Honestly, what is the big deal with my porn? I don't ditch her to watch porn, or anything remotely similar. I've just come to the conclusion that girls will never understand the fact that guys are visually stimulated, and sometimes all we need is a quick release. If the ole gf isn't there, porn is. Problem solved. There is nothing sinister or sneaky about porn, why does it bother her so much? Does anyone else share my point of view?

I understand man.

Not all girls mate. Your girlfriend is simply uneducated on the matter.

ya...true dat stab, We've watched porn together lots, but she just doesn't like me having it. And me being a whipped male. I deleted it. WAHHHHHHHHHH!!! I still have internet, I'll live. Also her c-word scab of a friend saying "if he really liked you, he wouldn't need porn." I'm gonna pee on her brain.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Not all girls mate.

Really. My friend/ex likes porn more than I do.

I like porn. I prefer the girl/girl variety. I think I like porn more than my boyfriend even.

Porn serves a purpose. Some girls know that, and the ones that don't really need to get laid.

Porn FTW

quote:Originally posted by Craftian:

"if he really liked you, he wouldn't need porn."

"If she put out at his beckoning call he wouldn't need porn"

I think you just have an inconsiderate/ignorant girlfriend. I could how she could have a problem if you were jerking off to porn instead of sexing her, but if you only do it when she's not around then you're not doing anything wrong in my books.

My ex use to watch porn all the time. I didn't have a problem with it unless it affected other aspects of the relationship. Your GF probably has a problem with it because of all the stupid articles in Cosmo or other magazines telling her that it creates relationship problems. That or she thinks you find them more attractive and she wonders why she isn't "enough"

quote:Originally posted by EssJay:

"If she put out at his beckoning call he wouldn't need porn"

Not to be an asshat but the phrase is "beck and call."

Well, I think the solution is simple.

Record a few videos of the two of you together. That way, she wont have any grounds to be upset when you fap to it later.

Past girlfriends I have had said that they, "felt cheated on." Which, in a certain light, I can kind of see, being as I am getting off to the thought of another woman loving tenderly on another woman's lovelies and given the opportunity I couldn't say I would jump in. But I would at least ask her if she wants to get in on it too, because in the end its all about sharing is caring.

Anyway, got a little off topic there, so point is, be sure you delete history and don't keep anything longer than a wack session unless you have a special locked/hidden folder that she won't see. It just all works out better in the end in your given situation.

y dont you just put porn on a flash drive, if she isnt there, fap, if she is there, fuck, hide said drive while shes there, problem solved...

I think that my boyfriend watching porn is OK. He even admits that sometimes he just wants to wank. I understand, because I feel the same way too. Masturbation isn't necessarily better than sex, but it is DIFFERENT, and as such, is nice to do from time to time dispite the amount of sex you get.

By making you out to be a bad guy, she is potentially damaging your relationship. It's not her fault- the porn thing makes her feel uncomfortable, but if you guys can't come to some sort of agreement and compromise, then maybe she really isn't the girl for you, and maybe you aren't the guy for her.

um DUH. are you kidding me? id KILL my boyfriend if he watched porn, especially because he has ME to fuck. whats the point of it? and yes, its like being cheated on. you're basically being turned on by OTHER women and jacking off to THEM instead of her. if you want to beat off to someone, fucking think about HER instead.

i mean .. how would you feel if she watched porn and looked at other guy's penises all day?

and also, a lot of pornstars have hott ass bodies - big tits & whatnots - and maybe she doesnt. so she might feel unattractive compared to them and her self esteem level might go down. she might also feel like you like the pornstars better than her.

if you guys havent fucked yet, then i can understand. a little. dont pressure her to have sex with you though, cause maybe she isnt ready.

have her send naked pictures of herself to you, and replace your porn with that. unless you guys are under 18 - then dont fucking do it cause thats sick

Stephanie, dang it, you don't get it. Are you always there when he feels the need to rub one out? My argument would be that watching some chick I could never, ever fuck on the computer would be a lot better alternative than finding another chick I could fuck. Granted that logic wouldn't be appreciated, at all, but when is it now-a-days anyway?

Edit: I bet my left nut he watches or views porn in some way, for the record.

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quote:Originally posted by StephanieDANGit:

and also, a lot of pornstars have hott ass bodies - big tits & whatnots - and maybe she doesnt. so she might feel unattractive compared to them

Despite the fact that you seem incredibly annoying, I thought this point was valid. And I've worried about girls thinking that before.

heh. my gf makes fun of me once in a while because i have/do look at porn. she doesn't really care all that much, though.

Why does she know, lol? These are the things we dont' tell them.

quote:Originally posted by StephanieDANGit:

blah blah

Are you trolling?

