I've known this girl for about 2 and a half or 3 years now. I met her through a friend, and we hit it off immediately, we stayed on the phone with each other for hours every day and whenever we saw each other we were unseperable. It was hard though because she lives an hour away from my mothers house were i live, but 15 minutes away from my fathers house.

Well, back then I had feelings for her but i was immature and stupid, so we ended up falling out. She was also slutty back then.

I have hurt this girl many times, just like I have hurt everyone who has gotten close to me, including family and friends not just girls.

We stopped talking completely when i sent her naked pictures of her I had to her boyfriend, we didnt talk for lik ea year and a half but then a month ago about she broke up with him and we started talking again.



We talked on the phone for hours every day and I was really starting to like her again and then she came down here, gave me head and we went to see a movie and went out to eat. We got along well until we got my friend and when i was with him I started acting obnoxious.

Recently I have pissed her off because I dont trust her and I accuse her of things. I also talked to her ex who she hates because he was a complete piece of shit to her. I have made her cry in this past month at least 4 or 5 times.

She came down again last wednesday for my birthday and I hurt her feelings then as well, making her cry and she made me cry. Thats the third time weve seen each other this month.

Well, most of the drama starts because of me. And yesterday she tells me shes hooking up with someone tonight and it fucking killed me, she said a relationship wouldnt work out because of the distance and the way i act. I dont blame her because I was an ass, and she wasnt cheating on me because technically we werent going out, but it still fu cking killed me inside.

Well to get to the point, I'm in love with this girl. I'm a very superficial person, and she is pretty but nothing special and shes chubby, but I dont give a fuck for some reason with her. Theres something about her that just makes me want to be with her forever...



Now totse, how do i go about changing her mind about me? She still likes me, but she finds me to be an asshole. I want to stop fighting with her, and I want her to love me. What should I do to try to make this girl fall in love with me?

by the way, shes a freshman and college and im a senior in high school. shes a year and a half older than me, she drives and i dont. she also has a lot of guys after her.

[This message has been edited by impact (edited 01-02-2007).]

Damn dude it sounds like you need to chill. I know it's your personality and all but seriously... If you've made her cry that many times in such a short time then I'm surprised she even still wants you near her.

Also, from what you said it sounds like you tend to push loved ones away from you. I'm no psychiatrist or therapist but that's how it sounds from what I can tell. You just need to chill man.

quote:Originally posted by voodoonirvana:

Damn dude it sounds like you need to chill. I know it's your personality and all but seriously... If you've made her cry that many times in such a short time then I'm surprised she even still wants you near her.

Also, from what you said it sounds like you tend to push loved ones away from you. I'm no psychiatrist or therapist but that's how it sounds from what I can tell. You just need to chill man.



i think i do it because of some terrible things that have happened to me growing up, w hich i dont want to get into. but ive never felt guilty about them, but since now im maturing i realize what ive done to the people who did nothing but care for me. im getting better though, im learning how to not be such a nasty bastard. i just want her to love me how i love her.

ok, update i made up with her but were not going out she likse me only a little bit but she thinks it would never work out, i knowi t would. how can i charm her into liking me like she did just a few weeks ago? im going to get her material things but what should i do sentimentally.

Be nice to her. Do soemthing selfless. Maybe surprise her (with something nice...NO suprise sex though!). Flowers chocolate, maybe tickets to a gig. Be nice in general.



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