Well i hope i get one helpful response.

I met this girl, who will be known as Tanya, one night on the way to a mates house. There were quite a few people. She was very quiet, and i thought she was beautiful, but i didn't talk to her because i was shy.

We got to the house, and talked for a long time. We ended up kissing (the most amazing kiss i've ever had) and falling asleep together. Nothing else, just falling asleep, i didn't really want to have sex, i just enjoyed being next to her. We woke up the next morning, and everyone went their seperate ways, but me and Tanya ended up going back to our hometown.

I spent the day with her, and at some point, she was on the phone to her parents, and it turned out she had nowhere to stay for the night. She lived with her mum and sister, who were extremely abusive to her. I said she could sleep in my squat, and i'd keep her company.

We stayed in the squat for a while, then i went back to my mums house with Tanya. I asked if tanya could stay the night, my mum said 'yeah that's fine'. One night turned into a week. I loved the whole time, it was fantastic coming back home and having someone there who loves you.

Then the police found out she had left home to come live with us, they tried to take her back to her parents... If anyone but a copper had tried to take her from me, i would have ripped their fucking arms off. Anyway, i got rid of the coppers, and they left us alone for about a month. That was the best time of my life, ever. I would trade anything for another night of it. No money is worth that time i spent. Anyway, the coppers took her away, and we lost touch, she wasn't allowed to call me, and i didn't know her house number. That was about 6 months ago.

Now, she's had another boyfriend for 3 months, she told me that about a week ago. She told me then that she still loved me,as much as before, but she stayed with her boyfriend cos he cared about her... I just told her to fuck off and stopped speaking to her, because i couldn't handle that. I thought it over for a few days (the most depressing days of my life) and realised today:

what a stupid argument, i'm saying i care but she doesn't, she's saying she cares but i don't.

So i got talking to her, but i was still upset that she said she cared but stayed with her boyfriend. She said she was breaking up with him. i was dancing with joy, i never felt so much relief. I talked to her a little, expecting her to have left him for me. but she didn't. She left him because he cheated on her.

I love her, but i don't think i can handle just going out with her because her boyfriend cheated on her.

She sounds like she's just taking me for a ride according to my best friend, but she is the sweetest person i've met, and i can't imagine my life without her.

Any wisdom would VERY appreciated. I'm sure you can imagine how much this means to me.

Awww!!

I have nothing to contribute other than being cuted over by your story.

*resists urge to hurl*

Actually, it sounds like she got over you pretty fast. Move on.

And for future references, sum up what you've said if you're going to write that much.

You're 15. 'Nuff said. What I mean is, everyone thinks the girl they date when they're 15 is the one they can't live without. The fact is that 15 year old girls are immature. Really immature. I doubt either of you really know what love is. She stayed with the guy simply because he "cared" about her while at the same time saying she still loved you. If you really want to take her back, then go ahead. But be warned that it may lead to heartbreak. Most likely will.

quote:Originally posted by UraniYum:

Well i hope i get one helpful response.

I met this girl, who will be known as Tanya, one night on the way to a mates house. There were quite a few people. She was very quiet, and i thought she was beautiful, but i didn't talk to her because i was shy.

We got to the house, and talked for a long time. We ended up kissing (the most amazing kiss i've ever had) and falling asleep together. Nothing else, just falling asleep, i didn't really want to have sex, i just enjoyed being next to her. We woke up the next morning, and everyone went their seperate ways, but me and Tanya ended up going back to our hometown.

I spent the day with her, and at some point, she was on the phone to her parents, and it turned out she had nowhere to stay for the night. She lived with her mum and sister, who were extremely abusive to her. I said she could sleep in my squat, and i'd keep her company.

We stayed in the squat for a week or so, then i went back to my mums house with Tanya. I asked if tanya could stay the night, my mum said 'yeah that's fine'. One night turned into a week. I loved the whole time, it was fantastic coming back home and having someone there who loves you.

Then the police found out she had left home to come live with us(she was 15 too), they tried to take her back to her parents... If anyone but a copper had tried to take her from me, i would have ripped their fucking arms off. Anyway, due to my charming(ha ha) nature, the cops left us alone for about a month. That was the best time of my life, ever. I would trade anything for another night of it. No money is worth that time i spent. Anyway, the coppers took her away, and we lost touch, she wasn't allowed to call me, and i didn't know her house number. That was about 6 months ago.

Now, she's had another boyfriend for 3 months, she told me that about a week ago. She told me then that she still loved me,as much as before, but she stayed with her boyfriend cos he cared about her... I just told her to fuck off and stopped speaking to her, because i couldn't handle that. I thought it over for a few days (the most depressing days of my life) and realised today:

what a stupid argument, i'm saying i care but she doesn't, she's saying she cares but i don't.

So i got talking to her, but i was still upset that she said she cared but stayed with her boyfriend. She said she was breaking up with him. i was dancing with joy, i never felt so much relief. I talked to her a little, expecting her to have left him for me. but she didn't. She left him because he cheated on her.

I love her, but i don't think i can handle just going out with her because her boyfriend cheated on her.

