept with besides each other. Well her number is rather high. Now its only me. But it made me feel very sick and I had to get away from her right away and I haven't talked to her since. I knew she wasn't a virgin but not that high of a number. Now does it bother you or not? Should I care or be happy shes changing herself for me?

You're a virgin, arent you?

When I was younger, I wouldnt even date a girl unless I knew exactly how many other guys she'd been with. And I usually expected it to be 0.

It was really important to me that my first time was her first time too, and unless there was some special circumstances, thats what I expected.

So finally I met a girl and it happened like I wanted.

After being sexually active for over a year, I could care less. When you're out and you see an unbelievably gorgeous little thing in a miniskirt and no bra, you're not thinking to yourself...'man, I'd love to hit that. But I wonder how many other guys she's been with?'

You get over it eventually, in the meantime...just go with what feels right.

Nope, I'm not a virgin but my sexual experience doesn't come anywhere close to hers

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

Nope, I'm not a virgin but my sexual experience doesn't come anywhere close to hers

The more you have under your belt, the less it matters.

well its just the thought of another dick other then mine in her that bothers me

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

Well her number is rather high. Now its only me. But it made me feel very sick and I had to get away from her right away and I haven't talked to her since. I knew she wasn't a virgin but not that high of a number.

I hate to break it to you man, but if you double or triple the number she gave you you'll probably be closer to the truth.

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

Should I care or be happy shes changing herself for me?

You care, there's no "should" about that.

Now, does it affect your feelings toward her? That's the real question. Before you knew how many guys she had been with you had an illusion about her. Now that you know do you think you will see her a bit differently?

I wonder...in what way is she "changing herself for me"? Maybe, she is changing herself for herself because she wants something better than what she has had before you. I think that is a better way to look at it because that type of change is a change that is more likely to stick hard and fast.

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quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

I hate to break it to you man, but if you double or triple the number she gave you you'll probably be closer to the truth.

Haha, truth.

My boyfriend only slept with one other person, according to him. I'm inclined to believe him, but I dunno. Wouldn't be much more than that though.

It would REALLY bother me if my b/f had slept with a lot of other girls. It would raise a ton of questions that I wouldn't want answered.

It bothers me. I'd only consider a virgin.

Whats the number?

Yeah, the actualy number is rather important, if my gf said something like 30 or 40, then it would bug me. But as stated earlier..

quote:The more you have under your belt, the less it matters.

yea try 35+ sexual partners and never being tested for std's... I was a virgin at the time and about 2months into the relationship when i found out.. before I found out the number she played it off like she was this innocent girl... needless to say i was a bit pissed off. she lied about a lot of sh**

**edit for # of sexual partners

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My last girlfriend told me not to ask. I took a moment to think, and decided that would be the best option.

Basically, as long as the girl isn't horribly loose, STD riddled or in a slutty phase in their life, I'm cool with it.

I don't think it would bother me. It's the past. You have to take your partner as he/she is, and that's it. If you can't deal with it, don't get involved in the first place.

Don't place requirments on your partner that you can't follow yourself. If you're not a virgin and you've been domed by hundreds of chicks what gives you the right to expect that she's a virgin. Suck it up, the older we get the more experience we get. I doubt any of the prudes here are still going to be dating virgins when they turn 25-30.

My first real non-imaginary girlfriend had slept with at least 40 men the year I met her and god only knows how many before.

Never really bothered me how partners a woman has had before me.

This sound kinda fucked i know but the first time i sleep with a woman then both she and I are virgins again. The past is of no interest, only the future.

I have insanely big paranoia and jealousy issues, so yes, it would bother me a lot.

my boyfriend and I each had one other person...

I dunno, It doesn't bother me, if it was like 20 it would feel a lot less special but no doubt I'd get over it. We've been dating for over a year now and I just think "He could leave any time if he thought he could get anyone to love him better than I do, and he doesn't." plus I'm just not insecure like most boys

quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

I hate to break it to you man, but if you double or triple the number she gave you you'll probably be closer to the truth.lol

Ok...the real question is, how many guys?

