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Theres this friend who I have known quite well for a while, and for most of that time I have never really liked her in a way to want to pursue a relationship, and if I had it was for small time periods then forgottten about. Lately she has been engaging in conversations with me about stuff that she would normally only speak to other girls/boyfriends about, like telling me that her tits were too small and other "im ugly" kinda crap, the typical "diminish myself so they can tell me how untrue it is and then ill feel good about myself" thing that girls do, which she has never really done with me before... Anyway I was talking to her a while ago on MSN and she asked me out of the blue if ive ever had feelings for her, and i just gave it a straight out "yes" with no more elaboration. After this answer she seemed happy but said it was just outta curiosity. I then seized the moment and asked her the same question in return, to which was replied, "Yes and no, sometimes I think about it but its more that I really care about you in the best friend kind of way" (it was something like that) But after this conversation, I am continually curious if this is some kind of message, and I am really starting to want to try to pursue a relationship. If I go ahead and try to get this girl I need to know in myself that its guaranteed 99% that shed ago out with me, because we have such a strong friendship and we have lots of things planned for the future.

Post the above conversation, I was around her house for most of the day and we had heaps of fun together, when I left it was a really awkward moment, I wanted to stay there with her and I am probably 75% sure that she was feeling the same. I am going surfing with her in a few days for a few days and I think ill see then if there is any more magic between us. What do you guys think?

Also a question branching from that:

Do girls normally ask people if they have ever liked them for the sole reason of boosting their own confidence? Or is it supposed to be a clue that she wants you? because its confusing me.

It could be a clue that she wants you, or it could be her curiosity. And/or it could be her having a feeling you like her, but wanting to make sure.



I say go for it!

Seriously, we need to archive this post. Theres one of these posts every fucking week. Here's the anwser:

Assume she totally fucking digs you until proven otherwise. If not, you'll come off as an unsure-of-himself little pussy.

next time she's off on a rant, kiss her. if she doesn't go, "ew, stop!" and recoil, then you've got a good chance. she'll most likely say "oh, but you're such a good friend, i can't." this is to be expected. say, "i don't care." she will insist and blah blah blah. ignore her and carry on happily.

quote:Originally posted by lauren7249:

next time she's off on a rant, kiss her. if she doesn't go, "ew, stop!" and recoil, then you've got a good chance. she'll most likely say "oh, but you're such a good friend, i can't." this is to be expected. say, "i don't care." she will insist and blah blah blah. ignore her and carry on happily.

That sounds good! thanks

quote:Originally posted by just a name:

Theres one of these posts every fucking week.

Assume she totally fucking digs you until proven otherwise. If not, you'll come off as an unsure-of-himself little pussy.

Sorry, I guess theres one of these every week because every situation varies for each person, thanks for the advise anyway .