Alright, this jerkoff is constantly following her around, doin favors for her,calling her 15 times a night and leaving a message every other call. The messages are typically the sappy bullshit ones like"Im just callin to hear your beautiful voice I havent heard it in a while". She never answers, or calls back,HE knows that shes with me.

should I either

a)call him and tell him to back off, if he continues beat his ass

b)just ram his head into a wall and tell him to stop.

c)JUST tell him to stop

d)just blow it off and wait for him to get the point



Im open to ideas, the guy wont leave her alone and I dont want him to do to her what hes done to other girls.

Give him a verbal warning, no yelling just very firm. Give some hints that something bad will happen if he continues. If he does continue, go ahead with the ass kicking.

It's your girlfriends responsibility, not yours. She's being passive about it.

A lead pipe and some steel toed boots and his face rearranged sound like a plan to me. Immediately. Diplomacy is for women and the French.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

It's your girlfriends responsibility, not yours. She's being passive about it.

And if his girlfriend confronts him and he gets all psycho and attacks her...?

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stab that motherfucker in the neck and throw his body in a fucking pit toilet

Option A.

quote:Originally posted by Byss:

[B And if his girlfriend confronts him and he gets all psycho and attacks her...?[/B]

Then we go with the lead pipe idea.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Then we go with the lead pipe idea.

That's the thing, if I ever decided to be nice and let my gf handle something and anything happened to her I would feel like shit and probably end up killing the guy, which wouldn't be good.

ok...heres my little "retalliation gauge" so to speak

him touching her(like he would a friend)= me slappin him in the face and tellin him off

him touching her in ways un-apropriate(like a slap on the ass or other sexual advances)= me breaking his arms

him making hard enough contact to make an audible sound to her= me throwin him down and kicking his head a few times.

him actually hitting her(which I've seen him do to other girls)= me rearranging his spinal column boyscout style

anything worse he does to her= me goin medieval all over his stalking ass.

now what can I do about him talkin to her like this?("just callin to hear your beautiful voice")should I just blow it off till he does something physical?

Option A.

Stat!

Explain to the girlfriend that you trust her, but you feel uneasy about this man because he seems to act almost like a stalker. Then explain that you think she shouldn’t be passive because he could get the wrong idea, and ask her if she wants you to tell the guy nicely but firmly to back off or if she wants to do it herself, but tell her you’re worried he might flip and you want to be there when she does it, if it is her who does it. In fact, it might be best if she does it because otherwise he might get the idea that she has a thing for him and that you’re trying to keep him away from his “prize”.

If after the verbal warning he continues to be an asshole, then you should inflict some physical damage.

Hmmm I don't know.... A seems like a dignified response. Ooh but B isn't bad either. Jeez, it's a tough one- wish I had some lifelines left.

Well I'm gonna lock in A. Yes, final answer, lock it in.

A.

RAPE RAPE RAPE

Woah, I've had to deal with this about 7 times with my girlfriend.

Once I ended up chasing a boy with a baseball bat after I saw him sitting on a green eletric box, he got away though because he saw him in the distance. He then informed the police, they didn't really care and nothing happened to me. But after that, the boy stopped.

The most recent was a boy who keeps texting her asking if she's dumped me yet. She never replied, but he kept texting her everyday asking if she had, because he really wants to be with her.

The other day I saw him withdrawing money out of a cash point and shouted to him infront of everyone he's a deadman and not to look at me, so he walked off. I walked off, and went back to him to find him because I was bored and pissed off, then my girlfriend help me set him up, told him to go somewhere to 'meet her', but instead I went, and it was in a new shop in town. I caught him by surprise and pushed him into a DVD rack and sqaured him off telling him firmly not to keep texting her or I'd kill him. Someone in the shop told me to 'please take it outside', so I said 'yeah ok' and sat outside for him, he stayed in the shop for about 20 minutes so I thought fuck it and met up with my girlfriend and she was like kthx and I was all like kk.

He texts no more. The end.

Conclusion: Don't go swinging unless you've had a word FIRST.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

It's your girlfriends responsibility, not yours. She's being passive about it.Quoted for truth. Maybe she doesn't feel quite the same as you do about it, or she'd sort it out.

Just have a word with this guy, all friendly like. Say you're glad he appreciates how great your gf is, and say that you especially like that he said your gf is/has <insert some of the sappy shit he says here> - and discuss how not only is she great cos of that, but that she's pretty handy in the sack too.

