So long story short, I get back from winter break and find my best friend's been fucking my ex since thanksgiving break... despite the fact that he knew i was still in love with her (she didn't, really). So I flip out and basically cut both of them from my life. My friends tell me that my ex is a wreck, etc, that i should talk to her again, and i don't. Finally, she shows up at my house and wants to talk. If I was less hungover and more in a mood to fight, i would have just said some cutting words and sent her away. I didn't--she apologizes (too much to repeat, but it was heartfelt, i think). As she does, her knees shake and she wells up with tears. I tell her I forgive her, and put my arms around her and she sobs. Later that night, after I've flown back to St. Louis, she tells me that she still loves me, and used all her restraint not to kiss me. Today she told me that she quote unquote loves me so much and has accepted that she will for a long time if not ever.

Here's the problem: we broke up 'cuz i went to college, and the feelings were always there. i still love her. But at the same time, I feel like she's just being really emotional and even if she wasn't letting myself fall like this would probably kill me emotionally. She made me feel like nothing else did, better than cocaine. What should I do?

Seems like you should find a way to be with her.

That is, if you feel that the relationship does in fact have potential?

-F☺rd

Alcohol.

being with her would require me transferring, or dropping out... i'm not sure i want to do either.

She fucked your mate, she screwed up, she needs to move to where you are living and on your terms. Don't give up what your doing in life just for her, the blunt truth is who's to say what happened won't again?

If she wants it she needs to make the effort to be wtih you, and not the other way around. Stay strong and good luck.

quote:Originally posted by genericwittyusername:

She made me feel like nothing else did, better than cocaine. What should I do?

I know both those feelings. That is hard to find, do your best to be with her is my advice.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

She fucked your mate, she screwed up, she needs to move to where you are living and on your terms. Don't give up what your doing in life just for her, the blunt truth is who's to say what happened won't again?

It's not like she was cheating on him. They weren't together anymore. It is something you might want to keep in mind though.

Maybe she could move to where you are? Then you dont have to drop out. Also, women are emotional alot... She isnt unique there.

At first I thought she was your girlfriend when she fucked your best friend, as ex it's not just so bad. If you're living far away from her though, perhaps it's best you just forget about her and find someone new. And maybe knock your best friend out. :P

quote:Originally posted by genericwittyusername:

I get back from winter break and find my best friend's been fucking my ex since thanksgiving break... despite the fact that he knew i was still in love with her

WOAH...what a good friend!

If my ex, or any girl I've ever shown intrest in hit on my mates, they'd kick her in the clit. Fucking christ your 'best mate' sucks steaming black cock. Get rid of him. Then the girl. Then fuck your best mate's mum/sister/cousin/ex gf.

KILL THEM.

Don't do it