She sounds like she's just taking me for a ride according to my best friend, but she is the sweetest person i've met, and i can't imagine my life without her.

Any wisdom would VERY appreciated. I'm sure you can imagine how much this means to me.





dude, you sound like a sweet guy, so stop being a dumbass and go out with her if you love her! treat her right though, that means no cheating, no matter how drunk you are [not saying you would, just speaking from personal experiance]

quote:Originally posted by Bodombabe13:

dude, you sound like a sweet guy, so stop being a dumbass and go out with her if you love her! treat her right though, that means no cheating, no matter how drunk you are [not saying you would, just speaking from personal experiance]

Sir/Madam, you have inspired me. if i knew who you were i'd buy you a pint. hell i'd buy you the bar.

quote:Originally posted by UraniYum:

Sir/Madam, you have inspired me. if i knew who you were i'd buy you a pint. hell i'd buy you the bar.

im just fine with a beer [or a spacebag at that]

update:

She told me last week, she got pregnant with my kid after she got taken away. But she had an abortion.

quote:Originally posted by UraniYum:

update:

She told me last week, she got pregnant with my kid after she got taken away. But she had an abortion.

Wait...Shes 15 and she was PREGNANT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Holy shit dude wtf are you doing.

quote:Originally posted by xiahoudun:

Wait...Shes 15 and she was PREGNANT?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!

Holy shit dude wtf are you doing.

she was on the pill, and she threw up one morning after taking it.

So then in the insuing depression she found another guy who gave her comfort. It's not like she had completly forgotten about you. It wold make sense that she would not be able to contact you. Her mother would have to approve the abortion and would have most certainly not have wanted you contacted about it, because then you would have had input on the situation. But by what you say, she didnt get another boyfriend until three months after you were lost to her. It's understandable to feel angry that she wouldnt just dump her new boyfriend for you but a 15 year old girl will definatly latch on to a guy, no matter how much she actually likes him, if he comforts her in a time like that.

Personally, I think that you should follow your heart and keep her close. However, seriously, don't make the sex the central thing. While it doesnt sound like it started with the sexual aspect, dont ever let it become the total focus. This wont just help you not concieve again, but have a better relationship.

Thats just my $0.02

quote:Originally posted by swingaxle:

So then in the insuing depression she found another guy who gave her comfort. It's not like she had completly forgotten about you. It wold make sense that she would not be able to contact you. Her mother would have to approve the abortion and would have most certainly not have wanted you contacted about it, because then you would have had input on the situation. But by what you say, she didnt get another boyfriend until three months after you were lost to her. It's understandable to feel angry that she wouldnt just dump her new boyfriend for you but a 15 year old girl will definatly latch on to a guy, no matter how much she actually likes him, if he comforts her in a time like that.

Personally, I think that you should follow your heart and keep her close. However, seriously, don't make the sex the central thing. While it doesnt sound like it started with the sexual aspect, dont ever let it become the total focus. This wont just help you not concieve again, but have a better relationship.

Thats just my $0.02

That is the most helpful advice i've ever received on totse.

Hmm, i don't think there are words to thank you for posting that, and giving me greater perception... but

thank you.

You seem to really care for her, but if she cared for you the same she wouldnt have gone out with the other guy in the first place.

First off, I'm happy for you. It seems you've found a great girl for you, because of the way you described your time together. She's probably a bit confused, and scared that if you both got into a relationship-she'd be ripped away from you again.

She may need some time to recover from her 'cheating' (fucking assholes) boyfriend, so just be her friend. Give her a call, maybe every few days or so. Keep in touch, if you really care about her, she'll realize it by your commitment to be her friend. As you guys grow older, she may decide it's time to be with the guy (you) that's been by her side, through thick and thin. Sometimes the best relationships take time. Love is but a seed that needs tender care, and just the right amount of attention to blossom.

She also could have attachment issues. Since she's abused, she could just want to be with 'anyone'(not saying thats the case for you), that will 'protect her' from her family. Since your banned from seeing her as of now, maybe she feels that you can't keep her away from all the bad things. This could, and probably will change with time.

My best advice.. is if you care about her.. really do.. give her time. Be there for her, and eventually, it will work out the way it's supposed to. If it doesn't end up with you two 'being together', it'll still continue as a great friendship, which could sprout into a relationship later in life, when she's ready to be on her own.

Good luck.

quote:Originally posted by azalie:

sounds like she got over you pretty fast. Move on.

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"You're 15. 'Nuff said. What I mean is, everyone thinks the girl they date when they're 15 is the one they can't live without. The fact is that 15 year old girls are immature. Really immature. I doubt either of you really know what love is... If you really want to take her back, then go ahead. But be warned that it may lead to heartbreak."

Where the FUCK were you 3 months ago? That simple paragraph would've saved me alot of heartbreak...

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[This message has been edited by Mythicallava (edited 01-23-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by UraniYum:



know her house number. That was about 6 months ago.



i can't imagine my life without her.

Any wisdom would VERY appreciated. I'm sure you can imagine how much this means to me.





seems like you did just fine for what 6 months? just keep that same feeling you did during that time and you should fine.

Thank you for all the responses, this is a fantastic forum