If you don't want her, pass her to me!

It never mattered to me. In fact, I lost my virginity to a girl who had been sexually active for a few years prior and had been with a lot of guys considering age, I suppose. It never really popped in my mind about how many people she's had sex with because it really doesn't matter to me.

ok well the number is above 40 but below 100 I have only been with 12 girls(including her) but hers is in the 50's thats what she told me and she said it might be higher like 60 she lost count because she did some mistakes before she met me and is changing herself for the better because she doesn't wanna loose me but that kinda bugs me ALOT! Also shes been trying to call me and we were supposed to hang out tonight but I don't know if I can talk with her now. Ya I have no clue why this is really bothering me maybe its cause I love her that much or maybe I'm stupid. I think if I see her now I'm gonna be sick

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Damn that sucks! a number that high would cause me to think the girl is a whore. at least it wasnt none of your friends. imagine your friends talking about how they all fucked your girl and getting into details about it. I went through that with my ex. she fucked over 20 guys and told all of them she was a virgin.

quote:Originally posted by Punisher1012:

Damn that sucks! a number that high would cause me to think the girl is a whore.

You gotta work on that attitude,boy.

Cos if you had slept with 40+ women you'd have it printed on your t-shirt in big Day-Glo letters wouldn't you?

quote:Originally posted by Punisher1012:

Damn that sucks! a number that high would cause me to think the girl is a whore. at least it wasnt none of your friends. imagine your friends talking about how they all fucked your girl and getting into details about it. I went through that with my ex. she fucked over 20 guys and told all of them she was a virgin.

Well, she came from a different city we met in college and none of my friends knew her before I introduced them to her. She did tell me before that she has a bad high school past and now I believe her.

Holy fuck over some of the numbers I have seen here.

Numbers don't mean shit in a long term relationship.It's the depth of emotion she can feel for ya.

A person who has a low # is probably be better in bed and life because relationships develope and force a person to mature.

The high # seems to correlate to people who cannot commit to a relationship and don't have the maturity to commit.

Having a lot of partners is a sighn of insecurity. Some feel that the more people want them the better they feel. They cannot realize that just scummmy people who want them. Some are afraid of being alone and will have sex to prevent loneliness.

A lot of middle age people go through a midlife change and sleep with a lot of people to fill in thier empty soul and lives.

What I am getting at........... Long term relationship is far more meaningful than a qik pik partner to mastubate into.

My boy's slept with only 3 other girls, and that doesn't really bother me. It only gets to me when I think about it, and I just don't like to know that he's been that intimate with other girls. Especially like... the one before me who he's still good friends with and we all hang out sometimes.

I know my past bothers him a little, but none of my sexual partners have really been THAT intimate. Not emotionally anyway. But I don't think he likes me idea of my slut stage (that lasted through 3 guys) either.

We love each other though, so it's not really an issue. Just an uncomfortable thought.

I'm guessing 10 or more, and to a degree it does. but we're in love, so it doesn't change a thing.

I feel very sorry for her now. I think you're going to let her down big time. It's a shame she says she's changing herself for the better because she doesn't want to lose you...instead of changing for herself.

(this thread makes me very very sad)

Holy shit that's a high number.

I have no useful advice however, good luck.

My G/F has been with 7 other guys and about 5 girls. She is my second. It sometimes bothers me, but only when she talks about stuff she did with em. I don't care since she is clean, but don't keep reminding me.

Long story short, it doesn't bother me. She has told me and I couldn't care less. I actually don't care about much. Well, actually I don't care about anything at all.

I don't understand why I should let things bother me. It only creates stress and I have no need for it. I don't see the point in making myself stressed out when I can be happy instead. I'd much rather be happy than be paranoid, bothered and stupid insignificant details.