Because damn, if you're serious, I can't see you having a relationship longer than six months. Ever heard of "Look but don't touch?" It's fantasy.

He does have you to fuck, but sometimes he waxes his carrot, get over it. You can only eat so many red M&Ms before you want a green one.

Stephanie... I think that a girl that gets THAT upset about her boyfriend watching porno has problems of her own. At the point of intensity that you have expressed in your post, I believe the issues here are the girls'. If SHE feels unnattractive, then maybe SHE should figure out how to cope with HER problem.

I understand that every relationship has its "he does this but I don't like it" and vice versa, but as a girlfriend, do you not care that your boyfriend seeks this time for personal enjoyment? Do you not care what he enjoys.

You need to find boyfriends that don't like porn at all. And likewise, the guy dating a girl like you needs to dump her ass and find a girl that is more secure and self-assured.

Tell her to chillax, and not get in such a fluster over something she can't change, and isn't hurting anyone.

Least of your relationship...until you let it.

If she really can't respect who you are/what turns you on then should you really be together?

That Stephanie person basically gave my main point, though she was being a bit extreme about it

the fact that the boyfriend is getting off to a prettier person than the girlfriend is a bit of a downer. He should be thinking of his girlfriend instead.

If there were 2 people fucking in lets say....a restaurant - do you think she would just not care and let you go up and watch, and maybe fap to it?

Or would you take your girlfriend to hooters?

She doesn't want you looking at other girls because it makes her feel less important/attractive.

This is the most informational post I have ever made.

My boyfriend watching porn does make me feel inadequate, because I always know that there are girls who are much hotter than me that he will be thinking about. But of course that's just the way it is and bitching won't do anything about it, so I don't bother him about it.

Men like porn. Period. If you complain about it they'll just start lying to you about it. I find it's best to let boys be boys.

Porn stars may be "hotter" than the average girl, but they're sleazy and gross at the same time.

I couldn't care less. If a guy wants to watch porn, whatever. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you.

I understand where all the females are coming from here, all I ask is that my girlfriend understands the purpose of porn. It is not so I can think of how awesome it would be to cheat on her with a big boobed, floppy pooned pornstar. During the day if I get horned up at work(usually thinking about the afore mentioned gf) I need some release at home. And unlike females, I can't just stroke my dick and come, It is a fact that males are immensely visually stimulated, and watching porn makes the whole fapping exprience much more delightful. And the fact she feels insecure I also understand, but it is something most people feel. When she masturbates, I can bet it's not always about me, maybe she looking at a picture of Channing Tantum or something. I don't care because I know she's not going to leave me for a picture of some dreamboat. And honestly, during a porn flick, most of the time I skip to the parts where his big fat weiner is playing hide the sausage in her poony. I don't really even look at the chicks face. The end.

Dude... pics on a computer don't compare to a person you've really met and loved.

Am I right saying that when you wank, though you might be watching some crazy bleach-blonde having a bisexual orgy you're not neccesarily there.

In fact, who has ever sat back and imagined their girlfriend riding them as they blew their load?

Porn = for when your imagination isn't working to well.

I have never cared if my boyfriend watches porn. I mean, there is nothing worth getting worked up about. Plain and simple.

thats the thing, most of time, I'm putting myself in the place of the tv repair man, pizza delivery man, or the sex ed teacher. And usually the girl is the girl I love. ITS JUST A FAPPING AID YO! When I spurt my man goo, i scream her name in tremendous pleasure, clean up, carve her initials into the base of my dink, then cry while listening to howie day's Collide. Im all man.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Porn stars may be "hotter" than the average girl, but they're sleazy and gross at the same time.

I couldn't care less. If a guy wants to watch porn, whatever. That doesn't mean he doesn't like you.

It doesn't? Maybe you can look at it this way, he gets his physical stimilus through watching beatiful pornstars. He gets his emotional fulfillment from you. I would think most women would be offended by the thought of not being able to visually please their man.

Want a solution? Have her make raunchy porn movies for you to jack off to instead. Sounds like you are one whipped bitch and it really doesn't matter what we say, because you will never put your foot down.

Ya carbon...whipped. Whipped enough to bitch slap you with my internet penis!!!

Maybe it's just that I have enough courtesy to accomodate my girlfriend's wishes...to a reasonable extent. It's something I would expect her to do, so why not pave the way? I happen to love porn, but not enough to argue about something so trivial.

theres a multi-part answer to this.. 1 women in general aren't as open/ turned on by porn as men. A lot of porn is big guys fucking the shit out of pretty tiny girls... women feel that porn defaces and devalues women... and that women are portrayed by objects... and like monkey see monkey do, they feel that women are obligated to preform the same duties that pornstars doo.. then you have the whole envy thing where women feel they can never measure up to the beauty/skill of pornstars.... and that men like porn better then sex with they're partners...

and the mother of all answers is that women feel what they offer should be more then enough stimulant for their man, and that they shouldn't need porn when they have a gf...

quote:Originally posted by PieGirl:

That Stephanie person basically gave my main point, though she was being a bit extreme about it

the fact that the boyfriend is getting off to a prettier person than the girlfriend is a bit of a downer. He should be thinking of his girlfriend instead.

