I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

that includes

no cuddling

no kissing

no NOTHING

and I'm getting really sick of it, I'm not unnattractive, but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...even if I am....I just want to have someone to do something with, and most of my guy friends are dating or not attractive. Im so frusterated.

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?

take off your top

Just when you find a guy you like just tell them i wanna fuck, its gonna be a one time thing probally, let go.

Pix? If you're hot I'll fuck you.

"Will you fuck my mate, innit, cos she's well gaggin' for it, innit"

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)



it *can* be a great turn on, if done right.

Gaaw blimey luv, dat ain't nah way fo a h'young lay-dee ta tawlk !

I'd fuckin wasch yer durty north n' souff ahht wid fuckin bleach.

You wanna end up like some kinda slapper? Bet yer Ol'man raised you better than that.

I think there would be way more chance of a guy being happy/grateful/relieved/etc...were you to make the first move, than a guy thinking you were desperate.

Trust me; I've been around enough years to learn a few things and that one is a no-brainer I think.

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...

What? For making a move? Yeah fucking desperate if you don't act like a primadonna that needs to be courted with no effort on your part. Grow a brain and go hit on a guy your level, he'll just be glad it was easy

I suggest one thing - just saying "Hi"

A smile, some decent conversation.

You don't have to be all grab of the crotch, an unsubtle "take me home and fuck me".

Guys will like the fact you paid them some attention.

quote:Originally posted by Metaphysicist:

I think there would be way more chance of a guy being happy/grateful/relieved/etc...were you to make the first move, than a guy thinking you were desperate.

Trust me; I've been around enough years to learn a few things and that one is a no-brainer I think.

Damn straight, I've only ever had the one girl make the first move and ask me out.

I think it's great when a girl makes the first move, probably because it's rare for that to happen.

If you live in FL:

Aim: Infinatesolitude (fuck you, I know it's cliche')

booty call, okgo

boo fucking hoo

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)



Fucking feminist...

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?

What're you worried about? You need some slab, go find it! You're a woman, you have the upper hand. Go to a bar or wherever you see attractive men and pick one to take home.

Post pics?

Can't really judge your situation without pictures.

4 months? pft you're lucky compared to some, namely, me.

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

Batgirl's favorite color is roast beef.

LMFAO you dont have to look just find a totsean in your local yellow pages :P

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

Yup i have to say it is fucking great if a woman just takes control.

quote:Originally posted by Rocko:

Batgirl's favorite color is roast beef.



That never gets old.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:



That never gets old.

Nope.

quote:Originally posted by SilentMind:

That never gets old.

It got old by 2005.

Be the woman you are and give guys opportunities. If you've done your part right, you'll be a magnet.

For instance, what makes me approach and talk to a girl is the way she looks, carries her self, and dresses; that all reflects who she is.

She can be "gorgeous" but walks insecurely, she can dress classy or sexy but look ugly, she can walk confidently, but dresses awkwardly. There is nothing more attractive than a woman who takes care of herself, expresses her whole self, and has it all. That's why supermodels like Adriana Lima stand out more than generic Pamela Anderson.

You don't need breast implants, nose jobs, plastic surgery etc. The same way guys don't need big cars, money, and muscles. It'd "help" in the short-run but sometimes they don't realize they're feeding their own hidden inadequacy.

Have you heard of the saying "There is no such thing as an ugly girl, just a lazy one."?

Basically what I'm saying is:

Feeling sexy? be sexy.

Feeling cute? be cute.

Feeling beautiful? be beautiful.

Express yourself!



[This message has been edited by FireWire (edited 01-15-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by FireWire:

Be the woman you are and give guys opportunities. If you've done your part right, you'll be a magnet.

For instance, what makes me approach and talk to a girl is the way she looks, carries her self, and dresses; that all reflects who she is.

She can be "gorgeous" but walks insecurely, she can dress classy or sexy but look ugly, she can walk confidently, but dresses awkwardly. There is nothing more attractive than a woman who takes care of herself, expresses her whole self, and has it all. That's why supermodels like Adriana Lima stand out more than generic Pamela Anderson.

