Well my and my gf usually fool around and I usually end up fingering her and she usually ends up rubbing/massaging my dick.

However, there is no lube so the dick massaging is gentle, and even tho it is dry, it doesn't hurt. And although it feels great, I have only orgasmed once in all of those times.

What is a readily available lube that can be easily applied whilst in the heat of the moment?

I don't want to bring something or use actual lube or anything like sun screen or vaseline because I don't want to gross her out and the slightest distraction usually means that she will uh, "withdraw" so to speak.

I hear spit works, but when I suggested it last friday, she said "not right now" and pulled her hand away from my pants. How could I suggest this in a more gentil way?

Woot first ever first post *Celbrates* anywasy meybe you should stop being cheep and go buy some KY

Saliva!

I find that KY dries faster than I want it to and leaves my hand sticky. I also don't enjoy it in my mouth. Saliva might dry up too but at least its free and it doesn't gross me out.

I don't know how to go about getting her to use her saliva. Maybe use your own spit, and she will see how spit makes life more fun...

Good luck!

quote:Originally posted by MartialShot:

Woot first ever first post *Celbrates* anywasy meybe you should stop being cheep and go buy some KY

I'm not being cheap I just don't want to gross her out or distract her and have her pull out again.

quote:Originally posted by MartialShot:

Woot first ever first post *Celbrates* anywasy meybe you should stop being cheep and go buy some KY

Your a fuckoff.

quote:Originally posted by Siash:

Originally posted by MartialShot:

Woot first ever first post *Celbrates* anywasy meybe you should stop being cheep and go buy some KY

Your a fuckoff.

I agree.

But back on topic...

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:



But back on topic...

I have an idea,

Lube it up before you get down and dirty with her.

Yes, it may feel wierd walking around with a hot lubed cock, but its all in the name of...something.

Wouldn't it dry/evaporate/get all over your pants/leave stains?

Yeah, it would. Cooking oil works decently, or some petroleum jelly... If you aren't going to be using a condom and fucking her anytime soon, then the feeling of the oily lubes is better.

Just make sure, though, that she doesn't become content with just that, because she needs to go down on your sometime.

Fuck lube. Get her to lube you up with her juices or something. If she ain't juicy, you suck.

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

Wouldn't it dry/evaporate/get all over your pants/leave stains?



Hey I was just trying to put ideas out there.

quote:Originally posted by Demoiselle:

Fuck lube. Get her to lube you up with her juices or something. If she ain't juicy, you suck.

That might work except, in his first post, he mentioned near the end she didn't even want to spit on the damn thing. I'm FAIRLY sure that the idea of her pussy juices being used will be a much greater turn off.

So, how about you READ the post before replying?

She usually is nice and wet but if she stops the rubbing at the suggestion of spit, what makes you think she will let me stick my dick in her vaj even if just for a second to get some lube? Or even just take some out with my finger? What makes you think she would do that?

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

She usually is nice and wet but if she stops the rubbing at the suggestion of spit, what makes you think she will let me stick my dick in her vaj even if just for a second to get some lube? Or even just take some out with my finger? What makes you think she would do that?

Well, the best I could understand her post was that you'd lube it yourself while you finger her. Which would only confuse her, and most likely upset her.

I'd suggest you see about being near the kitchen when you do this. Maybe buy a small thing of lube, eh?

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

She usually is nice and wet but if she stops the rubbing at the suggestion of spit, what makes you think she will let me stick my dick in her vaj even if just for a second to get some lube? Or even just take some out with my finger? What makes you think she would do that?

Not sure. Perhaps the fact that 95% of girls these days are slutcakes. You've somehow managed to find a prude... just try getting her really into it and turned on and junk, that'll probably make her a little more open to suggestions. And I'm sure the phrasing has something to do with it too. "Hey baby, spit on my dick" or something similar doesn't tend to go over well.

quote:Originally posted by Demoiselle:

Not sure. Perhaps the fact that 95% of girls these days are slutcakes. You've somehow managed to find a prude... just try getting her really into it and turned on and junk, that'll probably make her a little more open to suggestions. And I'm sure the phrasing has something to do with it too. "Hey baby, spit on my dick" or something similar doesn't tend to go over well.



Yeah, because I'm sure that she'll really care if she's a prude...

