I have been hanging out with this girl for a while now. We are really close and we cuddle a lot. She doesn't want to be in a relationship with me, but instead will talk about trying to be with other people. We are really close and I really like her. I don't drink or smoke and I don't use women. I need some advice here. Should I just forget her and put my quality time into someone else?

"why me?" is ALWAYS the wrong mindset.

Why 'mooo'? Because if you're a cow...that's what you do.

You can't change people. If someone is not to your liking...it's best to move on. Though? Some folks like taking on impossible tasks as it gives them the decent excuse they need to drink.

You are stuck in a level of "just friends" that is staggering. She is so comfortable with the notion of you being only a friend now and forever that she will snuggle up with you and confide all her desires to blow everyone but you. Move on there boy-o, unless you like being used as a human pillow.

Brutal honesty: she doesn't see you as boyfriend material, and it's probably because you don't act like boyfriend material.

Good news: knowing how to act like boyfriend material is something you can very definitely learn. But that's a whole other issue, and you won't learn it quick enough to change this particular girls feelings any time soon.



[This message has been edited by fullcircle (edited 01-15-2007).]

Yup, she has made her feelings clear it seems. So don't waste anymore energy trying to be more than just friends with her since it would be energy - and time - wasted.

You ask: Why me?

It's just as valid to ask why not you too...

Act mean

Be an alpha male

Be an asshole

sadly its the only way...

quote:Originally posted by moonmeister:

Why 'mooo'? Because if you're a cow...that's what you do.

Brilliant.

You may as well be gay. At least to her anyway, sounds like she'd prefer if you were too.

Really, you're just getting used to being the bitch friend, to being the psychiatrist.

Give up talking to her. At least if you want to stop wasting time being around a girl who simply isn't attracted to you.

It's very possible you were too "nice", too much of a friend.

quote:Originally posted by MJR deus:

Act mean

Be an alpha male

Be an asshole

sadly its the only way...

Preach on brother, for your words are true and righteous.

All I heard was "Wah wah wah"

Grow a backbone and be a man.

Women like to take slaves. Are you her only one or does she have a stable full?

Well take a chance wile you are snuggling squeeze her tits and are her ass... Don't tell her you like her just touch her. If she gets mad then than thats your chance get away.

Ask her to hook you up with a friend are something.DON'T KISS HER

When She gets jealous which she will then fuck her.