Some of you don't know, but I'm a girl. =P

I have this friend. I've been friends with her for like 5 years. We're very close. And lately, the last two years or so, I've questioned my sexuality. I wouldn't say I'm a lesbian, or bi-sexual, I'm just VERY sexually curious. And this friend of mine is a very attractive person; not only in her physical appearance, but she's just an AMAZING friend. Always there for me, and always giving me advice. Hugging me all the time, just being so sweet.

I left the school we went to for 1 1/2 years. And when I came back, as a Senior, (this year) she had changed a little. We kept sort of in contact, but she had really gotten hot. And I started to become attracted to her. She's just so beautiful. And since the school year started, she's just been so close with me.

Recently, this has been really bothering me. I want to tell her, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. And then, come to find out tonight from our friend, she kinda has a girl-crush on me, too. This makes it better, but worse. Now I want to tell her even more. But now I know I wont be rejected.

I have a boyfriend, yes, and he is VERY okay with this. I don't want a relationship with her. I just want to experiment...

My question is; how do I talk to her about this? I want her to know, and I want to know if she would be willing to experiment with me, but I'm scared about losing her friendship. How do I bring it up? HEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELP!!!! =X

You don't just tell her. Just off-hand mention that you've been wondering about it, and don't expect her to want to fuck you.

I don't know. I would be incredibly creeped out if I found out that one of my girl friends wanted to sex me...But it has come out that she kind of has a girl crush on you. Do you and all your friends have the same definition of girl crush? Because when I use that term, it usually means that I admire a girl for being beautiful/nice/smart/whatever, but not in a sexual way...

I think you should have a few drinks first, and then just flirt with her like you would with a guy. The alcohol will make it less awkward, but it may also make it more akward next time you see her, so make sure its something you know you want to do, because youre risking a friendship for an experiment.

What is her "orientation" in respect to her sexuality?

quote:Originally posted by Pirate Hippie:

I have a boyfriend, yes, and he is VERY okay with this. I don't want a relationship with her. I just want to experiment...

No shit, I think most guys would be pretty stoked about it.

Unless off course you actually leave them for a chick.

Why is it females are attracted to their friends and thats seen as acceptable but when a guy does it its weird or dirty wtf?

And OP, must ahve photos of you both.

Mod 3-way.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by don_stracci:

[B]Why is it females are attracted to their friends and thats seen as acceptable but when a guy does it its weird or dirty wtf?

Lesbians receive huge amounts of prejudice outside the online world of teenage boys who ideolise them as sex goddesses.

..Perhaps Pirate Hippies scenario is accepted now because its not a relationship shes looking for, just curious?

quote:Originally posted by thepissant:

What is her "orientation" in respect to her sexuality?

She is bi-sexual.

[This message has been edited by Pirate Hippie (edited 01-16-2007).]

Me (http://tinyurl.com/wlbxk)

Video I took of her on Saturday at Winter Ball. (http://tinyurl.com/y88r35)

I have a pic of us together, but it needs some serious photo shopping =P

quote:But now I know I wont be rejected.

And what do you think will happen if you get rejected? How will you feel? What will happen after that?

It's obvious that you like her, that's no problem, but it seems like you're looking for a foolproof perfect plan to do this. That's a wrong mentality to have—for any aspect in life—it never allows a person to open themselves up 100%. What you're asking is like trying to be 20% (Same things when guys ask how to ask a girl out without being embarrased or ego-bruised).

Well I'll tell you this, the more you give, the return will come back tenfold. If you go in expecting something, good or bad, no longer are you thinking about the other person, but yourself.

So, why don't you "give" and just tell her "100%" what you feel?

quote:Originally posted by don_stracci:

Why is it females are attracted to their friends and thats seen as acceptable but when a guy does it its weird or dirty wtf?

And OP, must ahve photos of you both.

Because guy sex reminds people of anal and aids and its gay.

Anal is gross to most girls. So is aids.

And being gay is gross to guys. For obvious reasons.

I know a fair few girls that aren't gay but have made out with other chicks, and EVERY SINGLE CIRCUMSTANCE it has been at some house party while they've both been wasted and all us drunk horny guys urge them to do it.

A few things can be taken away from this- they might be lying, and weren't really that drunk, and really did want to do it themselves (I think this is actually a given). The point is that alcohol almost gives you a license to do shit like this, and the party atmosphere gives you even more of an excuse. Under these circumstances, it shouldn't turn out weird at all. Two of my good chick friends (who have been best friends for years) used to make out at parties all the time, and they are both straight, with steady boyfriends.

IMO, alcohol is like the gateway to experimentation- both with people, and other substances.

quote:Originally posted by Pirate Hippie:

Some of you don't know, but I'm a fat, fugly, attention whoring faggot. =P



But Pirate Hippie, almost all of us already knew that!

Well...depends don't it?

Is the potential good enough that it's worth the chance you might lose your friendship? Like a male female friendship that gets thexxual & when they breakup ... ... no friendship.

That's the major flaw with incest? It's not genetic in most cases? It's that not everyone remains friends with their Ex? What if your ex is your brother or cousin?

What if there is acrimony/fighting hatezors?

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

You don't just tell her. Just off-hand mention that you've been wondering about it, and don't expect her to want to fuck you.

ya because this fat fuck knows all about first time bi-sexual experiences with female friends. If you were a guy that'd be a different.

quote:Originally posted by don_stracci:

Why is it females are attracted to their friends and thats seen as acceptable but when a guy does it its weird or dirty wtf?

And OP, must ahve photos of you both.

QFT. It's just society's bias about gender, even tho from a completely realistic standpoint lesbins=less women for me to fuck.

Funny topic you have here. I was in quite a similar situation in high school. My close girlfriend and I were never really sure about our sexuality and always sort of had a thing for each other. We mostly joked about it all the time until right after we graduated and ended up getting drunk and having a threesome (an incredibly common gateway for girls who aren't sure about their sexuality.) We've hooked up since then but both decided that though we're bi-sexual we're still just good friends and will continue to stay that way. We both have dated other girls since and now have long term boyfriends.

Just talk to her about it, it doesn't have to be a completely serious sit down and make a decision thing. Just put it in the air and see what happens; I wouldn't expect you two to experiment immediately either, it takes a little while to get used to the idea.

I'm sure if you really want to you'll find a way to "lick" the problem.

quote:Originally posted by tenguy:

I'm sure if you really want to you'll find a way to "lick" the problem.



I usually find a way to "beat" the "opposition".

Aw, I saw the words "little girl" so i clicked.