That'll give you such a massive psychological advantage and make him feel like the tiniest little bitch. From there you can just tell him to calm it down.

Winding him up would be so much fun/cooler than beating him down... why don't I get into any of these fun situations? Guess I shouldn't date fat ugly dykes any more.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

It's your girlfriends responsibility, not yours. She's being passive about it.

I don't think so.

I had a similar problem a while back, she would tell him to fuck off, push him, ignore him, etc.

The dumbfuck still kept going.

So I called him up and told him to stay the FUCK away from my girl. Problem solved.

Guys are always going on her Myspace. They're all "OMFG Ur S0 bueatifl" or "Mega uber cutie, ttfn lovie", in her picture comments and on her normal ones. Sure it sounds ghey, but really some of these guys are creeps. I've had to deal with a few of these wormy scumbags who took it a little too far. Just let 'em know who's who.

Get her to block his number. If he keeps harassing her in some other way, you threaten him. He keeps doing it, you beat the fuck out of him. Keeps doing it? Restraining order. The creepy-fuck type usually stop when threatened though.

Oh yeah, before she blocks his number, get her to answer it once and tell him to stop calling her, along with various profanities, threats, accusations and so on.

quote:Originally posted by Tokolosh:

Woah, I've had to deal with this about 7 times with my girlfriend.

Once I ended up chasing a boy with a baseball bat after I saw him sitting on a green eletric box, he got away though because he saw him in the distance. He then informed the police, they didn't really care and nothing happened to me. But after that, the boy stopped.

The most recent was a boy who keeps texting her asking if she's dumped me yet. She never replied, but he kept texting her everyday asking if she had, because he really wants to be with her.

The other day I saw him withdrawing money out of a cash point and shouted to him infront of everyone he's a deadman and not to look at me, so he walked off. I walked off, and went back to him to find him because I was bored and pissed off, then my girlfriend help me set him up, told him to go somewhere to 'meet her', but instead I went, and it was in a new shop in town. I caught him by surprise and pushed him into a DVD rack and sqaured him off telling him firmly not to keep texting her or I'd kill him. Someone in the shop told me to 'please take it outside', so I said 'yeah ok' and sat outside for him, he stayed in the shop for about 20 minutes so I thought fuck it and met up with my girlfriend and she was like kthx and I was all like kk.

He texts no more. The end.

Conclusion: Don't go swinging unless you've had a word FIRST.

Try this

first of all, if she hasn't said anything to him about this she needs to. if you say something he's just going to assume that she's ok with it and you're the big jealous boyfriend. she needs to tell him to back off and that she's in a (serious?) relationship.

if that doesn't work, then you step in. i hate creeps.

Your gf likes the attention from this guy otherwise she would have done something about it by now. I don't know any girl that would put up with 15 calls a night, cheesy voice mails and someone following her around if she wasn't interested.

Beat his ass then dump your lady.

Confront him and call him out on it and tell him to not do it again .And if he tries t act tuff about it beat hes ass

quote:Originally posted by pepper23:

I don't think so.

I had a similar problem a while back, she would tell him to fuck off, push him, ignore him, etc.

The dumbfuck still kept going.

So I called him up and told him to stay the FUCK away from my girl. Problem solved.

Well fair enough in that situation.

Let me put it this way, I wouldn't go around threatening other men just because my girlfriend can't be bothered blocking a number.

If the girlfriend makes it clear that she doesn't want anything to do with him, blocks the number, and the guy still tries to hassle her, then I'd feel obliged to step in.

quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

Well fair enough in that situation.

Let me put it this way, I wouldn't go around threatening other men just because my girlfriend can't be bothered blocking a number.

If the girlfriend makes it clear that she doesn't want anything to do with him, blocks the number, and the guy still tries to hassle her, then I'd feel obliged to step in.



You make it sound like blocking a phone number takes effort.

quote:Originally posted by flash:

Your gf likes the attention from this guy otherwise she would have done something about it by now. I don't know any girl that would put up with 15 calls a night, cheesy voice mails and someone following her around if she wasn't interested.QFT. Only step in if she askes you.

quote:Originally posted by Influx:

Give him a verbal warning, no yelling just very firm.

^ Great advice. Then go with letter C, if that doesn't work, contact the police. If your girlfriend doesn't want to do that, kick his ass as a last resort.

