So, I say completely truthful, 'cuz i'm still a little buzzed a bit off booze and still feeling the opening feeling of coke. Long story short, my ex (S) caused me a lot of pain and suffering 'cuz i still loved her as she fucked my best friend (for a while, I'm told by my friends that she wanted to date him) but after she realized i was cut from her life (I refused to talk to her--couldn't handle it) she persisted in that sentiment for a while, but then "decided" (realized, switched to back up plan, whatever, etc...) that she needed me back-- for like 3 weeks of break (winter style and whatnot) I didnt say a word to her after telling her off. She became a wreck (even cut herself, I have a known habit of.. becaue she "knew i wanted to hurt her" (which is true but sublimation of fantasy and true desire are two completely different things. Completely!) Anyways, so she's basically illogical and ruled by emotion... but she's made me feel better than anything I can express... no drugs, she was the epitome of pure emotion I've felt... Is it weak of me to take her back? Do you think it's dangerous? I longed for her like this last semester (under the conditions that we both ACCEPTED [a lie for myself] that it was over) and it only brought me ruin. Do you y'all think this would be ruinous... 'Cuz even if it will only be the slightest bit worse than it was, I'd take the hope over anything. Yet, it could destroy me. Sorry for the length. I yearn for your TRUE (please don't adulterate--I can tolerate pain) opinion if you have that to give. Thank you thoroughly.

I suggest you use paragraphs, or else most people wont bother reading it.

But anyway, if you love her, then you should give her another chance. That's what I think anyway.

Dude, kill that bitch and your 'best friend.' Thats just something thats not supposed to happen. My ex-best friend tried kissing my girlfriend a few years ago, a week after he moved out of town. I held a hunting knife to his throat and told him if I ever saw him again I'd fucking kill him. Havent seen him since. Youre better off without either of them man, honestly

Edit: Also, if she did it once, how do you know she wont do it again? The saying "what you dont know wont hurt you" holds true to this, but youll eventually find out one way or another and itll just make things even worse.

And sick_boy, banging his best friend was a mistake? I think not. She didnt accidentilly have sex with him

[This message has been edited by Kurtis0 (edited 01-26-2007).]

People make mistakes, you know.

Mistake and accident are not synonymous...



[This message has been edited by Sick_Boy (edited 01-26-2007).]

You've covered serious ground (3 weeks without a word!) why second guess your instinctual decision? Not only were you so hurt by her actions you had to end it, there's a guarantee she will do it again. It's who she is. Cheaters are cheaters.

Of course there are extenuating circumstances and exceptions, but she's not to be afforded those.

I promise you, if you date her again, she will cheat.

It's just like I tell girls in abusive relationships, leave the FIRST time. Every other incident after that is going to fuck you up not only NOW, but in future relationships. It's not worth it. I know it's easy and comfortable, but how often is THAT the right approach?

quote:Originally posted by genericwittyusername:

she fucked my best friend (for a while, I'm told by my friends that she wanted to date him)

never. touch her. again.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

I promise you, if you date her again, she will cheat.

Exactly. She wants you back because you're an easy lay for her overrun emotions. If she wants sex from you, it's only because you're easy. When she sees someone else she wants to fuck, she'll go after them and leave you in the dust again.

Stop being the bitch in the relationship and tell her outright that you'd rather she just kill herself than for you to ever date her again. Make yourself impossible to get back, because then she'll want you even more. After that, you ever stay the right path, or you manipulate her will. Your choice.

After reading through and not collapsing, I suggest you do not leave that bitch in your life ever again.

If she's ruled by emotion more than from logic, and if she was to cut herself whilst knowing she fucked your friend, she is metally unstable.

Quit it. You'll eventually find anyone better.

I think you can keep datin her as long keep in mind to get the fuck out when things start gettin messy and realise she's potential problems

But, isn't to live, to risk things? So go for it



Ohw and please, next time your write something like this, write it down, wait till your sober, then convert it to normal human english, cause if 70% has no clue what you we're tryin to tell us, i can't blame him

And ohw, yes your weak, but we all have our weaknesses.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Cheaters are cheaters.



You never fail to find sweeping generalisations on totse.



OP, I say give her another chance. You obviously feel very strongly for her. What dark-easterbunny said was good advice. Definitely be cautious, and make her proove herself to you, but there's nothing wrong with giving someone a second chance. Especially if you love them.

Ok I say you get back with that whore and pay her with a litle bit of her own fucked up medicine. Hopefully she would really kill herself this time.

quote:Originally posted by MrMojoRisin:

Of course there are extenuating circumstances and exceptions, but she's not to be afforded those.



Never fail to find people reading half the post.

I read nothing in this thread basically.

All I've got to say is, most people don't change. Don't beleive the lies. Don't beleive girls/boys who have hurt you before. They WILL do it again, whether on purpose or not.

YOU know OP, what is good and bad for you.

This girl is BAD, IMO.

Stop letting your lonliness cloud your judgement. Trust me, this will only get you hurt much MUCH more.

(It's not fun when you are - close to committing suicide)

- is "this" and showing how much "this" is