Yeah, its uncomfortable to think about, but I really don't care to much..as long as I'm not thinking about it - it doesn't matter, which I rarely do, so..

Me on the other hand, I'm still a virgin...soo.

(Long distance relationship >.< )

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20 or so, 25 maybe, 30?

No matter.

It doesn't bother me, besides most girls get tight again lawl. But anything too high, then I'll be bothered.

Like reject i have insane jealousy issues and thinking that someone i liked had been with over 40 guys like you said, she said she has, well...yeah...id probably pass her off as a whore and feel really sick to the stomach.

I would constantly imagine 50 guys lined up, or in a group and imagine how many people that is, because 50 people all together is A LOT, hell, i get jealous and sick if i was with my girlfriend and ONE guy she had been with was there too.

[This message has been edited by among_the_living (edited 01-27-2007).]

She's my first; I'm her second.

And because of that first guy, she messed me around a fair bit when I was getting ready to ask her out.

Doesn't matter in the least.

moral of the story: hit hookers first, and then find a relationship.

quote:Originally posted by among_the_living:

Like reject i have insane jealousy issues and thinking that someone i liked had been with over 40 guys like you said, she said she has, well...yeah...id probably pass her off as a whore and feel really sick to the stomach.

I would constantly imagine 50 guys lined up, or in a group and imagine how many people that is, because 50 people all together is A LOT, hell, i get jealous and sick if i was with my girlfriend and ONE guy she had been with was there too.



Ya thats exactly what I'm picturing right now. Its making me sick as well. I couldn't see her last night because of it. But ya shes trying to change for herself cause I inspire her apparently. But thats still a high number and I've been cheated on before already once and it fucking hurts.

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

Well, today I went to have lunch with my gf and we got on the subject about how many people we have slept with besides each other. Well her number is rather high. Now its only me. But it made me feel very sick and I had to get away from her right away and I haven't talked to her since. I knew she wasn't a virgin but not that high of a number. Now does it bother you or not? Should I care or be happy shes changing herself for me?

I didn't read any of the other posts in this thread, but I have to say.

Hell yea it'd bother me, and also, she may be "trying" or whatever not to be a whore. But a WHORE is a WHORE is a WHORE and will ALWAYS be a WHORE. Its in her blood, trust me I've gone through it TWICE!!! They try to be good and shit with you, but FUCK THAT its in the hoes nature. She can't fight her nature pimpin', now you have to decide whether you can trust the bitch, cuz she a hoe, and you can't trust no hoe.

My Ex who swears she's not a hoe, and calls my other ex a hoe. Also swears she has never cheated. But I just fucked this bitch the other day, and the hoe has a fuckin boyfriend. So really dude, think about it!

The issue never really bothered me in the past and at my age it would be silly to be worried about it.

I think I'd have to wonder about a woman who hadn't had more than a few partners by this time....

quote:Originally posted by Parallax:

I hate to break it to you man, but if you double or triple the number she gave you you'll probably be closer to the truth.

QFT.

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

she lost count because she did some mistakes before she met me and is changing herself for the better because she doesn't wanna loose me

The changing herself part would bother me more than the losing count part. I don't know why, but I wouldn't trust a girl that said that to me.

OP how old are you?

I'll admit to having only been with two girls. To this day, I'm the only guy one of them has slept with. The other one had been with more men than I cared to think about at the time.

Sex is something special to me, and I want it to mean something more than a than a few hours of fun to the woman I'm with too.

I can get over being with a woman with a high number, but I have to be convinced that she really cares about me for that to happen.

quote:Originally posted by among_the_living:

Like reject i have insane jealousy issues and thinking that someone i liked had been with over 40 guys like you said, she said she has, well...yeah...id probably pass her off as a whore and feel really sick to the stomach.

I would constantly imagine 50 guys lined up, or in a group and imagine how many people that is, because 50 people all together is A LOT, hell, i get jealous and sick if i was with my girlfriend and ONE guy she had been with was there too.



Took the words right out of my mouth.

