God knows why. But when i'm having sex with a girl, i just can't cum! I've tried different girls, different positions. Even different holes! And although it is good as hell i just can't seem to cum when there's a girl around! I think it's something psychological but i was thinking that up untill about a year or two ago i used to masturbate alot and i may have killed some nerves or something?

Help please guys,

A.J

Have your girl watch you masturbate. Bring yourself to orgasm then, and try and replicate those movements.

For whatever reason, though, some men just have problems blowing a nut in a woman. And all gay jokes aside, it's about being relaxed.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Have your girl watch you masturbate. Bring yourself to orgasm then, and try and replicate those movements.

For whatever reason, though, some men just have problems blowing a nut in a woman. And all gay jokes aside, it's about being relaxed.



Even the thought of that makes me feel self concious and embarressed... That seriously isn't going to happen. COuld it be a self estheem problem? Because mine is notoriously low lately. And thanks for the reply

[This message has been edited by BassKidnapper (edited 01-04-2007).]

quote:Originally posted by BassKidnapper:



Even the thought of that makes me feel self concious and embarressed... That seriously isn't going to happen. COuld it be a self estheem problem? Because mine is notoriously low lately. And thanks for the reply



Yeah, it could very well be. You aren't confident in what, exactly, though? If the girl is willing to spread her legs for you, it can't be because of her thinking something about you....

I'm not exactly sure. I'm pretty confident in sex. I'll ask for certain services without a second thought. I'm definately not confident about my appearance though.

Gus gave some good advice. However if you're too nervous to do this than we've found the real problem. It's not that you can't cum during sex because you're physically not used to it, it's because you're mentally not ready for it.

May be you just haven't found the right girl.

Cheers,

Lost

Aside from the fact that I am confused...guys can get boys who have little confidence and arent nasty bastards who play rugby and who finish every sentence with a threat...wow you learn soemthign new everday. Anyway clearly its a psychological barrier as you can jack off. I do have one suggestion though, maybe you should not beat your bishop for a week before sex (or longer) and then fuck the girl.

<>Michael

p.s. did you hear? she fucked him and said she wanted better...

You need to relax. It could be a fear of pregnancy as well. Condoms? if you use em, try the pill instead.

I'm not too bothered about pregnancy, i use proper precautions. And it's not condoms 'cause i've gone bareback many a time.

Cheers for the help guys, i guess it's just down to confidence and self estheem.

All the replies in this thread are greatly appreciated

, A.J

i had that problem when i first started having sex, i even faked it the first couple times because i was to drunk and just wanted to finish.

I concluded it was because i was so fucken used to my hand. So i stopped jacking off, and when i REALLY felt the need to use my hand i would esentialy fuck my hand instead of my hand fucking my dick, just to get my head to realise that was the proper motion. get it?

it worked for me

when you are bored and want to finish off, pull it out of her, tell her you want to come on her tits and bring yourself off over the face/ chest area.

after you have done this a few times, it will get you used to cuming with a girl so it will make it easier to pop off inside her.

I don't know why no one said; let the girl jerk you off? That way you'd get use to A) Getting off around a female, and B) getting off not to your hand. It just might work.

quote:Originally posted by boozehound420:

i had that problem when i first started having sex, i even faked it the first couple times because i was to drunk and just wanted to finish.

I concluded it was because i was so fucken used to my hand. So i stopped jacking off, and when i REALLY felt the need to use my hand i would esentialy fuck my hand instead of my hand fucking my dick, just to get my head to realise that was the proper motion. get it?

it worked for me



This could well be it i reckon

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