You don't need breast implants, nose jobs, plastic surgery etc. The same way guys don't need big cars, money, and muscles. It'd "help" in the short-run but sometimes they don't realize they're feeding their own hidden inadequacy.

Have you heard of the saying "There is no such thing as an ugly girl, just a lazy one."?

Basically what I'm saying is:

Feeling sexy? be sexy.

Feeling cute? be cute.

Feeling beautiful? be beautiful.

Express yourself!



That read like something straight out of a womans magazine.

To the original poster, just go out to clubs and such more. If you not unnatractive you should get hit on enough to have some pretty good options.

In those scenarios it really only takes eye-contact and a smile to get a guy to talk to you.

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

Eww, no, that would just be gross. I don't mind girls dropping little physical hints that they wanted to be ravaged, but full out coming on to me? No...that would just make me feel emasculated. I want a lady not some femininazi Amazon.

quote:Originally posted by Rocko:

Batgirl's favorite color is roast beef.

I really dont get that. How can a food 'be' a color? You're not even saying her favorite color is the color of roast beef, you're just saying roast beef is a color!

That's just retarded!

Aggh!

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

I really dont get that. How can a food 'be' a color? You're not even saying her favorite color is the color of roast beef, you're just saying roast beef is a color!

That's just retarded!

Aggh!

I believe that's the point

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

I want a lady not some femininazi Amazon.

You've never wanted a girl that could kick your ass? (http://www.cameleontv.com/img/series/dark-angel.jpg)

That would be beyond sexy. So long as she wasn't a mini-hulk

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

I really dont get that. How can a food 'be' a color? You're not even saying her favorite color is the color of roast beef, you're just saying roast beef is a color!

That's just retarded!

Aggh!

Well, ya took the fun out of that one yoyo, haha..

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

Damn straight.

ie, just do it! Get the confidence up, and see how things go

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

... but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate..

I have a feeling everyone who makes a move like that has those feelings. Ignore them, give yourself some confidence, if you get rejected, try again

haha coming on too strong, thats become a common term i here alot these days...

A girl i know was sort of in a situation like urs, she did work and sort of pushed the issue with this guy,ended up fucking...then never heard from the guy again....its a classic

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

You've never wanted a girl that could kick your ass? (http://www.cameleontv.com/img/series/dark-angel.jpg)

That would be beyond sexy. So long as she wasn't a mini-hulk

QFT!

Jessica Alba....*drool*

Just do it, your'll be happy when you find yourself a casual sex partner/one night stand.

Pics

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

w00t for us submissive guys!

-Kman101

quote:Originally posted by Forgotten:

You've never wanted a girl that could kick your ass? (http://www.cameleontv.com/img/series/dark-angel.jpg)

Hell no. It'd make me feel inadequate. Gross.

You're looking for a lay. Guess what, you are going to look desperate.

Just flirt your arse off.

Or you could suck it up, it's only 4 months, Jesus.

Don't be fooled into thinking all guys want the chick to do all the work. When a woman is too forward with me I shy away. But I'm a minority.

There is some happy middle ground though, just, yeah, don't go up to him, undo his belt and mash his flaccid dick into your teeth without saying hello.

Or if you do, pics.

Ugly guys need stuff too...

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Gaaw blimey luv, dat ain't nah way fo a h'young lay-dee ta tawlk !

I'd fuckin wasch yer durty north n' souff ahht wid fuckin bleach.

You wanna end up like some kinda slapper? Bet yer Ol'man raised you better than that.



Mate, that's not how we talk.

That's the Essex wannabe-cocknies...Go way overboard...And the strange little Canterbury boy I met and hated.

But I digress...

Look...All ya gotta do is ask a guy out.

There's a big difference between asking a guy out for a drink some time and saying desperately "So, erm, do you like wanna, I dunno, Maybe go out sometime?!?!?!...If ya don't that's cool but it's be great if you could"

I can't believe I'm telling a chick this...All you gotta do is be calm, cool and just relax. Pretend like you don't give a shit whether he says yes or no. Ask him like he'd be doing himself a favour by spending more than five minutes in your company.

It's all good.

And yeah, hot pics if possible...Email's on me profile, treacle!