But, if she was in a relationship, I wouldn't mind, as I could understand it. I mean my ex (who I might be getting back together with) did stuff with her ex (but not sex), but that doesn't bother me at all, because she was in a fairly serious relationship.

But, if she just had meaningless drunk sex i'd just tell her to go fuck herself and probably wouldn't talk to her again.

It used to bother me. I was really concerned about my exs former sluttiness actually...but I figured they were special circumstances, and she had changed that and alot of other areas that were intertwined (drug use and such), so yeah, she wasn't a slut anymore, so it was fine.

I lost my virginity to another virgin, and in retrospect I'm kind of glad I did, but since then, I don't really care as long as the person isn't STD-ridden.

Every girl I've ever been with has slept with more guys then me never bothered me at all. Haha in fact I like it more because they have all been outrageous in bed... Haha plus you know when they say your good they mean it.

I'm not exactly in any position to critisise.

*toodles off*

-deus-

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

You gotta work on that attitude,boy.

Cos if you had slept with 40+ women you'd have it printed on your t-shirt in big Day-Glo letters wouldn't you?

Bwuahahahaha !!! Owned.

<3

quote:Originally posted by Vilkacis:

OP how old are you?

I'm 21

my ex had been with i think 3 other people before me, and she was my 1st. i hating the fact that she had been with other people, and i couldn't think about it, cause it'd make me feel terrible. my current gf hadn't been with anyone, and i'm glad. we're very close.

Heh, this is a good one.

I'm 20, my gf is 16.

She's had one boyfriend and they had sex. She's my first and we're having sex.

If I let it get to me, which happens a few minutes each day, where I can't supress it anymore, it eats me up. Makes me wanna puke, makes me wanna kill people, makes me wanna kill myself. But then I try to forget it and just hide it away somewhere in my mind where I'm not likely to come across it for the next few hours...

Yeah, I'm very very fucked up. Wish I was still a virgin, so much simpler...

OP how many guys was it?

just Curious like george

My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks.

my girl has been with only 5 other guys, well thats how many shes slept with, i was scared to ask how many dicks shes sucked, not because I think it would be a high amount, but it just really bothers me knowing how many people have been there before me, and its kind of a double standard type thing, because i've been with over 15 girls....its normal to feel kind of sick over something like that...but eh what do i know

quote:Originally posted by fat_people_suck:

my girl has been with only 5 other guys, well thats how many shes slept with, i was scared to ask how many dicks shes sucked, not because I think it would be a high

I've been with 7 guys, and I've only sucked 2 dicks (included in the 7).

I'm my boyfriend's fifth. It bothers me to actually think about him sexing other girls, but it's not like that's relevant to our relationship now. And I'd be a huge hypocrite if I got pissy about it, it's not like I was a virgin when we got together.

quote:Originally posted by bodomised:

My girlfriend sucked 37 dicks.

In a row?

quote:Originally posted by senorfrog:

Haha plus you know when they say your good they mean it.

You keep telling yourself that.

quote:Originally posted by Prometheus:

In a row?

it bothered me when i was 14.

Damn SLUT SLUT SLUT WHORE.

WHAT A NASTY BITCH, SHES THE COMMUNITIES CUM DUMPSTER.... HAHAHAHA

LOL

I don'tl; as long as I am getting my share. But she better not think of anything long-term or serious with me, cos she ain't getting any. That's why nice girls finish first in the end.

Since im my girlfriends only it obviously doesn't bother me. But I could deal with maybe 5 partners but anymore unless older ages(shes 17 im 19) I don't know about. Especially not 25+ that would make me think of ANYONE as a whore. Ive messed around a tiny bit more then her but not much aside from her really.

And jacketech yea there is a double standard and all and yes if I had fucked 50+girls id brag about it and put it on a shirt but that doesn't mean I wouldnt be a slutty dirty whore.

So... if this bothers you THAT much (eating you up etc.) then why are you with that person? You should realize that this is things from their past, something you can't change.