In truth, though, if something as small as using actual lube will "gross her out" or cause a distraction and make her withdraw, you really might want to consider stay with this woman.

How old is she, and how old are you? She sounds like she's no where near mature enough to be playing around, so you might very well have to respect that...

Oh, but for some free lube... http://www.lube.ca/dwr/free_sample.htm

No, she's not a prude by any means.

IDK why she pulls away when I suggested it but w/e.

We have a great time and she is very hot and acts sexy at the right times.

EDIT: It's not a matter of getting lube, but getting me/her to use it.

[This message has been edited by pepper23 (edited 01-08-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

No, she's not a prude by any means.

IDK why she pulls away when I suggested it but w/e.

We have a great time and she is very hot and acts sexy at the right times.

EDIT: It's not a matter of getting lube, but getting me/her to use it.



Ok then, let's use the hybrid idea then, here. When you're fingering her, get your fingers on a single hand as wet with her juices as you can, then rub your cock (avoiding the head, as that'll be near your precum, and if you're going to be using this hand later, well, you don't need the small chance that you knock her up, ya know?) a bit, maybe even using her hand to guide her.

Make sure that when she starts doing it RIGHT you moan. You groan. You make SOME NOISE so she knows that she's doing it correctly. Maybe try and work your way down to giving her oral this way, and from there just leave her hanging long enough that you can use her latent sexual energy to open her up more.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Ok then, let's use the hybrid idea then, here. When you're fingering her, get your fingers on a single hand as wet with her juices as you can, then rub your cock (avoiding the head, as that'll be near your precum, and if you're going to be using this hand later, well, you don't need the small chance that you knock her up, ya know?) a bit, maybe even using her hand to guide her.

Make sure that when she starts doing it RIGHT you moan. You groan. You make SOME NOISE so she knows that she's doing it correctly. Maybe try and work your way down to giving her oral this way, and from there just leave her hanging long enough that you can use her latent sexual energy to open her up more.

Thank you.

Finally, a helpful post.

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

Thank you.

Finally, a helpful post.

You know, maybe if you weren't so much of an asshole you'd have taken the time to see that everyone has tried to help you to the best of their abilities.

Really, I'm surprised you're such a fucking arsehat when you're asking people for help. How about this: You stop being such a fucking little pussy, and actually go and get her to suck your cock? It's not that hard, if you aren't a little stupid shit of a fifteen year old that has no concept of self and even less of a concept of being an adult male.

Yeah, I think that'd be the best path you could take, except you lack everything needed except a working penis to go that route. So maybe learn some manners if you're going to be a pussy, because you're your own biggest problem. :\

Pussy juice.

quote:Originally posted by Run_For_Tha_Hills:

Pussy juice.



That made me hungry for some reason...

Alright, this probably isn't going to work, but if you rub egg whites on your skin, and then you sweat, your skin gets slick. Maybe the same thing will happen?

Put some butter in the microwave for a few minutes then pour it on your dick. If you wont be able to apply it immediately after taking it out of the microwave, put the glass/bowl/whatever of butter over a candle near where you're gonna be doing stuff, so you can grab it when needed. Cheap and easy.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

You know, maybe if you weren't so much of an asshole you'd have taken the time to see that everyone has tried to help you to the best of their abilities.

Really, I'm surprised you're such a fucking arsehat when you're asking people for help. How about this: You stop being such a fucking little pussy, and actually go and get her to suck your cock? It's not that hard, if you aren't a little stupid shit of a fifteen year old that has no concept of self and even less of a concept of being an adult male.

Yeah, I think that'd be the best path you could take, except you lack everything needed except a working penis to go that route. So maybe learn some manners if you're going to be a pussy, because you're your own biggest problem. :\

1) I was referring to the people who talked about buying some lube, not being cheap, and who didn't read the OP.

2) I am 15 and a virgin; and

3) We both see sex as more than a source of pleasure, but a sign of affection/love.

4) We both don't see the need to rush things.

5)A few bad apples spoiled the bunch in this case. Thanks and apologies to the ones who were trying to help.

Be honest with her, tell her that it doesn't feel as good when she does it with nothing as lube.

Show that your willing to help the situation by going and buying some lube without her and introducing it to her before any activity so she can play with it and get used to it, hell it might even make her want to experiment.