So I made this girl I really like a mix cd of all the songs that remind me of her. We've already dated and broke up. I was really hurt by it and still havent really gotten over it. The cd is basically saying "Hey I still care for you and wish you would give me a 2nd chance but Im trying to let you go"

So S&A Im asking if this owuld be creepy like a stalker thing. I really just want to let my feelings out to her. So is it a good idea to give it to her?

If you want a second chance you probably shouldn't have implied that you were trying to let go.

It depends almost entirely on what mood she's in when she recieves it.... there are a loads of possible reactions.... like "fuck why won't he just leave me alone?" and "aww thats sweet but he's still a loser" to name just a couple.

quote:Originally posted by Enset:

It depends almost entirely on what mood she's in when she recieves it.... there are a loads of possible reactions.... like "fuck why won't he just leave me alone?" and "aww thats sweet but he's still a loser" to name just a couple.



Well what do I do?

If she broke up with you it was probably for a reason. Move on.

Why did you break up?

Getting back together would probably be unhealthy

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Why did you break up?

She never really explained. But the day after she left me she was with a new guy so she may have cheated. But as soon as the guy found out that she was waiting until she was married to have sex she left him. I didnt want sex, we talked about it and I respected her so much for it. I really cared about her and would have done anything for her but i really was cool about it you know?

You can give this CD to her, but don't expect anything positive. You will quite probably get a negative response.

I would suggest talking to her first if you've got these feelings and letting her know what you think about it. Finding out why she broke up with you would also help.

How long were you together?

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quote:Originally posted by Euda:

You can give this CD to her, but don't expect anything positive. You will quite probably get a negative response.

I would suggest talking to her first if you've got these feelings and letting her know what you think about it. Finding out why she broke up with you would also help.

How long were you together?



6 weeks. I've tried talking to her but everytime I do she's like "I don't want to talk about it anymore" I once told her No. That I thought I should be able to know but she stopped talking to me for a while I know you're going to say it isnt worth it if that's the case but it's just so hard to let go.

How long has it been since you broke up?

Can you hear disgust and frustration in her voice when you talk to her?

Do you have to realize that just because you feel for her does not mean she has feelings for you.

Dude, she cheated on you and you want her back?

Is she your first girlfriend or something? Let her go dude, shes a cheating skank. Spend your time making mix tapes for better girls.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

How long has it been since you broke up?

Can you hear disgust and frustration in her voice when you talk to her?

Do you have to realize that just because you feel for her does not mean she has feelings for you.

Its been about 8 or 9 months. I don't call her because I know she wont answer, she never talks to me in person, I only talk to her on aim occasionally because I know she hates it when I bother her. So I guess that would mean Yes, she is 'frustrated' and I realize that just because I love her dosnt mean she loves me, and that's what hurts the most.

quote:Originally posted by just a name:

Dude, she cheated on you and you want her back?

Is she your first girlfriend or something? Let her go dude, shes a cheating skank. Spend your time making mix tapes for better girls.

A lot of people have told me that. She isnt my first girlfriend.

You would definitely come off as stalker.

quote:Originally posted by Synkk:

A lot of people have told me that. She isnt my first girlfriend.

Yeah, well you should listen to all those people. Why would you want to be with someone who disrespected you like that?

quote:Originally posted by just a name:

Yeah, well you should listen to all those people. Why would you want to be with someone who disrespected you like that?

I don't know... I guess I love her too much to let it go.

I really should though. Like I said Im trying to.

Anyway this has gotten way offtopic. Should I give her the cd and then just be like "yeah some memories on disc, keep them if you want but i cant stand to have them around" I was thinking something badass and movie-like.

quote:Originally posted by Synkk:

I don't know... I guess I love her too much to let it go.

I really should though. Like I said Im trying to.

Anyway this has gotten way offtopic. Should I give her the cd and then just be like "yeah some memories on disc, keep them if you want but i cant stand to have them around" I was thinking something badass and movie-like.

You're not in love with her. Love is a too way street buddy.

Make her a mic CD with some AnalCunt, DBX, and songs performed by other offensive artists. Tell her that you think she's put on some weight, and be on your way.

Don't say some cheesy line, thats fucking lame.

Mix tapes are lame

Talking to frigid girls who no longer like you is lame

Stop being lame. You're coming across as a huge loser.

quote:Originally posted by Euda:

Do you have to realize that just because you feel for her does not mean she has feelings for you.

Don't we all have to learn that the hard way.

It depends on the songs you put on the mixtape.. anything along the lines of Dashboard Confessionals will make you look pretty hurting. If the songs are about love, don't bother. Unless you want her and her friends to share a good laugh.

Move on. The more you do for her, the more you think about her, the harder it is for you. Make that CD and burn it. Then never listen to those songs again.

I'd smack somebody in the head if they sent me a breakup cd. well, I wouldnt really, but I would imagine it with vivid detail.

give up. if she wanted to be with you, she wouldnt have broken up with you.

You should let it go. She won't appreciate the CD or any thoughts that go with it.

You need to move on. Having made the CD will have to be enough.

quote:Originally posted by burntoffering:

I'd smack somebody in the head if they sent me a breakup cd. well, I wouldnt really, but I would imagine it with vivid detail.

give up. if she wanted to be with you, she wouldnt have broken up with you.



Its not a breakup CD. She broke up with me and I just wanted to send her my feelings in the form of favorite songs. I thought it would be sweet and at the least she would be greatful that there is a guy that doesnt just want to fuck her. But I may just have a little fire in the backyard and burn, along with the pictures of us together. You guys are right I am pathetic.

Don't throw away the CD.

Save it, and listen to it three months from now when you're completely over her.

Music is amazing. It's always a learning experience.

I acted the same way after my first girlfriend. Just learn from it.

Well, it has been 8 or 9 months, so we're borering on kinda creepy here, let it go and move on, whatever works for you.

Not to put you down, we all learn it at some point, just trying to keep you from some more heartbreak here. Not to put any of this down, but luurve is two sided, and she doesn't seem to show any of the same feelings back to you, finish it and move on, buddy, it'll be better for you in the long run.

Forget about her. You come off as a creepy fucking loser. She probably doesn't like you at all.

quote:Originally posted by doornob_lightbulb:

Forget about her. You come off as a creepy fucking loser. She probably doesn't like you at all.



I'm giving her the cd and telling her to take it as she will. Then Ill just walk away and never talk to her again. Ill burn everything I have that was hers and move on. I met a nice girl today

Nevermind about coming off as a creepy loser... If you must know, I think she's the creepy loser. Okay?

play her "little wing" and sing it too.

1-2 months= missing her

3-4 months= infatuated

5-7 months= creepy

8+ dude ur a stalker jsut move on she couldnt have been that great trust me you will find somebody else

The amount of time that you've been pining after her is disproportionate to the amount of time that you actually dated her.

You've already said that she doesn't answer her phone when you call her, and tries to avoid you. Are you really so naive to believe that life is a romantic comedy and that by sending her a mix tape, you'll have instantly won her over?

If it's full of sad, mourning songs, she'll laugh at you for feeling so strongly about her. Besides, you don't want to win her over this way: it's just asking for pity and it's fucking pathetic.

If it's full of inspirational songs about getting over your loss, she'll laugh at you for not having gotten over it.

You don't need her back, but you -do- need closure. If you can't get it from her, at least take consolation in the fact that she had a good guy when she dated you, and she threw all that away for an asshole, making her a bitch.

Nobody wants a bitch. Why do you?

Just move on man.

Dude you have to stop bugging her.

Now its time for YOU to listen to a song.

Dry Your Eyes by The Streets