Say a guy is unemployed, or on holiday from work so has time at home, and nothing to do. He's going to masturbate upwards of four times that day for the most part. Or say he's not off, once or twice a day probably. Forcing yourself to think of the same girl over and over again, particularly if you don't have too active an imagination is just going to be boring. Unless the couple is into making their own porn which always provides him with material (or has a very active sex life he can reflect upon) then thinking about that girl the whole time is going to make things stale. When in a relationship you've never thought about, or even looked at another man?

quote:Originally posted by Craftian:

. Also her c-word scab of a friend saying "if he really liked you, he wouldn't need porn." I'm gonna pee on her brain.

Fuck ya! I hate bitches like that. People who purposely fuck up relationships should just fall down and die. They just need to mind their own bussiness

quote:Originally posted by Craftian:

Ya carbon...whipped. Whipped enough to bitch slap you with my internet penis!!!

Maybe it's just that I have enough courtesy to accomodate my girlfriend's wishes...to a reasonable extent. It's something I would expect her to do, so why not pave the way? I happen to love porn, but not enough to argue about something so trivial.

Pretty clear the only thing you are whipping is that thing you call a penis. It seems like you need porn as a crutch. Is your girlfriend ugly? Mind posting pictures?

quote:Originally posted by Craftian:

Honestly, what is the big deal with my porn? I don't ditch her to watch porn, or anything remotely similar. I've just come to the conclusion that girls will never understand the fact that guys are visually stimulated, and sometimes all we need is a quick release. If the ole gf isn't there, porn is. Problem solved. There is nothing sinister or sneaky about porn, why does it bother her so much? Does anyone else share my point of view?

well why don't i tell you my story first and then ill explain. now before i was living with my boyfriend i say he at first only once a week and then eventually everyday. even to the point of sneaking me into his house during the summer. and i tore me up inside when i know i couldn't be there to take care of he sexual needs. i have no idea why but it just makes me really happy knowing that im there taking care of his needs. it brings that sense of fulfillment.

so that could be why pron makes your girlfriend upset because she would rather be there taking care of your needs instead of something that she knows she cant be.(if you know what i mean) see pron makes women think that they have to be a certain way in sex like, liking it rough and doing very kinky things like in porn that they may not be into . so if you want to make it better just talk to her about what bothers her about it and explain that you like her the way she is. oh and compliment her on the way she makes you happy. that will help a lot to

quote:Originally posted by StephanieDANGit:

think about HER instead.



Men are visually stimulated.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Not all girls mate.

My exgirlfriend/current fuck buddy likes porn, it is great.

1) She might feel jealous that you're fapping off to porn stars with "perfect" bodies.

2)I know a guy who got dumped because his girlfriend found his secret porn stash after she told him not to watch porn. Maybe she feels insecure, she DOES have one inverted nipple.

3) I have a larger porn collection than my boyfriend. Not all gals despise porn, but I think the larger majority of those that do are insecure.

What you should do: Directly ask her why she doesn't want you watching porn. Most likely she will say:

a) What's wrong with me? Why do you have to resort to porn?

or

b) You think they are hotter than me?



Answers:

a) "Babe, I love making love to you, but when you are unavailable I have to have release. Jerking off is nothing compared to what we do together..."

b) "You are smoking hot! Of course these aids-ridden, fake looking sluts aren't hotter than you. I don't even like big tits."

To either above, finish your sentence with:

"I have a hard enough time getting off to these ugly hoes. How about we make a movie together so I can see your gorgeous body instead of these whores?"

If above is ineffective, you have two options:

1) Give up your porn for the sake of a relationship.

2) Give up your relationship for the sake of porn.

Relationships are all about sacrifices, but make sure she is the type of girl you want to sacrifice porn for. Do you really want to go six months, a year, or two years without porn, only to end up dumping her anyways?

Id just try taking her to the porn shop letting her pick out one....then watch it together and let her keep it with her....assuming you dont live together..

"porn doesn't judge you"

How old is your girlfriend, because she is either young or immature.

Edit.

To the person who said relationships are all about sacrifice: someone asking you to sacrifice something that is a necessary release for you and in no way effects them isn't ready for a relationship. If she is worried about you looking at porn then there is no way she can handle real issues.

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