When I met my man I was a major coke head. I met him because I wanted coke. But now if I smoke weed or even a cig he will throw the biggest bitch fit. What if your man would freak out over the clothes you wear? Like "too revealing"? Or what if he didn't want you to talk to any guys? Or even drink? How would you girls feel? Not to meet people, but to go hang out with friends? He's not my man anymore, but still I just want to know how you would feel about these things

I think people have to compromise in relationships, otherwise it's hard to work things out. And if that were me in that situation, I'd want to find some middle ground, or I'd split up.

I couldn't deal with someone criticising me all the time, it would make me feel trapped.

I think it's down to how much you are willing to adhere to, and if it's in your best interests.

honestly for every woman i told that I didn't want her to do something, I was eventually labeled as over controlling.

and for every woman I let do whatever the hell they want, i was accussed of not caring about her.

hmmmmm

A few years ago I ended up spending the weekend around these two girls. Their boyfriends wouldn't even let them talk to other guys. I spent a good chunk of the weekend trying to convince one of them to dump her boyfriend, and trying to convince the other one to dump her boyfriend for me.

Men suck.

You shouldn't smoke or drink when you're pregnant...don't be stupid.

Yea, no guy at all. If he sees anyone talking to me "He'd be like Who the fuck is that?!" Then he'd proceed to go tell the guy stuff. Just shit like that. And the smoking thing bothers me too

Edit: Holy shit im not pregnant. I was on Birth control for about a month and a half then I was off for two months. Those whole two months we never used any kind of protection. He never pulled out, no condoms. Fucking crazy eh?

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The guys that look to have relationships such as this are usually devoid of good qualities.

quote:Originally posted by Border Hopper:

Yea, no guy at all. If he sees anyone talking to me "He'd be like Who the fuck is that?!" Then he'd proceed to go tell the guy stuff. Just shit like that. And the smoking thing bothers me too

Edit: Holy shit im not pregnant. I was on Birth control for about a month and a half then I was off for two months. Those whole two months we never used any kind of protection. He never pulled out, no condoms. Fucking crazy eh?



Those hard drugs can make you barren. Happened to my sister, she died from a bad crack rock, too.

quote:Originally posted by Border Hopper:



Edit: Holy shit im not pregnant. I was on Birth control for about a month and a half then I was off for two months. Those whole two months we never used any kind of protection. He never pulled out, no condoms. Fucking crazy eh?



Wow, you're lucky. But fucking stupid. Like, I can't begin to express how fucking dumb you are.

Fuck yea I was fucking stupid! So many girls in my High school are pregnant from like a broken condom or he pulled out a little to late and bearly and cum got her knocked up. We had sex a few times a day too and I never got knocked up.

It makes me flinch when you call him a 'man'.

Sure, I would respect the oppinions of a guy I was dating. I could understand him not wanting me to talk to other guys..aslong as he was being reasonable and wasnt crazy and ordered me not to talk to the men I have to work with or my brother or something.

If his demands are because he is concerned about you you'll have to meet him half way on that.On the one side it's your life your body ect, on the other, if he's worried about you and cares for you, it would be selfish to continue doing anything utterly self-destructive.

Ugh, my last relationship was like that. He wouldn't even let me smoke weed. My advice to anyone in that kind of relationship is to get out, fast. It'll just lead to bigger and bigger conflicts.

I do think a proper relationship is about compromising.

But any partner I've had that has activly tried to control me has learnt the first time that that's a no go.

I place very few restrictions on other people in respects to their recreational activities and their friends and expect the same in return.

quote:Originally posted by bloodenangel:

I do think a proper relationship is about compromising.

But any partner I've had that has activly tried to control me has learnt the first time that that's a no go.

I place very few restrictions on other people in respects to their recreational activities and their friends and expect the same in return.

You go girl, mmmhmm! *shakes head from side to side*

i dont let my girl drink without me being there and i dont LIKE her talking to guys,but i cant completely control that...but i do ask who the fuck the guy is she is talking to.and i would say im full of good qualities.not to toot my own horn.but maybe its because my girlfriend is even more controlling...but in a goodway.

