Yea some of you might have read my other topics about meeting this girl in person from online....finally getting down to the moments of truth.(ive been waiting for these and they are slowly coming up day by day with talking to her as the time nears of her driving up here.)

So originally this girl was suppose to drive up here to meet me and hang out for like a week or so(she cant stay that long with college now). And i just want to keep it on a friends type level...but i hinted at the idea(since shes thinking on a more serious level) and shes like well if i like you enough ill move there. From her words"Im willing to work to save up money to move up there or something, might take half yr, but worth it"

.....And i dont want that obviously...i want to meet her and have fun but i dont want her staying here and /or moving in with me. Can't have it.

So right now how can i hint it to her like that but then keep things legit. Idk if i can do that now. Yea of course some of you are probably going to say, "You answered you own question, say u just want to be friends", Yea and then she wont come up here at all then.

Im beating around the bush with the idea and minorly hinting thats not what i want until i come up with something more solid.

EDIT: From my point of view i dont think she has the will to make enough money to do so unless she gets a job here when she comes up...

[This message has been edited by NitrousMafia (edited 01-10-2007).]

Perhaps whenever she seems to be getting intimate or brings up that she would move in with you, just bring up how good of friends you are. Keep reminding her that you're her friend and she's a good friend to you.



Now, dont make it obvious. If she's leaning over and about to put her tongue in your mouth, don't tell her she's a good friend. But make her think that your not really thinking and you just want to be friends. I guess, make her think that anything more than friends hadn't even occured to you.

Hit her with something like

"I like you alot but we haven't even met yet and things are going too fast. Why don't we just meet and see what happens?"

this shit isn't that hard is it?

Well she even told me that, shes said with the distance between us i cant really say we are anything more than friends...

As long as i can establish a leave date and make sure she will leave im in the clear...Cuz if she comes up im going to have to be like totally gay to not have her like me anymore then she does now, cuz theres like no doubt in my mind that if she has the ability to she will stay here...so if worse comes to worse, abort the plan and just tell her no...

I replied back at her with a response hinting that i dont want her to move in, but no word back yet...

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Hit her with something like

"I like you alot but we haven't even met yet and things are going too fast. Why don't we just meet and see what happens?"

this shit isn't that hard is it?

Yea i sort of freestyled that in my last text to her, i said something along the lines are u sure thats going to work out with us meeting for the first time person, ur thinking about this already and we havent even met yet?

But ive known her for like 2 yrs online already soooo..shouldnt be that much of a transition...

"Meet and see what happens" : in my own words if she does come up will be:

1. We meet

2. If we start drinking/partying, its going down(u kno)

3. If step 2 is skipped give it a day or two and about a hour or two to ourselves with some personal time...

Then theres the "What happens" part, she knows what it is, and will want to stay...

I stepped her down off that level i think, she replied along the lines saying that shes just thinking ahead cause u never know what will and wont happen.(too bad i do and she prolly does to thats why the idea is in her head).

Cause right now if i could somehow explain the whole situation, its like if i let her go and deny her im going to miss out on a bunch of fun and then some....itd be like seeing a $100 bill on the ground and not picking it up.....except theres possible reprecussion with my decision, especially if i tred like i have with her previously, very well....idk

Why doesn't she just drive up there to fuck? Any other scenario would be ridiculous.

Hah lol that is the scenario, pretty much but you know with some girls, you wang them and they think its something serious...especially since im like the best thing shes been offered(not being a cocky bastard on this but the truth)...

As i mentioned in one of my other topics she lives in a shitty area, alot of guys she knows are gahbage/assholes(found out the hard way) but shes a nice girl, obviously or i wouldnt be going through all the trouble of posting this nonsense....

Dude, moving in? Fuck that, tell her the facts: you fucking met online, shes lucky enough to see you for a couple visits, but you're really not looking to MOVE IN with anyone...

God damn haha, how old are you by the way? just out of curiosity?

If you haven't even met her in person before, what the fuck is she thinking when she talks about moving in? You haven't hung out, got close, tickled each others organs, or split your first ice cream sundae. Tell her fantasies are only limited to the internet. She can come up and "hang out" to see how things go. If she only tugs your dick instead of sucking it, you know she isn't the right chick for you.

Im 19...her moving in thing is because of her situation with her life, im on the path of keeping that from happening after what i just said to her, but i know im going to run into it some more with her but im holding my ground now the subject.

As for the tugging and tickling and all that....theres really no doubt in my mind that if she comes up here, 1st off, and secondly has no problem with my physical/real apperance after the first few moments with her, its a done deal on that.

^^^ on that note, thats another reason why i dont want to ditch this idea haha, im planning on making recording footage of the whole "event" as it progresses(not us banging and shit like that), because itll be something to never forget if i can pull it off.

Yea if any of your on the lines of thinking why do you have to meet an online girl, just meet some local girl...well i went sort of deep with this girl a few years ago when i wasnt getting out as much as now, plus being in college. Her ideal time of coming up is around middle of feb, so by then i may have be dabbing around with a few girls since school just started back up and i have fucking opportunities now..(girls in my classes of descency,thank jesus christ lol)

Here she goes again, she acts like this little meeting situation is going from meeting for the first time to a "deal or no deal" on something what she calls "serious"

I guess if you were driving the distance she was youd be thinking along those lines, cause you have to have some kind of motivation to drive that far for someone haha....idk

quote:Originally posted by Run_For_Tha_Hills:

If you haven't even met her in person before, what the fuck is she thinking when she talks about moving in? You haven't hung out, got close, tickled each others organs, or split your first ice cream sundae. Tell her fantasies are only limited to the internet. She can come up and "hang out" to see how things go. If she only tugs your dick instead of sucking it, you know she isn't the right chick for you.

So what happens if we shoot the works and do all of the following u listed above? Does that mean i should let her move in with me? Ha I think if we do all that, that will be like signing and cashing the check and closing the deal....Thats why im trying to set business straight with her.

FUCKING JIPPED!!!!

Something i had in the back of my mind, idea wise...happened just now with her, something i knew that could happen and did....so the chances of us meeting are even slimmer....

Wasted all my time talking to this girl and shit and for what? Nothing? thats why i wanted to meet her, to sort of get a....how do you say....repayment or compensation so to speak. Oh well theres a chance though that it all may still happen, so im keeping my cards on the table

[This message has been edited by NitrousMafia (edited 01-19-2007).]