So about three months ago, I ended my longest relationship, about 2 and a half years. I miss her still, but I'm getting through it. When I was with her, I NEVER ran into the problem of losing my erection. We had sex countless times during those 2 and a half years and never once had this happend. So after us splitting up, I finally find a girl, who doesn't want a relationship, but just a fuck buddy. She's had sex with a few more people than I have, so she was more comfortable with experience than I was. So we've had sex four times now, the first time was just the worst. We were getting into it and I go down on her, for what seemed like forever, trying to gain my erection. Usually going down on a girl gets me going. I got the erection and as soon as I got the condom out, and attempted to put it on I lost the erection. I am used to having sex with condoms and it's not unfamiliar to me. Eventually I got it up, and we went at it. We went at it for 45 minutes before she admitted to being sore, I wasn't even close to finishing with a half hard on. The second time was a repeat of the same before. Third time we were drunk as shit, I got it right away, but half way through I lost it. She gave me a blowjob for the first time since we had been fooling around. That quickly fixed things, I re-inserted, and I was able to finish. The fourth time was a repeat of the first two times. I really don't know what the hell is going on. At first I thought it was because I was too nervous, or that it was because she provided no foreplay beyond a handjob (that weren't even good). Now I've noticed in past weeks that my erection is definetly not as full as it used to be. I do smoke cigarettes, I do drink occasionally and I smoke weed daily. Sometimes 3-4 times a day. I'm in good shape, fairly athletic, and only 19, but I'm not sure if my blood flow is too good. Any suggestions would be helpful

Your emotional state can do a lot wierd things so if your still sad about your past relationship that could be it. But something like this is hard to find out the problem so just wait till it goes away.

Or you got ED, get viagra and your good.

Dude when I'm depressed, my cock is fucking USELESS. It's never rock hard, it has a mind of it's own, and I just CAN'T come.

Exact opposite when I'm happy.

Maybe you're the same.

That could be maybe. I really don't want to be on the Viagra sex schedule though, my god that would suck at 19.

quote:Originally posted by Becoming_Godsize:

That could be maybe. I really don't want to be on the Viagra sex schedule though, my god that would suck at 19.

At our age (19), these problems are 99% of the time mental. They can be overcome. Does this girl excite you as much as your ex?

Do you feel it's too early to be seeing other people?

Are you still hung up on your ex?

I don't know, I have depression, and the reason I ended it with my ex was because of our situation and my depression was taking it to a whole nother level. After I broke up with her I took my meds for a little bit longer and then just stopped. I do think about her sometimes, but not too much. The girl I was sleeping with, she was really hot to me before we slept together the first time, but since then she showed me who she really is, and I found her less attractive.

Ya dude, the erection thing is totally normal. I went through the same thing as you (breaking up, feeling shitty) Your emotions play a big part in your abiltiy to perform in the ole bedroom, and it seems like you are still very hurt by your ex. Also the fact that you aren't attracted to this girl really doesn't help. My advice, break things off with this girl, it's not doing you or her any good. Someone will just get hurt in the end. Take some mroe time to just chill, keep you mind on other things, and someone will come along who you can be really into. Then mister pee-pee will stand tall.