To me, it doesn't matter whatsoever. I'm happily married, by wife has kids from previous marriage and I see them as my own.

I knew what I went into when I went into it, and I have never regretted it.

We often tell funny stories that happened with EX-es, and neither of us has any problems with it.

well because of some things that happened on Saturday I dumped her

2, and yes, it really bothers me.

Yes, I was a virgin before her.

Wow. I was considering making a post like this myself. I told her the other day "Why the fuck did you fuck those guys? Did you think it would make them like you or something? Why? For me....it just makes me feel like you're not mine...like Im having to share you."

I think it hurt her...well im sure it did. But I can't get over that fact. She was a slut. I hate that so much. Thats why I try to keep myself from getting too attatched.

Everytime I think about it...everytime I think about some guy touching her, laying on top of her, fucking her...I want to destroy everything. I want to tell her what a disgusting little whore she is and never see her again. It fucking tears me up inside, every. single.time.

But then, when im lying next to her...looking in her big blue eyes, and she says "Trevor...I love you. I just want you to know that you make me so happy." Something just breaks inside. I get all mushy and I want to say something to the same effect. But I can't. All because of these stupid feelings about her past. So I just hug her. And kiss her on the forehead. And I pretend that I'm asleep.

CaspeR

quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

Wow. I was considering making a post like this myself. I told her the other day "Why the fuck did you fuck those guys? Did you think it would make them like you or something? Why? For me....it just makes me feel like you're not mine...like Im having to share you."



Girls like to get off just as much as guys. It's not like she knew that you'd come along and have a problem with it. I don't know your girlfriend, but most girls aren't so stupid that they'll sleep with a guy just because they think it'll make the guy like them. She was probably just having fun, no harm done as long as she was careful about protection...

I think you're judging her pretty harshly, especially because you weren't a virgin when you got together either...Well, I'm assuming you weren't because you're hot, lol.

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It really mattered to me that my first girl was also a virgin, and she was. I don't think I would really care about it so much now, though, as long as they got tested and weren't sleeping around while trying to date me.

Just seems like a non-issue.

Sick boy yes it is true that girls like getting off just as much as guys but its also true that you don't need to fuck 50 guys to have sex 50times. Ive been with one girl yet ive fucked over 200times in the past year thats NOT including the times I got off from hand jobs and blow jobs either. I mean I can see having to have a few one night stands when you don't have a boyfriend or what ever but fucking 40 differnt guys/gals? Im pretty sure the guy was right that she was just dumb I mean some girls do feel the need to put out for a guy to like them.

What's wrong with having multiple partners? Not everyone wants a relationship, and unless you can find a fuck buddy, then you're inevitably going to have sex with a lot of different people...

I couldn't love a girl who did anything with more than one.

quote:Originally posted by tibberous:

I couldn't love a girl who did anything with more than one.



But you could fuck a girl who did anything with more than one.

Hopefully the girl you love who has only had one or no other partner in her life will be okay with your having had more than one.

My sister has slept with over 50 men.... and the only boyfriend of hers that was ever bothered by the number turned out to be a psychopath.... not saying you're definately all psychopaths.... but you definately are being pathetic.

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

ok well the number is above 40 but below 100 I have only been with 12 girls(including her) but hers is in the 50's thats what she told me and she said it might be higher like 60...

Wow! That's a lot of cock. And I'm sure some of them were really big, and she loved it when they slide in and out of her pussy.

60 cocks at an average of 6' is a total of 30 feet of cock!

Man, if she's under 40 she's a total sleaze bag.

Say you lost your virginity at 16. From sixteen to twenty, you had sex with a different person every month. That would be 48 people. If you're not in a relationship, or don't want one, it would be very easy to rack up a number like that, and I don't think having sex once a month is slutty...

Actually, Sick_boy, I don't think it's that easy to rack up that kind of a number. No, once a month isn't slutty...but a different boy every month IS slutty. Sorry.

