Ok,

So my girlfriend of 2 and a bit years has just left me. She dosen't know why she feels she needs to other than she doesnt feel the way about me that she used to.

We had been going out since we were 15, and we are now 17 and we had grown apart I guess and had been finding less and less to talk about. I did not however, want the relationship to end. I cannot make her stay with me and wouldnt if I could as it is not what she wants and wont make her happy.

I am finding it hard to imagine just being friends with her after all this time. What can I do to get over her? I want to move on like she does. Even if we end up back together I don't want to be the guy who wathes her with other men waiting for another chance while having no relationship of his own.

I don't want to jump into anything too soon and what not.

Ok I am getting mixed up. The main problem is most of the girls I know are just good matexs because I have only known then since I have been in a relationship, so I have never really elaboprated on any of them, and dont think they would like it if I did. I am not sure though.

So main point. How the fuck do i get over someone who I am still in love wit but dosent love me back?

Find someone new.

I really have no idea man. I can say, and don't take any offense to this, I don't think any answer on this forum will make a difference.

Good luck, just don't get lost in your head.

"Find someone new."

Moll,

I want to but I just don't know who. I am good at talking to girls but most of them think I am a fag because I am a pretty happy guy and they write me off becauseof it. As I said the girls I am friends with I am already in the "just friends" category.

Also i dont know any girls that I would want other than my ex. She is smart and responsible. I like that in a girl. I dont want a dumb fuck who smokes and drinks all the time which is what alot of the girls around here do.



[This message has been edited by Mephistos Minion (edited 01-20-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Mephistos Minion:

"Find someone new."

Moll,

I want to but I just don't know who. I am good at talking to girls but most of them think I am a fag because I am a pretty happy guy and they write me off becauseof it. As I said the girls I am friends with I am already in the "just friends" category.

Also i dont know any girls that I would want other than my ex. She is smart and responsible. I like that in a girl. I dont want a dumb fuck who smokes and drinks all the time which is what alot of the girls around here do.





You're handsome, and very samrt, and you seem funny, and you enjoy meat pie. There's nothing for a girl not to love.

If they think you're a faggot, then just make it clear that you aren't one. The only guys who get stuck in the 'just friends' category are the ones who don't flirt.

Find a girl (even if you're just her friend) that's smart and responsible, and they do exist, I'm not one, but they are out there. Then let her know that you might be interested.

I am hell worried about some of the reactions I might get. I go to an all male school but have some girls in the class (we have cooperating schools incase class at one are too full) and I have a really mixed group of friends. There is only one girl I am interested in is interested in someone else I think.

The REAL problem is I want a propper relationship. Not a girlfriend for the sake of having a girlfriend. The problem with this is I am moving in one year to another state (yes Australia has states) so if I do get one (a propper girlfriend that is) it will all go FUBAR when I leave.

It is probbably too early to be doinganything just yet. I havnt even seen my ex since she broke up with me (she is in london at the moment on holiday). Before you jump to conclusions like "what she dumped you over the internet!?!" I asked her if she was planning to as her attitude in emails was changing. Needless to say I did not get the answer I wanted.

I am very open to any new or even repeated suggestions.

[This message has been edited by Mephistos Minion (edited 01-20-2007).]