is it bad in a relationship to be with your girl every day. how often should you see her? she recently told me seeing me every day is making her get bored of me. she didnt suggest how often i should see her

[This message has been edited by JHE420_27 (edited 01-17-2007).]

As much as you want, there's no rules.

As much as feels right...For the both of you.

There is the problem, I guess. Early on in relationships, no one is nearly open enough to address this. I guess, ultimately, you have to look for signals from her.

I currently struggle with this, because I can't get enough of a certain girl. I want to see her all of the time -- even though I know it isn't possible. So what works for me is telling her that I love being around her, see what her response is, and make my next move based on that.

Me: I had a great time with you...I can't wait to see you again.

Her: So did I. I have *such and such* tomorrow, but after that I'd love to see you again.

Me: *moves around anything in schedule, because I'm lame*

The end. As much as you both feel comfortable with.

quote:Originally posted by PoseidonHurri:

As much as feels right...For the both of you.

There is the problem, I guess. Early on in relationships, no one is nearly open enough to address this. I guess, ultimately, you have to look for signals from her.

I currently struggle with this, because I can't get enough of a certain girl. I want to see her all of the time -- even though I know it isn't possible. So what works for me is telling her that I love being around her, see what her response is, and make my next move based on that.

Me: I had a great time with you...I can't wait to see you again.

Her: So did I. I have *such and such* tomorrow, but after that I'd love to see you again.

Me: *moves around anything in schedule, because I'm lame*

The end. As much as you both feel comfortable with.

I think such and such is another guy. A black guy.

That's mean, and makes me insecure.

Bad! Bad d1rt piss stool!

I don't see the point in a relationship where you don't want to see each other all the time. When I'm not at university, my boyfriend and I live together, and I love every minute of it.

But really, it all comes down to personal preference.

^ I agree. It's upsetting that in many relationships people have to hold back how strongly they feel towards a person in order to not 'smother' them.

Again, more of a problem early on in relationships.

How long have you two been dating, JHE420_27?

EDIT: I just saw your edit, about her being "bored" of you. That's pathetic, my friend. I'd venture a guess and say it's HER problem with the 'lust' wearing away. This is something you need to discuss directly with her.

[This message has been edited by PoseidonHurri (edited 01-17-2007).]

when i first dated my girl...id see her every now and then,then now and then,then to more i would see my friends,then i quit selling (for her) and spent like every day with her as long as i could.its still like that...been that way for like four months now...now we are kinda slowing down since im gonna get a REAL job.

You shouldn't see her too much. People get tired of each other very quickly, this is part of the reason marriages almost always fail. 2-3 times a week is optimal in my opinion. When I have a girlfriend I usually don't want to see her more than that because she starts to annoy me.

I had a girlfriend who wanted me to see her everyday and also didn't want me to hang out with my friends......ya I dumped her after 3 months of dating her. I can see the person maybe 3-4 times a week alone. I also need to hang out with friends. My one gf and I saw each other pretty much everyday while we were dating but we also hung out with each others friends. Its a matter of preference and how well you like the person. My best friend who's a girl for example we have spent entire months of hanging out straight together cause we never get tired or bored of each other so meh.

If she says she's getting bored of you, ask her just what the fuck she's doing when you're not around. You can't trust her. Guys, you can't trust females. Females, you can't trust guys. People, you can't fucking trust or believe anyone.

[This message has been edited by MomentaryLapseOfReason (edited 01-17-2007).]

^That's a sweeping generalization if I ever heard one.

And I'm damn proud.

quote:Originally posted by MomentaryLapseOfReason:

If she says she's getting bored of you, ask her just what the fuck she's doing when you're not around. You can't trust her. Guys, you can't trust females. Females, you can't trust guys. People, you can't fucking trust or believe anyone.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who's that paranoid.

Best piece of advice you'll ever get though. It sounds really paranoid but not having trust is a strength not a weakness.

you're sticking up in her ass everywhere she goes, give the girl some breathing room

honey is sweet to the lips, but too much of it and you grow sick. balance, life is a balance, too much of one thing throws off another. sounds gay but its true. you need to ahve time to yourself to do the things that make you, you. what women find attractive is a man who has his own goals and is willing to go out and achieve them. i am a bartender so i talk to many people all the time. i have talked to many girls who have all said the same thing. they like it if you tell them you are busy or you have something to do. i learned this myself the hard way a few times. i ruined a few good relationships because i forgot to stop and think about my well being. a healthy relationship has that.

quote:Originally posted by gadzooks:

I'm glad I'm not the only one who's that paranoid.

It's not paranoia, it's the truth.