Okay well I took my current girlfriend's virginity away and she can't seem to orgasm no matter what I do. I've tried fingering/eating out, and rubbing the clit, and all kinds of sexual positions. Anyway I have no problem getting other girls to orgasm, it's just her. And she doesn't masturbate or anything, I think that that might be the problem. She's 18 btw. Any advice?

She's possibly not comfortable enough...

When she's made herself cum, she can teach you.

quote:Originally posted by Docta?:

She's possibly not comfortable enough...

When she's made herself cum, she can teach you.

Comfort isn't an issue. We've been dating a long time and can talk about it casually.

She won't masturbate though.

^ what he said

are you sure you made all your girlfriends cum? im not having a dig, but until women are very comfortable (mentally and emotionally) with sex, they can find it difficult to orgasm.

women arnt computers, you cant just push buttons and make 'em do stuff.

quote:Originally posted by not marshmallow:



She won't masturbate though.

why not? does she find it dirty and nasty? ba-bing, we have an answer.

I've only had sex with one other girl and we lost our virginity to each other and dated for a year and a half. And I'm positive I've made her orgasm.

well you have to consider that not all girls can cum. and that some girls even fake an orgasm just to make their guy feel like hes done his part

quote:Originally posted by dr rocker:

why not? does she find it dirty and nasty? ba-bing, we have an answer.

qft.

Anyone woman that find masturbation dirty and disgusting is likely not confortable with sex to let herself come.

ur woman is broken take her back for an exchange or refund

If she doesn't masturbate, and won't even try, there's an issue that you don't understand. As for you previous GF, if you thought that she was having an epileptic seizure, then she probably did have an orgasm. Otherwise, I'd say that she may have or she may have faked it. If your current GF will masturbate ALONE she may begin to solve the problem. I know a married woman with three kids who never had an actual orgasm until her ob/gyn suggested that she masturbate until she got off. Worked, it did.

quote:Originally posted by MrVitrol:

ur woman is broken take her back for an exchange or refund

Yeah, just make sure to bitch about it enough so they give you two fine women in return.

Alcohol. Seriously, my ex had never cum before (she'd had sex, been eaten out, fingered, etc...) and we had like 2 or 3 drinks a piece and then fucked for like an hour and a half, and she came so hard i had huge bite marks all up and down my arm.

Sounds to me like she finally got sick of fucking and it was hurting, you wouldn't stop, and so she bite you until you thought she came and stopped.

*Takes off his CSI hat and closes THIS case*

I once knew a chick that could only get off by dry humping

yeah, i don't orgasm either. sometimes girls are just broken

my only advice:

1. get her to masturbate

2. be sensitve about the issue; don't make her feel stupid (unless of course she blames you for it, cause that's just bitch)

3. don't bring it up.

4. still try to pleasure her. just becuase she doesn't explode doesn't mean she doesn't feel pleasure.

If you put too much emphasis on making her cum she will feel pressured, get performance anxiety, and then she most surely will not have an orgasm. If anything try to please her but don't make an orgasm a goal.

If she won't masturbate then the situation is hopeless; how can she expect you to please her if she doesn't know how to do it herself? Some women...

One and a half words: G-spot

quote:Originally posted by dr rocker:

women arnt computers, you cant just push buttons and make 'em do stuff.

Just imagine the possibilities if women had buttons that made them do stuff.

quote:Originally posted by geckotail:

well you have to consider that not all girls can cum. and that some girls even fake an orgasm just to make their guy feel like hes done his part

Mine better not! She knows I'll go celibate if I find out! *Shakes fist*

I was in the EXACT same situation. I took her virginity at 17. It was my virginity too.

I tried ABSOLUTELY everything for almost a year. Hours of oral and fingering. I even got to the point where I could find her g-spot within a minute or so. Nothing ever worked. I tried vibrators, toys, creams, lubes, alcohol, and anything else you can think of. It never happend.

Then on her 18th birthday, without trying any of the aforementioned, she told me she orgasmed. I'm partially inclined to believe her, because she didnt put on a big show or anything. In fact I didnt even notice until afterwards when she had this big grin on her face. That was about 4 months ago, and it hasnt happened again since. So it's possible that she might have lied about that one.

But she doesnt masturbate either. And its just so hard to get a girl off when she cant even get herself off.

quote:Originally posted by dr rocker:

women arnt computers, you cant just push buttons and make 'em do stuff.

That's my new quote of the year

It's because you think you're black, but are actually asian.

I have no advice, it's tricky. Best of luck.

Maybe it's your technique, my girl doesn't masturbate but she cums all the time, my record was 7mins.

When your fingering her, push up against the top of her vagina, start kinda soft at first, but then do it nice and hard, push up as much as you can and just stroke it.

Next you want to try and pleasure her urethra, I know it sounds weird but it works! As soon as your inside her go up, you want to kind of rub the back of her pelvic bone.