It's really all about your own perceptions, I guess. If you don't think dating someone who has slept with more people than four others put together is slutty, then it's not. Up to you.

Yeah, I get pissed when I have to date 9 year olds to get some virgin pussay.

quote:Originally posted by Chibi Shinigami:

Actually, Sick_boy, I don't think it's that easy to rack up that kind of a number. No, once a month isn't slutty...but a different boy every month IS slutty. Sorry.



But how does it make a difference if they're different people, or the same person? Especially if you don't want a relationship. Sex is sex, in my opinion.

quote:Originally posted by CaSp3R88:

But then, when im lying next to her...looking in her big blue eyes, and she says "Trevor...I love you. I just want you to know that you make me so happy." Something just breaks inside. I get all mushy and I want to say something to the same effect. But I can't. All because of these stupid feelings about her past. So I just hug her. And kiss her on the forehead. And I pretend that I'm asleep.

CaspeR

Maybe she said that to all of them?

So THIS is what that thread about "Tesla's girl takes 30 feet of cock and gallons of cum". Anyways, when I found out my ex had slept with 12 people, I got insanely fucked up over it and it caused me to act in a way that would eventually end us. Good luck. (DUMP HER)

You know what I don't get. That people actually think about what their current partner did with other partners. Although...most of mine did discuss their relationships with me. Some of that included the sex. But I never actually pictured them having sex in my mind.

Maybe it's odd that I don't.



edit:

I really don't think about sex a lot. That could be why.

Never mind....:P

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I already dumped her

Why do we hate sluts? We should worship them.

They just want to make us happy. They're doing what they're supposed to do. I <3 sluts.

[This message has been edited by Rizzo in a box (edited 02-01-2007).]

It'd bother me if she'd had 30 feet of cock.

What I find interesting is the fact that most people on this board are addicted to porn, and yet they scorn women who have had more than one partner. Either you approve of sexual freedom, or you don't. Make up your minds.

quote:Originally posted by Digital_Savior:

What I find interesting is the fact that most people on this board are addicted to porn, and yet they scorn women who have had more than one partner. Either you approve of sexual freedom, or you don't. Make up your minds.

QFT

I'm just now discovering true sexual freedom. What a fraud the "sexual revolutions" of the past have been! What a fraud De Sade was! Frauds, all of them!

quote:Originally posted by Digital_Savior:

What I find interesting is the fact that most people on this board are addicted to porn, and yet they scorn women who have had more than one partner. Either you approve of sexual freedom, or you don't. Make up your minds.

Not at all. I'm figuring Tesla's lady is probably in her 20's. [please correct me if I'm wrong.] To have fucked 60 men - or 30 feet of cock - is sleazy. She's got a problem.

Nothing wrong with 2-5 guys a year if some bitch is single.

My girl's been with about 20 guys over a 10-year period. That's 10 feet of cock. And for her age range I'd say that's pretty normal. She likes to fuck. I'm definitely cool with that.

But 30 feet of cock, man! That's a different cock sliding into her sloppy cunt every month for 5 straight years. That's a straight-up skank.

quote:Originally posted by lordsjohnson:

Not at all. I'm figuring Tesla's lady is probably in her 20's. [please correct me if I'm wrong.] To have fucked 60 men - or 30 feet of cock - is sleazy. She's got a problem.

Nothing wrong with 2-5 guys a year if some bitch is single.

My girl's been with about 20 guys over a 10-year period. That's 10 feet of cock. And for her age range I'd say that's pretty normal. She likes to fuck. I'm definitely cool with that.

But 30 feet of cock, man! That's a different cock sliding into her sloppy cunt every month for 5 straight years. That's a straight-up skank.



See? You're restricting yourself to a system. That isn't freedom. That isn't sexual anarchy. That's sexual fascism.

quote:Originally posted by Rizzo in a box:

See? You're restricting yourself to a system. That isn't freedom. That isn't sexual anarchy. That's sexual fascism.

