Well as you know my finance ended it...

But we continued to talk on the phone, and right before I went to bed I got a call.

She is a nanny, she takes care of a 3 year old girl because her grandparents cant and her parents died..

Anyway she was supposed to spend the night over there.

She said they told her to go home they didn't need her to spend the night.

She asked if she could spend the night at my place, I said sure. She came over, I told her I was going to sleep on the couch, and she could have my bed, she asked if we could sleep together.

so we were cuddling and I said I missed her, and she almost said it and played it off, I told her she couldn't take it back...

I told her she wants want I want, she asked me what it was, I told her a kiss, she said no it was wrong, I asked her if she loved me, she said yes, so we made out for a while, she told me she loved me.

I told her that even if we don't get back together, and she moves on, marries some other guy and even if she has kids if its years down the road if she wanted me back I would be here waiting for her, she started crying. Anyway she fell asleep and so did I, I woke up to smoke and get something to drink..

My question is..

WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON? Does she want me back, is she using me? WHAT?

She also wants to take a shower in the morning here.. I have no idea whats going on.



I will check back in the morning, if you can make any sense out of this, please comment I need to know what I should think, I am speechless and unknowing.

(if you don't know our story, our relationship was on and off for almost 2 years, and she just broke off the engagement 2 weeks ago...)

Thanks

-Steven A.K.A Camaro_Racer88

She's probably just as confused as you are.

Take it easy, and see how things play out for the next few days.

I'd take a week, or two break. Let the emotions sort of.. level off. Then get back together, clear-headed, and talk things out. Be strong, because sometimes you will do things that you promise yourself you wouldn't. Like letting her sleep with you. Take it slow. No need to rush.

I've been in a very similar situation. Two years is a long time. The feelings that accumulate in that time don't just go away. She's probably more confused than you.

Hope things turn out ok for you.

FK's probably right.

You said you'd been on and off for the last two years, and now there's an engagement involved?

She's probably more than a bit apprehensive. Maybe she's afraid of being locked into something she'll regret, even if it is a baseless fear.

I was being a dumb ass and tried to slip the engagement ring on her finger to remember what it looked like on her, and I accidentally woke her up and she slipped it off and put it back in my hand turned over and went back to sleep, I doubt she will remember it when she wakes up because she was in a deep sleep, anyway its a 2ct. 3 stone with small diamonds around the ring itself, and I got her a 3 stone 2ct necklace to match, which together is about $5000 and I can't bare to take them back, but I have to fucking look at them and remind myself of how I failed...

Long story short, How should I go about doing things in the morning, should i talk about getting back together? Should I go in for another kiss?

I can't sleep because all I do is lay there and look at her and admire her fucking beauty.

So anyway I will just say on here for a little while until I can come up with a plan for in the morning.

How old are you/her?

Maybe she was scared of marriage.. of the commitment it means. THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?

You can only make guesses.

On a side note, girls are fucking confusing... if anyone EVER says they understand girls, they are mentally insane. (this doesn't mean if you are able to get girls attracted/keep them, you understand them.)

If I remember, there was no failure involved.

It is very confusing and sounds quite difficult. If you can handle it for now, then handle it and see where it goes. If you can't, then you have to talk to her and figure things out.

Ok well she woke up around 5 AM, and didn't have to be at work until 8.

She wakes me up and I give her a kiss, and she wants more so it goes from there. I started to give her a massage and I started going lower and lower because I could tell it was turning her on. Anyway I start fingering her, then we have sex for about an hour, we take a shower, I cook her breakfast...

I forgot what she said in her own words, but the way I took it as I have a good chance for working things out.

I asked her if she remembered me waking her up and she did remember the ring... but she thought it was sweet, but was really tired and thats why she got pissed, anyway I guess I made a bigger deal out of it than I thought, I am going to go eat lunch with her at noon.



Thanks again totse for giving me confidence

Though i can't give you any advice, i must say, that shit was beautiful dude. No, seriously, i nearly cried. Good luck dude