Some guy was actually pulling the same kind of shit with my girlfriend, only without the favors, or "good" stuff. He kept hitting on her and shit. I rubbed his face on the sidewalk till his nose broke.

He never spoke to her again.

tell him to fuck off first, if he continues either punch him in the face or if you wanna be more civil about it tell him shes your girl and then kick him in the balls?

I forgot to mention she could also be doing this cause girls love attention and love to make there bfs jealous cause most girls are fucked in the head like that.

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quote:Originally posted by Tokolosh:

Woah, I've had to deal with this about 7 times with my girlfriend.

Once I ended up chasing a boy with a baseball bat after I saw him sitting on a green eletric box, he got away though because he saw him in the distance. He then informed the police, they didn't really care and nothing happened to me. But after that, the boy stopped.

The most recent was a boy who keeps texting her asking if she's dumped me yet. She never replied, but he kept texting her everyday asking if she had, because he really wants to be with her.

The other day I saw him withdrawing money out of a cash point and shouted to him infront of everyone he's a deadman and not to look at me, so he walked off. I walked off, and went back to him to find him because I was bored and pissed off, then my girlfriend help me set him up, told him to go somewhere to 'meet her', but instead I went, and it was in a new shop in town. I caught him by surprise and pushed him into a DVD rack and sqaured him off telling him firmly not to keep texting her or I'd kill him. Someone in the shop told me to 'please take it outside', so I said 'yeah ok' and sat outside for him, he stayed in the shop for about 20 minutes so I thought fuck it and met up with my girlfriend and she was like kthx and I was all like kk.

He texts no more. The end.

Conclusion: Don't go swinging unless you've had a word FIRST.

You sound like a complete asshole. Karma is a bitch, and by the sounds of it you will get yours.

quote:Originally posted by stab:

Option A.

alright, shes told me about this basterd herself. The main thing that set me off recently is that he walks in one day at school, starts talkin the normal bullshit, then askes her if he could come over to her house...she of course said no cause thats where I was goin that day. as soon as she told me I almost ran up to this horny creep and went medieval but decided not because I had other plans...need I say more??



anyway,thanx for the advice, I'll update next week when school starts back

quote:Originally posted by CarbonB:

You sound like a complete asshole. Karma is a bitch, and by the sounds of it you will get yours.

I would argue that he's not so much an asshole, he's more whipped up and has a manipulative girlfriend.

Oh, and 'Karma is a bitch'? the 90s called, they want their phrases back.

Screw reading the posts above.

Do the words "kill him" come to mind?

Call him up and say

"Hi so and so this is so and so, I have never been more serious in my damn life... I'm gunna rape you" then hang up.

Guaranteed he wont stalk her n e more

and if he does rape him.

Easy as that.

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quote:Originally posted by rabbitweed:

I would argue that he's not so much an asshole, he's more whipped up and has a manipulative girlfriend.

Oh, and 'Karma is a bitch'? the 90s called, they want their phrases back.

Karma is a bitch can't go out of style bitch. What next, "Et tu Brute" is going to be cliche?

Fuck you bitch.

Spray him in the face with a mister and firmly tell him, "No!"

But seriously, I would tell him to stop hitting on her. That usually works, but sometimes it's only a temporary stop.

when he calls sometime, you answer, and tell him to leave her alone. then stab him if it continues.

For once i think talking. then violence is the answer... seriously kick his ass or he'll do it till he is down

beat him unconsious tie him up naked and leave him in a gay bars toliet

If my understanding of women means anything, don't worry about it.

Being a complete wuss bag and calling her all the time doing favours and stuff won't get him anywhere with her. His phasers are set to self-pwn.

quote: Call him up and say

"Hi so and so this is so and so, I have never been more serious in my damn life... I'm gunna rape you" then hang up.

Guaranteed he wont stalk her n e more

and if he does rape him.

Easy as that.

This post is full of win.

quote:Originally posted by Monso:

This post is full of win.

k thnks

I had the exact same problem. The guy was always following her, always talking to her, even doing her homework! He even admitted he had a huge crush on her.

I called him up, told him he had no right to be flirting with her and told him to fuck off.

Her hasn't been a problem since. He still talks to her in school, but nothing more.

A.

No violence if you can help it.

Go right up to him and tell him you'll beat the fuck out of him if he keeps it up. Dare him to keep it up and smile while you say all that.

If he doesn't stop, beat his fucking head in, and laugh about it.