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Eww, no, that would just be gross. I don't mind girls dropping little physical hints that they wanted to be ravaged, but full out coming on to me? No...that would just make me feel emasculated. I want a lady not some femininazi Amazon.

Spoken like someone who is totally insecure in his sexuality and gender....



quote:Originally posted by psycho_8b:

And yeah, hot pics if possible...Email's on me profile, treacle!

Actually that's not true. Email addresses are not shown in the profiles anymore.

However, since you are a Mod, your email address is available by clicking on your name at the top of the forum you moderate...

quote:Originally posted by ChickenOfDoom:

Ugly guys need stuff too...

Ahahahahah....mercy.

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

that includes

no cuddling

no kissing

no NOTHING

and I'm getting really sick of it, I'm not unnattractive, but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...even if I am....I just want to have someone to do something with, and most of my guy friends are dating or not attractive. Im so frusterated.

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?

its ok *pats back* your fellow female feels the same way

4 months, psshhhh i havent done shit in 16 years

quote:Originally posted by OrganizedChaos:

4 months, psshhhh i havent done shit in 16 years

owned?

quote:Originally posted by OrganizedChaos:

4 months, psshhhh i havent done shit in 16 years

Posting on Totse is a good way to change that...

+Infinate for Jessica Alba Dark Angel reference

It would be shit for the women to be in control all the time, but you not think it is cool(maybe just to be lazy) for the woman just to do everything? Just to chill and them to do everything?

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

that includes

no cuddling

no kissing

no NOTHING

and I'm getting really sick of it, I'm not unnattractive, but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...even if I am....I just want to have someone to do something with, and most of my guy friends are dating or not attractive. Im so frusterated.

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?

Want do you want? A one night stand or a relationship? What do you want from the other person? Want to feel loved? Then it probally a relationship you want. Just plain old horny and can't think straight. Then its a one night stand.

Tell us so we can give the proper advice.



Frankly, I think you asked us for advice, because you want to do it in a way that won't make people think less of you and

won't get you rejected. Beleive me when I say this that making the first move will not make guys think down upon you, they will

appreciate it and guys are most likely accept you if you do make the first move.

Sounds like you are just waiting for men to come up to you, taking the passive means of getting someone. Well, you can't sit back and wait for men to come. Most men are not going to bring the subject up out of fear of being rejected (and believe me we get rejected alot.) or being rude. Most won't, some will. Those guys are called jerks and usually are.

You gotta look for some someone. Get active. Got guy friends? Ask them if they got any friends looking for some one. Find someone this way? Good. Hang around them awhile and see if they are worth it. Then make your move. I've met two of my girlfriends this way, so I know it probally work for you getting a guy. This is suggested if you want a relationship.

However keep in mind despite what guys say about how much they want to get down now, if a girl is blunt within 2 seconds of meeting them, the man will think something weird is going on and will turn her down. "Wanna have sex?" or something just as outright ain't going to get any offers.

So you met a guy through a friend of your. Want to get down right away? Yet I just told

you being blunt is not the way to go? Then feed his ego. When he talks, smile like you are really interested in what he got to say. Compliment him. As the date goes along, move closer to him, act really interested in him. This will lower his guard and then you could ask him if having a cup of coffee at his house is ok, but do so when you feel the timing is right. I'll be glad to give more details yet I'll think thats best left up to you.

Remember men get rejected alot, so making the first move is a relief to us. It takes the guess work out of it. It establishes between you and the guy exactly what you want. That makes it simple. Guys like it when things are simple. Men are also LESS likely to turn you down then you would likely turn down a man.

The other reason I think you asked us is you really do think you would be rejected. This means you do not think much of your self, otherwise insucure and think no matter what you do things will end in failure. Why is this?



[This message has been edited by Omikcron (edited 01-17-2007).]

Hey wait, someone said it's rare for the girl to make the first move. I've actually had like 4 or 5 girls make the first move, and I'm only 17. Hell, the girl I'm with right now even made the first move. It's not that unusual for girls to do it. And I'm just an average looking, normal guy.



If you just want to meet guys, just say HI to them. Make small talk, whatever. If you are at least average looking, and the guy is single, he will take it from there. Hell, go to a bar or just someplace with guys and one of them will hit on you.