Who's talking about sexual anarchy?

I'd call it common sense and self respect.

No freedom?

Hey, his girl can fuck a mile of cock if she wants. She absolutely has the freedom. I also have the freedom to chose to not fuck someone like that.

quote:Originally posted by lordsjohnson:



I'd call it common sense and self respect.



Hahahahaha

quote:Originally posted by Digital_Savior:

What I find interesting is the fact that most people on this board are addicted to porn, and yet they scorn women who have had more than one partner. Either you approve of sexual freedom, or you don't. Make up your minds.

They're not scorning more than one partner, some are but the general consensus is that 60 makes a fucking slut. Seriously even the most famous of porn stars have been only a hundred or two movies whereas this girl is approaching that range

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

But how does it make a difference if they're different people, or the same person? Especially if you don't want a relationship. Sex is sex, in my opinion.

Well the fact that its a DIFFERNT person, I mean thats a lot of people that could potentially have had something. I mean yea once a month for sex isn't bad at all hell its almost weird only that small ammount but differnt guy every month? I mean it can't be that hard for a girl to find ONE Guy thats willing to fuck her more then once a month or once a year even. So if a girl doesn't want a realationship but wants sex she can easily just have one or two or three fuck buddies and have as much sex but not just throwing her pussy EVERYWHERE.

Heres a good comparasion say you get to be the person to ride a cool rocket ship(shut up I realize how irrelevent but still works) I mean riding a rocket ship would be pretty bad ass right becuase how many people can say they have ridden in one? But what if everyone in your town had already ridden one? That would kind of take the fun out of riding the rocket ship right because its not something special everyone else has already done it. Now say you ride the same rocket ship but this time only a very select few people say five people, have ridden it but they each have done it 10 times or so. Now its still not as special as being the ONLY person to ride it or getting to ride it for the 4th time instead of 50th time but wouldn't it be a lot better then riding it after everyone else has ridden it a bunch of times? Now exchange rocket ship for girl and times you ride it for times someone sticks their dick in the girl.

Now I know there is the sexual urge to go out and fuck but as far as im concerned id much rather find one or two good fuck buddies and fuck them for as long as possible before I start just going around town screwing a bunch of differnt girls. Id much rather keep my self respect and not just throw my dick into any pussy that I can get. Thats just my opinion and yes if a girl does have sex with a differnt man each month or even more that does make her a SLUT. Anyone saying that someone(under 30) who has fucked 30+ people is not a slut is dumb, LOOK UP THE WORD SLUT. The definition of a slut is someone who is dirty immoral or promiscuous.

Variety is the spice of life...

Yea until you catch herpes or your dick falls of or you get some random girl pregnet or get pregnet from some guy you don't know. But I mean if you don't have a problem with it then no big deal I mean im no prude I just would much rather not go fucking anything that lets me. And I wouldn't be like the guys that say they want to throw up if my girl had fucked 30 guys but id much rather have a wife thats only been with me or with me and a couple others. But hey go have fun its what lifes about.

Haha, I guess I should have said, "Variety is the spice of life...But always use a condom!"

I dunno, I just think it's kind of pointless to try and dictate which numbers are acceptable when it comes to sexual partners. To each his own.

And to the person who said it's acceptable for a single girl to sleep with 5 guys a year: Lose virginity at 16, and by the time you're 26, you've had 50 partners...But that's not okay? Pffft...

Anyway, I know I'm not going to convince anyone that this girl is not a slut just as no one will convince me that she is. So have a good day, everyone!

Sick Boy have you had 50+ partners? My ex is also 19 and ya she won't ever change she wants me back but I dunno

Well technically you can prove that she is a slut. But you can't prove that being a slut is a bad thing.

And ya condoms do help but they arn't 100% and don't work for all stds.