I have the greatest boyfriend in the world. We have a wonderful relationship, where he can be close with his girlfriends, and I am not jealous because I know he loves me and won't even consider cheating on me. And where I can be friends with any guys and not get asked "Who the fuck is that?!" because he trusts me the same way.

I used to think that that sort of behavior was normal. It's not. Either HE is being immature and groundlessly jealous, or else YOU are doing something to make him feel that way.

Compromise is good. But you should never give up something big for "the person you love" and feel guilty and sore about it later. If you regret it, then you made the bad choice. There are more fish in the sea, so to say. One who will let you do whatever you want.

i was stuck in a relationship where i was told what i could and couldnt do for almost 3 years. what i could wear, do, say around people. in the end i couldnt cope with the fact i felt id lost my personality so i left and now i feel so much better. though when i got into my newst relationship i was taking alot too many drugs in his opinion, so iv cut down drugs because he asked me to, mainly cos i know it was for my own good rather than his power trip. he was struggling with watching me fuck myself up, and he told me that and i cut down drastically.

suppose what im saying is if its trivial stuff then theyre just power mad freaks. and iv always said "but you met me on all these drugs and you liked me then, nothings changed" but ive learnt if you like the guy enough then you can have fun without AS many drugs, though you shouldnt have to cut them out completely, just lower them to a slightly safer level, cos if someone loves you they might be scared of whats gonna happn to you. me and my bf do drugs socially together now, i still do abit more than him but hes ok with it as long as i dont go stupid

not lettin you have weed and stuff tho is harsh, its not like its hardcore or anything. or cigs. people should let you be yourself to an extent or you feel trapped and freak out

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quote:Originally posted by Euda:

The guys that look to have relationships such as this are usually devoid of good qualities.

Simply and perfectly put.

quote:Originally posted by Border Hopper:

Edit: Holy shit im not pregnant. I was on Birth control for about a month and a half then I was off for two months. Those whole two months we never used any kind of protection. He never pulled out, no condoms. Fucking crazy eh?

No, fucking stupid. Dummass

quote:Originally posted by RabidGeneral:

honestly for every woman i told that I didn't want her to do something, I was eventually labeled as over controlling.

and for every woman I let do whatever the hell they want, i was accussed of not caring about her.

hmmmmm

QFT

I don't "let" my girlfriend drink to excess or smoke. If she'd rather do those things than be with me, she's free to leave, but those are two qualities I would never tolerate in a potential mate.

She did both before we got together. I guess that makes me evil and manipulative.

Here's how I feel:

If you have to change a person in order to love or be with them, THEN THAT PERSON IS NOT THE ONE FOR YOU.

I'd get the split on, with the quickness.

quote:Originally posted by Prometheus:

A few years ago I ended up spending the weekend around these two girls. Their boyfriends wouldn't even let them talk to other guys. I spent a good chunk of the weekend trying to convince one of them to dump her boyfriend, and trying to convince the other one to dump her boyfriend for me.

Men suck.

I HATE guys like that.

There is a lovely girl in a dorm a few floors above me, her boyfriend has clearly fucked her up.

Because it's a semi-long distance relationship, he has his controlling ways over the phone and e-mail, she's rarely not speaking to him. She doesn't go out because he doesn't want her to, even to the cinema with a group of friends (male and female) for a friend's birthday because "it's something that they would do together." One time I popped by her room to ask her "You want to come to the bar with all of us", which she was going to do but she was on the phone to her boyfriend who got jealous from just hearing a guy's voice (mine). She spent the next 5 minutes trying to make him not jealous. She even gets panic attacks whenever he's not around or has treated her like shit.

I don't even think she'll be back to uni this term, I don't have that much sympathy for her.. I can't understand why she'd be so fucking stupid to go out with a guy like that. There was talk of him coming and staying later on this year, I'd make the cunt sit down and have a little chat mano e mano.

I hate when people say they're trapped in relationships like that. There comes a time when you're no longer a victim, you're a volunteer.

I'm going to remember that phrase.

quote:Originally posted by ZeroMalarki:

got jealous from just hearing a guy's voice (mine).

Our accents do wonders for other people's relationships.

Putting up with something like that is disgusting.