I would suggest posting a picture or two of you, wearing what you usually would around guys (sorry guys, for suggesting clothed pics). This could really help us tell if maybe you are just acting too shy, or maybe if you need to break your routine and find some new threads.

Come on, by helping you get some action, it could help the rest of us also. Please, let us help you.

POST CLOSE-UPS OF YOUR ASSHOLE AND/OR VAGINA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeahhh.

quote:Originally posted by I-RapeTards:

POST CLOSE-UPS OF YOUR ASSHOLE AND/OR VAGINA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeahhh.

And totse guys wonder why they can't get laid.

Nah, that motherfucker's covered, he rapes retards.

Shit, I've had a girl make the move once and it was pretty relieving, pretty damn refreshing too. Plus, I wouldn't be too worried about rejection from a guy unless there's some unknown circumstances.

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

that includes

no cuddling

no kissing

no NOTHING

and I'm getting really sick of it, I'm not unnattractive, but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...even if I am....I just want to have someone to do something with, and most of my guy friends are dating or not attractive. Im so frusterated.

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?

From your name i assume your british. After a CAREFULL study of english ladies in foreign situations, i suggest you go somewhere foreign, and have 2 drinks (really, british ladies in foreign country's are THE most naieve sluts there are, you don't need to feed 'm drinks, they do it themselves, they're used to no charm at all so just bein nice makes 'm all...did i mention they're just easy sluts?)

*end of rant*

Anyways, go to a bar, smile to a few guys, you'll be fine

quote:Originally posted by kAtE-:

Just do it, your'll be happy when you find yourself a casual sex partner/one night stand.

Kate, i realise you might think this way, and to be honest i do, but it's not something you should just do if your not sure it's your thing. I've seen girls break-down for weeks after havin a one night stand cause they thought it was nothing. And then emotions come and bring the bill

quote:Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

I suggest one thing - just saying "Hi"

A smile, some decent conversation.

You don't have to be all grab of the crotch, an unsubtle "take me home and fuck me".

Guys will like the fact you paid them some attention.

This is sound advice.

I just now realized that in my last reply I totally forgot to put in the point that had been the original reason I was replying in the first place.

And here I thought I had managed to make it past my decades of drug use more or less unscathed in the area of neuron eradication...

Ah well.

Well anyway what I had wanted to say, originally, was just this:

Were it not for females making the first move I would be a 43 year old virgin today**, since I have never made the first move in a relationship in my life [Yet, at least].

Yup, with every woman I've ever been with, I always wait for her to make the first move.

Initially it was because I had a fear of rejection that was not only far greater than in the average male my age and so it took me a long time before I was sure enough that I wouldn't get shot down to even start to think about making a move.

But in every case, before that happened, the female would either give up and move on, or would take matters in her own hands and make the first move...By far the number of females who made the first move exceeds the number of those who just gave up.

With my last few GF's over the past few years I no longer had/have that problem; and in fact have no problem make the first move now.

But then, it's also easier to do now because it is a lot easier at my age. Both men and woman tend to have put away most of the game playing they used to do; are not caught up so much in trying to be something other than their real self, and so on.

The fact that, at my age, woman are usually about in the middle of their sexual peak. So if a guy waits long enough - which isn't long at all from my experience - they will be on you quick enough if they have an interest in you. There's no mistaking that kinda body language, is there?

**: I take that back. I would not be a 43 year old virgin today.

I wouldn't even be alive, since if I were to have hit 30 still a virgin I would have blown my brains out, no doubt...

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

that includes

no cuddling

no kissing

no NOTHING

and I'm getting really sick of it, I'm not unnattractive, but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...even if I am....I just want to have someone to do something with, and most of my guy friends are dating or not attractive. Im so frusterated.

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?



Don't woprry about it. You're a chick. Yo udon't have to worry about "coming on too strong".

Uh, anyhow, this'll sound corny/desperate, but I'm a guy who's been in a similar situation for quite awhile. Drop me a PM if you wanna chat or something sometime.

I havent done shit for 6 months....... :\?

just go up to some guy and say, "would you fuck me?"

that should do it.

quote:Originally posted by psycho_8b:

Mate, that's not how we talk.

