I've been in a relationship for six months.. since June. Everything was fine, but since sometime I felt hopeless being with her, because there was no way in hell we could be together for a long time. And I think I'm getting a bit tired of her.

Anyway, I told her how I felt, and she knows it too. But she doesn't want to break up, and she asked if I still loved her. Of course I do, so I told her that. And that I care about her too. I still love her a bit, and I don't want to hurt her too much by breaking up. I thought of falling apart gradually, since the breakup would be more expected, but she's.. very grippy. She gets emo if I don't say I love you back, or if I don't kiss her back. She hates it when I'm silent. The thing is, she is fucking clingy. And I'm too weak hearted to see her hurt.

What now... she has to go.

If you're not happy with her then staying is a total waste of time, and it's not fair to you or her. The time you spend in a mediocre relationship is time that both you and her could be having relationships you actually enjoy.

It's going to hurt her no matter what. Just make sure that when you dump her you are decisive and don't give her any room to argue. Just say something to the effect of "I'm not happy in this relationship, and as of now it is over." You don't have to explain your reasons to her, a simple "I don't want to be with you anymore" will suffice. But don't be mean either. Assertive is the key. And good luck, it's never easy.

quote:Originally posted by Navicalist:

because there was no way in hell we could be together for a long time

Why?

Trust me.

You have to get away from it.

The longer you stay with her, the more comfortable you'll get. And before you know it, you'll end up married because it's more convenient then seeking out someone you actually love, and it doesnt involve hurting the girl you're with now.

quote:Originally posted by Navicalist:

I've been in a relationship for six months.. since June. Everything was fine, but since sometime I felt hopeless being with her, because there was no way in hell we could be together for a long time. And I think I'm getting a bit tired of her.

Anyway, I told her how I felt, and she knows it too. But she doesn't want to break up, and she asked if I still loved her. Of course I do, so I told her that. And that I care about her too. I still love her a bit, and I don't want to hurt her too much by breaking up. I thought of falling apart gradually, since the breakup would be more expected, but she's.. very grippy. She gets emo if I don't say I love you back, or if I don't kiss her back. She hates it when I'm silent. The thing is, she is fucking clingy. And I'm too weak hearted to see her hurt.

What now... she has to go.

you can either:

A: not tell her shit and get another girl

B: pay someone else to tell it to her/sing it to her

C: stay with it like a pussy.

yeah gradually backing away is going to achieve the opposite for you man. There are two distinct options youve got on the table right now if your going to end it. One: you man up and tell her its over... rip the bandaid off fast, it hurts more initally but is the lesser of evils as far as breaking up goes. Two: is a really pussy method but it works if you wanna weasel your way out without hurting her. You just become clingy/needy/pathetic to the point where she loses interest...

You've got to remember that if you gradually back away, its only going to make her more clingy than she is now. Oh and theres the last asshat method which i wouldnt even consider is where you just phase her out and cut out communication... Thats just a faggot move.

Eitherway best of luck to you...these situations suck.

I broke it to her, she's fine.. she doesn't mind us being fuck buddies though.

Weird world.

quote:Originally posted by Navicalist:

she doesn't mind us being fuck buddies though.

See where being straight forward and manly gets you in this world?

Everywhere, that's where.

You couldn't possibly have gotten a better answer to all of this.

Ah fuck...

she brings up, "how can you ask for sex when you're so mean".

She was on her knees when she said that.

FUCK.

Errr, bad idea asking for a blowjob six hours after breaking it to her.

[This message has been edited by Navicalist (edited 01-07-2007).]

*laughing*

Strange world indeed...