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

Sick Boy have you had 50+ partners? My ex is also 19 and ya she won't ever change she wants me back but I dunno

No, I've slept with 7 men. I'm 20. Seriously, if she's a good girl, you shouldn't judge her based on the amount of sexual partners she's had. It has nothing to do with you or your relationship. I would, however, take a romantic trip to your local STD clinic to get tested together though, lol.

But yeah, if she is sincere and wants to be monogamous with you, I think you should give her a chance to prove herself...

quote:Originally posted by Sick_Boy:

No, I've slept with 7 men. I'm 20. Seriously, if she's a good girl, you shouldn't judge her based on the amount of sexual partners she's had. It has nothing to do with you or your relationship. I would, however, take a romantic trip to your local STD clinic to get tested together though, lol.

But yeah, if she is sincere and wants to be monogamous with you, I think you should give her a chance to prove herself...

what would you recommend I have her do to prove herself?

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

what would you recommend I have her do to prove herself?

Just give her TIME. Time is the only way she can prove it to you. Stay going with her and let her know if she fucks up your gone. After time you will be able to trust her and get over the fact that she used to slut it up a bit. Time is big thing when it comes to trust sometimes the only thing you can do is wait and see.

quote:Originally posted by AprenticeChemistBITCHS:

Just give her TIME. Time is the only way she can prove it to you. Stay going with her and let her know if she fucks up your gone. After time you will be able to trust her and get over the fact that she used to slut it up a bit. Time is big thing when it comes to trust sometimes the only thing you can do is wait and see.

QFT.

How long were you together for? I dunno, I think it's pretty easy to tell if someone is being sincere and honest.

we have been together since august 2006......

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

we have been together since august 2006......

So it's been like 6 months. Was everything fine before you found out about her history? I mean, you must have a pretty keen grasp of her character by now...

yes everything was amazing, but now I'm not sure if shes cheated on me or what not

Well, I doubt everything would have been amazing if she's been messing around on you...How many boyfriends has she had? Did she cheat on them?

Yea 6months with nothing wrong and all that should be able to tell if shes going to do anything bad. I mean just give it some time an a little bit of trust and you will get over it. I mean 6 months isn't THAT long but its long enough that you shouldn't be a dumb ass when everythings going good to let her go or fuck it up just because she had a slutty past as long as you have her get a std test or make sure shes clean.

shes had only 2 bfs and never cheated on either of them. I'm her longest relationship..........

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

shes had only 2 bfs and never cheated on either of them. I'm her longest relationship..........

I would definitely give her another chance then, especially since you say things were amazing before this. She was just having fun, and like I said to Casper, it's not like she knew you'd come along and have a problem with it.

That's my two cents, anyway.

quote:Originally posted by Tesla:

Sick Boy have you had 50+ partners? My ex is also 19 and ya she won't ever change she wants me back but I dunno

Tesla, do you mean the girl you're talking about in this thread is 19??!!

A 19-year-old girl having taken 30 feet of cock into her vagina. Holy Moly. That's not freedom. That's someone with some serious problems.

I've known girls like that. And they will definitely fuck around on you. They'll fuck your best friends.

Sick Boy sleeping with 7 men - less than 4 feet of cock - by the time she's 20 is what I'd call normal for someone who's sexual active. She likes the dick but also has self esteem.

Any 19-year-old fucking 30 feet of cock has low self esteem and no self respect. And if she doesn't respect herself, she's not going to respect anyone else - including you, Tesla.

thanks lordjohnson ya thats what i'm worried about she says she loves me and will never cheat on me or sleep around like she did but I;m not too sure

1st relationship my gf has ever been in... most amazing relationship i will ever be in.

Well... my ex had been with 5 bf's total, 'been with' 2 of them.

Somehow, even that tore the shit out of me, all the time. Don't know why, and I know how pathetic it is, vs. 30 feet of cock.

I'd hear 'you're the best' or something along those lines and it would seem insanely backhanded/double-edged. I'm insane, I know, but it bothered me. At least I know I'm not alone in it. :\