My girlfriend is the most amazing girl Ive ever met. Well she is Asexual. For those who dont know what that is, she doesnt want sex, sex just doesnt do anything for her. Well since Im an average guy, I need to "get my rocks off" every once in a while, because if I dont it starts to build up and hurt. Well is it alright if I check out porn every once and a while? Im asking because I feel guilty when I do. Ive also imagined Ive been with her, but I still feel guilty. Anyone have any suggestions?

You're obviously young. She's not asexual, she just isn't ready for sex. You need to use porn until (if ever) she's ready. Guilt is stupid in this case, and you should quit feeling like you're doing something wrong. She can't possibly get mad at you watching porn if she won't even help you out.

Or get a new girlfriend.

If she's asexual would she even be bothered with a boyfriend? Wouldn't just friends be enough?

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

If she's asexual would she even be bothered with a boyfriend? Wouldn't just friends be enough?

not all asexuals are bothered by relationships. some enjoy companionship, and even a little romance. they are just bothered by the sexual aspect. my girlfriend is one who enjoys a relationship. although she is really tentative about kissing. when we do kiss, its just a little peck. but it shows that she is willing to do something she doesnt want to, for me.

quote:Originally posted by Fanglekai:

You're obviously young. She's not asexual, she just isn't ready for sex. You need to use porn until (if ever) she's ready. Guilt is stupid in this case, and you should quit feeling like you're doing something wrong. She can't possibly get mad at you watching porn if she won't even help you out.

Or get a new girlfriend.



An Excelent responce this is .

I wouldn't think it would be wrong to watch porn.

You could always just ask her about it if you're that concerned about the issue.

Troll?

Don't feel guilty and don't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do. Talk to her about it, openly.

How old are you?

Is there religion involved in your lives?

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quote:Originally posted by Orthodox:

just ask her about it

You're not her boyfriend if she's "asexual". You're a friend. Deal with it the same way you'd deal with your best guy friend not wanting to fuck you...

Or, you could easily just manipulate her into getting hot and horny, and have her want you... Easy choice.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

How old are you?

Is there religion involved in your lives?



Im 18 and shes 16. She is a Christian, but only because her mom says. I am an Atheist

[This message has been edited by ABnSW (edited 01-21-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

You're not her boyfriend if she's "asexual". You're a friend. Deal with it the same way you'd deal with your best guy friend not wanting to fuck you...

Or, you could easily just manipulate her into getting hot and horny, and have her want you... Easy choice.

You're so full of shit. You dont really understand anything about us, because you dont really know her, or I for that matter.

Have you ever done any research about Asexuals anyway?

[This message has been edited by ABnSW (edited 01-21-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

If she's asexual would she even be bothered with a boyfriend? Wouldn't just friends be enough?

True say my negro

She's not asexual, she's frigid.

Don't even try arguing with me.

shit it looks like she's going with you just cause you older than her and she could use you for money, car, or any other shit. she aint fucking you cause she dont like you. sounds like she's using you and she could be fucking somebody else

My ex was like that, too. She would get really mad at me though when I would try to .. uh yeah.

Anyway, after she dumped me recently, she wrote me this sweet (read: nasty) email saying that I sucked in bed and that's why she didn't like having sex. So, maybe you suck too.

Then again, it takes two. I know that in my case, when I could tell she wasn't into it, I wasn't either.

I really don't know what to tell you. Just watch your porn if you need to do it, but don't pester her about sex or you definitely won't get it.

I just want to know honestly before i say anything,what the hell is making this relationship so great and wonderful, if she doesnt even WANT to kiss you as you said?

get a new girlfriend.

why put yourself through the guilt and frustration.

we are all sexual beings,just to differing degrees. theres nothing wrong with masturbation or porn.

being with some who has a different libido then you do is very hard on the psyche and could potentially make you psycho.

WITH LOVE I SAY, get a new girlfriend.

Give it time with her.. she's only young.

Or move on. Or come to an agreement with her that suits you both.

asexual? she can spawn a child without the need for a man?

shes just saying that because she isnt ready yet.

In England asexuality is literally where you can self reproduce. Like a worm. Your girlfriend isn't a worm is she? Maybe you should check.

American Heritage Dictionary - Cite This Source

a·sex·u·al (ā-sěk'shōō-əl) Pronunciation Key

adj.

1. Having no evident sex or sex organs; sexless.

2. Relating to, produced by, or involving reproduction that occurs without the union of male and female gametes, as in binary fission or budding.

3. Lacking interest in or desire for sex.

Number 3.

Anyways, Your GF is a bitch that you just need to get rid of till she is ready for a real relationship. If she wants to be friends good, but that is not what people do when they date.