That's the Essex wannabe-cocknies...Go way overboard...And the strange little Canterbury boy I met and hated.



LOL *hums 'maybe its cos I's a mockney'

Just for the record, me old man's family are all old school Bethnal Green and i kinda picked it up from them...much to my mother's annoyance(she married beneath herself).

Sorry I sort of neglected this thread, when I first posted it was pretty slow and I havn't been on Totse in a couple days, finals basically suck, and I actually read most of these and thanks for the advice, I'd like to think of myself as more "sexually confident" than desperate, but I sound sort of skanky that I just kind of want some attention from guys (here's the proof that im not completely nasty...http://tinyurl.com/yhl3es...I have the brown hair it's from new years Im sort of wasted and my eyes are red, http://tinyurl.com/yu5rhw http://tinyurl.com/2co66u )

to give you a better idea of what I want is sort of someone to fall back on, not exactly a serious relationship or anything like that, my past relationships have failed, and I dont want to feel like Im constantly dealing with another person in my life, call me selfish, but Im not in the mood to be tied down, Im in the mood to get what I want when I want it.



wow

I guess I'm bossy, sheesh, honestly I can't say what I want since I feel like I'm constantly changing my mind, I see other girls in relationships and for that moment want that, and then I think back to my previous boyfriend and take it back completely.

as for now, I just want action.

one nighter is more preferable than a relationship!

thanks

and sorry this is long

and Im babbling

P.S. Im not british, lola's not even my real name, and I've never been to london in my life, sorry!



[This message has been edited by LOla_LOndon (edited 01-17-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Feds In Town:

I havent done shit for 6 months....... :\?

I haven't kissed a girl or had sex in one and a half years. I win at this thread but fail at life.

Your first link is broken so I'm reposting it to see if it will show up easier for other people. http://tinyurl.com/yhl3es

Actually, you aren't that bad looking. You appear to dress like a lot of girls I've seen, have an attractive body and a pretty face. So, I'm going to have to guess you are just being too shy. Go flirt with some guys, you have nothing to lose.

By not risking failure you are also not risking success.

originally I was going to say if you haven't gotten ass in four months, you must be ugly. but you're not. just get out and flirt, it'll come soon.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

LOL *hums 'maybe its cos I's a mockney'

Just for the record, me old man's family are all old school Bethnal Green and i kinda picked it up from them...much to my mother's annoyance(she married beneath herself).

Nice one mate!

quote:http://tinyurl.com/yhl3es ...I have the brown hair it's from new years Im sort of wasted and my eyes are red, http://tinyurl.com/yu5rhw http://tinyurl.com/2co66u )



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if your the girl with brown hair whyd you put the black haired girls tits up not that im complaining. it s just that sometimes girls get their hair color wrong

Well if you want action for action's sake then go for.

If you want to be a tease for attention, dont do it cause it will be trouble.

This is the direct and take charge approach. maybe it work maybe it won't Tell me what you think.

Go to party.

Pick guy.

say hi and ask name

Tell him he better come with you without saying why.

Go to bedroom.

Command him to get on bed.

If he says anything, tell him he better not refuse you and do as you say now.

Continue to command him and tell him what to do.

The trick is act as a person that must be obeyed and as a person of authority. Being dominant might add to the thrill

quote:Originally posted by Omikcron:

Well if you want action for action's sake then go for.

If you want to be a tease for attention, dont do it cause it will be trouble.

This is the direct and take charge approach. maybe it work maybe it won't Tell me what you think.

Go to party.

Pick guy.

say hi and ask name

Tell him he better come with you without saying why.

Go to bedroom.

Command him to get on bed.

If he says anything, tell him he better not refuse you and do as you say now.

Continue to command him and tell him what to do.

The trick is act as a person that must be obeyed and as a person of authority. Being dominant might add to the thrill

She's decent looking... any guy would be fine with that. Come on, your head might say "hold on, lemme process this", but your penis will say "yeahhh baby"!

quote:Originally posted by brookswrstlr171:

if your the girl with brown hair whyd you put the black haired girls tits up not that im complaining. it s just that sometimes girls get their hair color wrong

the other girl has dark blonde hair you colourblind moron.

yes, i would be naked with you anytime you want.

