I've been with this girl for a little over a month. She's awesome. I like her a lot and she likes me a lot.

But, the only part she doesn't like about me is how I'm quiet. It's not that I'm scared of talking to her (or girls in general)...it's just I'm naturally quiet and it's always been that way.

I hate it how she thinks I'm boring. I would really like to be able to talk to her more, but I don't ever have anything to say!

I don't know, TOTSE. Any tips on how to be more outgoing and talk more to her?

Also one more thing. What's better, being boring or annoying? She told me that she would rather me be annoying than boring, but I don't know. I always feel when I start talking more that I think I'm annoying but I don't know.

just work on segueing conversations into things you like. I'm the same way, whether im talking to them for the first time or the fiftieth, i find some subjects un-conversable and have nothing more than a few sentences on it. I've just worked at moving those conversations into a zone where its something i would enjoy talking about more.

Take up music, or painting.



She'll think your introspective and intelligent. /sarcasm.

Just try to be more open and maybe stop judging yourself. The whole thinking you're annoying thing you know?

People who don't talk alot simply don't have a lot to talk about. There are 3 different types of conversation. The first is an informative conversation, if you feel that you know everything about what you are talking about then there;s nothing to talk about unless you fake not knowing something. The 2nd is a debative conversation, if you both agree on something then there is nothing to debate, you could act like you don't though. 3rd is a bullshit of humorous conversation, though if you can't bullshit or your not funny then you may have to mimic what you see.

I'm quite a quiet person around people I dont know, but around people I do know i'm so worried that thered be an awkward silence that I just tend to talk about anything. Dont do that.

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I'm quite a quiet person around people I dont know, but around people I do know i'm so worried that thered be an awkward silence that I just tend to talk about anything. Dont do that.

I actually try to cause awkward silences sometimes. my record is 10. I want to beat that one day.

Look into Leil Lowndes

Same thing happens with me...Nearly not as much now though.

It may be different for you, but to key to conversation, is barly converation at all. Flirt with her, make HER feel shy. The other day, there was a girls vollyball tornament at my school, and yes, I took the chance to "chopping" a couple of them. So I was talking to a pretty cute one after the game.

My friend was there too, but he was talking to some other girl. We were sitting down and she kept looking away from me, so I said "Why you so shy?" she laughed and said "Im not shy..." So I replied "Oh come on...Talk to me at least, I wont bite". Couple minutes later were outside the gym laughing and flirting until we realized school was over. Might be different for you, because you already know the girl, but worth a try.

Talk about whatever pops into your head.

You're walking around town, you talk about that guy with the weird mustache, that stupid bus advert, the adorable tiny poodle.

whatever.

use the world around you as inspiration.