ok long story short, this chick who i was close with for like 3years..came back out of the blue tonight.we haven't talked in about a year.because we had a massive arguement.i moved on..now she's asking for another chance. part of me says let it go. the other half says give her a 3rd chance

someone tell me which to choose

I'll tell you which to choose if you answer these questions:

What was the arguement about?

Physically, how far have you been with her?

You say 3rd chance? What were 1st and 2nd fucked up by?

I say learn to figure out shit for yourself.. You're the one who has to live with the decision you make so perhaps flip a coin.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

I'll tell you which to choose if you answer these questions:

What was the arguement about?

Physically, how far have you been with her?

You say 3rd chance? What were 1st and 2nd fucked up by?



ok sure..right here right now

1.sure stood me up. went and got drunk left me in the freezing cold

2.we've kissed, hooked up

3. i forgave her, we talked...then she forgot about me, it pretty much destroyed me...then we got back...same thing happned, but both times it was me doing all the work, now its her doing it.

im scared of it happening again. it hurt like a bitch

quote:Originally posted by baarty111:



ok sure..right here right now

1.sure stood me up. went and got drunk left me in the freezing cold

2.we've kissed, hooked up

3. i forgave her, we talked...then she forgot about me, it pretty much destroyed me...then we got back...same thing happned, but both times it was me doing all the work, now its her doing it.

im scared of it happening again. it hurt like a bitch

Give her a 3rd chance. But at the FIRST sign of her fucking around, kick her to the curb. She's putting effort, that's a good thing. Go 60/40 with her for a while. Put in effort, but not as much as her. When she's proven it's consistant, go 50/50. The second she starts dropping with the effort she's putting into you, she's most likely falling back into old habits. That's when you tell her you're done with her.

Stand by that.

quote:Originally posted by arquin:

Give her a 3rd chance. But at the FIRST sign of her fucking around, kick her to the curb. She's putting effort, that's a good thing. Go 60/40 with her for a while. Put in effort, but not as much as her. When she's proven it's consistant, go 50/50. The second she starts dropping with the effort she's putting into you, she's most likely falling back into old habits. That's when you tell her you're done with her.

Stand by that.



thanks man. thats all you needed to say. you got no idea how much i needed that advice right now. i shall do though. once again, thanks =]

DON'T DO IT!!!, NOTICE MY ALL CAPS ITS TO EMPHASIZE HOW BIG OF A MISTAKE YOU'RE MAKING!!! HEED MY BIG FONT!!!

quote:Originally posted by fat_people_suck:

DON'T DO IT!!!, NOTICE MY ALL CAPS ITS TO EMPHASIZE HOW BIG OF A MISTAKE YOU'RE MAKING!!! HEED MY BIG FONT!!!



..ok...can i have your reasoning on this?

You'll probably just get hurt again, then feel like a tool for being fucked over so many times. Which will make you feel worse. Don't.

Give her a third chance but at nothing more then booty call.

i can officially say it is now over, i told her if she was serious. to meet up with me..fair enough...and 2 days later, still no reply. Which was the first sign of her in old habits, so i told her to get fucked and leave me alone...its now over =] thanks for everyone's help though. muchly appreciated.