Yeah sorry, I suppose my hair is blackish-brown...my friend is definately blonde. haha, I guess this weekend I better take some of this advice, and try not to be too shy, or too bold....I'll find a nice spot in the middle!

You hold back too much. Not sexually, but at your core. You follow and you like being under the wing - I feel as though you don't try and go for panache and flamboyancy, pushing the envelope at the party. Try it. Try becoming something, someone, that is totally incongruent with who you are now.

if women want to fuck more than guys, then how come women never try to pick up or ask out even a guy???

quote:Originally posted by kAtE-:

Just do it, your'll be happy when you find yourself a casual sex partner/one night stand.

LOL

[This message has been edited by tricky (edited 01-19-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by yoyobek:

I really dont get that. How can a food 'be' a color? You're not even saying her favorite color is the color of roast beef, you're just saying roast beef is a color!

That's just retarded!

Aggh!

This post should be put in the dictionary under 'Epic Fale'

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

http://tinyurl.com/yhl3es...I have the brown hair it's from new years Im sort of wasted and my eyes are red, http://tinyurl.com/yu5rhw http://tinyurl.com/2co66u



This thread is a joke right?

quote:Originally posted by DuckWarri0r:

This post should be put in the dictionary under 'Epic Fale'

Irony

quote:Originally posted by xXBatgirlXx:

It's not desperation, it's sexual confidence.

That is - if you're going after someone you actually want.

Just do it, guys love it when a woman takes control.

(most guys, anyway)

i like it when some girls take control but mostly its kind of a turn off when the chick is more sexually aggresive than i am. I like kinky shit not agressive shit.

It's all good now, as of last night the 4month dry season is over. Actually I didnt really take any of the advice on here, sorry guys....I didnt have to be obviously hinting, I was just me, and it worked.

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

It's all good now, as of last night the 4month dry season is over. Actually I didnt really take any of the advice on here, sorry guys....I didnt have to be obviously hinting, I was just me, and it worked.

Good to know you got some cock in you!

On a more serious note, out of curiosity where do you live?

I live in London too.

Come fuck me.

quote:Originally posted by LOla_LOndon:

I havn't done ANYTHING in 4 months

that includes

no cuddling

no kissing

no NOTHING

and I'm getting really sick of it, I'm not unnattractive, but I do get nervous about making a move, since I am a girl and I don't want the guy to think I'm too desperate...even if I am....I just want to have someone to do something with, and most of my guy friends are dating or not attractive. Im so frusterated.

how can I initiate something without coming on too strong?

Just fucking do it.

Youd be surprised.

Look at it this way, do you think he would have more fun while you lay there, while he sweats and pumps you, or would he have more fun if you were pumping him as well. Take a look at the world and how the woman ALWAYS seems to just wait there for the man.

Just strike up conversation, and see where it goes, you know, read their faces. Maybe theyre just scared and you dont realize it.

Youll stand out from the rest, you never know, maybe they dont think youre desperate, maybe they think youre too hot for them.

Or you could be like the rest and just try to look hot all day, but let me tell you this: Many woman stare at me like they want me to chase them. Many even try to communicate but arent used to guys who will not obsessively chase them... it almost feels like women dont listen to themselves and make it clear what they want. But the one thing that makes me give a woman the full package is when she makes the moves first. If you get rejected, so what. And why dont you just go on craigslist.com if you say you are attractive. Go to the personals.

And by the way, I went out with a girl for six months of great sex, because she made the first move. Oh and another for 2 months. In fact, every girl Ive gone out with or had sex with has made the first move or initiated some kind of conversation.

You have no idea how rejected guys feel. There are amazing people under that mask, just waiting for someone to bring them out. If you put a little in, you just might get a lot.

[This message has been edited by Fuck (edited 01-20-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by Metaphysicist:

I think there would be way more chance of a guy being happy/grateful/relieved/etc...were you to make the first move, than a guy thinking you were desperate.

Trust me; I've been around enough years to learn a few things and that one is a no-brainer I think.

Fucking QFT

Im sorry I don't live in london..

I live in the USA

to be more specific the midwest.