Well i know that having basically 0 confidence isnt helping my chances already but this is where things take a weird tint.

Sometimes i can be sat there, ro see myself in a reflection and think i look pretty damn good, and this reflects on my personality....however this USUALLYYY happens when im alone..or at times like this (2am! wtf!)

The only other time ive known this to happen with others around was in college and i had had about 60 cups of coffee to drink before hand.

ALl the rest of the time i feel i look stupid or some such thing, too stupid to act confident and all that...so..so what do you guys think?

I know its a psychological issue, evidence from the fact i feel about a million times more confident and bette rin my own skin when i think i look pretty good.

bad thing is by the time it comes to going out this has worn off and im back to my old self.

I think its gotten too far into the college year for me to show a new side to others around me, you know the whole first impression thing...and after being there and most people seeing me from september until now, but i think it woul dbe good to get this sorted out now so i might PERHAPS be able to change for the 2nd year or if not then university.

Help? comments? whatever you wanna add

This doesn't effect anything.

Edit: okay...I lied.

[This message has been edited by azalie (edited 12-26-2006).]

you care that other people will care that you "changed" your look. theres your problem.

dont care what other people think about your apperance

It seems like you're trying too hard.

quote:Originally posted by Low Rider:

you care that other people will care that you "changed" your look. theres your problem.

dont care what other people think about your apperance

I didnt mean my look, i meant my personality.

If they got to know or see a shy, quiet, introverted guy in year one then suddenly hes some happy go lucky talkative extrovert its a big leap

How exactly will you make this big leap?

All the times I've ever tried to be talkative, I realise I have nothing I want to talk about.

Act how you feel. If that's wildly inconsistent, it shouldn't matter.

Jx

quote:Originally posted by Jessic:

How exactly will you make this big leap?

All the times I've ever tried to be talkative, I realise I have nothing I want to talk about.

Act how you feel. If that's wildly inconsistent, it shouldn't matter.

Jx

Exactly! theres just nothing to talk about.

Unless im hyper on about 60 coffees and i just ramble on about shit....and i cant have that much coffee all the time.

Its depressing though, a friend o fmine who is a certified asshole seem to go through girls, and still they come running back if he decides he wants them back! even though he cheated and went off with someone else.

And another friend of mine, a girl this time, still likes this guy who is just a pure whore...cheats on every girl hes ever been with and is an all around asshole to everyone, even to the girl hes with infrotn of others.

I feel the same way sometimes man. I too know it's all psychological. I think it reverts down to confidence. Me myself I have absolutely positiviely NO confidence. Hence the psychological block develops into "our" personalities and we tend to behave a certain way. I also notice I over analyze things too much and try to change how I think, it's tuff, just try to convince yourself to stop convincing other people on how you should look / behave.

It's all about comfort zones.