so, i was wondering what some of ur turn on's are, as i think ive exausted all of my bfs, and im tryin to come up with new ones, i.e.- blowing in the ear is old, and nibbling on his ear does nothing.

When you are with him somewhere 'polite', like in church or having a meal with your parents, then whisper in his ear that you have no knickers on under your skirt/dress.

For me I guess it's suggestive facial expressions.

Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend and maybe try and live out a sexual fantasy he may have? But don't do anything you're uncomfortable with.

The phrase ' Babe, i want your big cock in my arse NOW' tends to work for most men.

thanx jack, if that would work, however, we havent had sex in 3 months, he shows no interest, exept grabbing my ass every once in awhile, and he bought me a kuma sutra sex book, instead of the strippers guide i wanted, but he has like no interest, and i think maby i exausted them all, hence the thread, i want fucking laid dammit, last night i got, tommorrow hun, tonight it was tommorrow, and i want laid.

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when i try that jack, exept its, i want ur thick cock in my mouth, i get, LOL, knock it off, or, my fave. what ever. he like, has no sex drive, is this normal for 36? when we first got together, it was like every night, and now it hasnt been for 3 months. i need help, lol

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quote:Originally posted by sweet_asCANDY_hot_asFIRE:

thanx jack, if that would work, however, we havent had sex in 3 months, he shows no interest, exept grabbing my ass every once in awhile, and he bought me a kuma sutra sex book, instead of the strippers guide i wanted, but he has like no interest, and i think maby i exasted them all, hence the thread, i want fucking laid dammit, last night i got, tommorrow hun, tonight it was tommorrow, and i want laid.



'm assuming you are both young , reasonably healthy and had an active sex life up to 3 months ago? Then i would suggest you get him to go see a doctor. Long periods of disinterest aren't a worry in themselves but can also be symptoms of deeper problems (for example 'winter depression',blood sugar problems etc)

I'd suggest getting a hot friend to sit on his face while you work on his cock... Works for MOST NORMAL men.

I don't think it's physical stuff that's the problem.

Anyway, my turn ons include...anal, getting rimjobs, crying girls, incest, domination/being dominated, feet, and MMF.

Sorry ladies, I'm taken!

36? Definately get him to see a doctor. Men do often 'slow down' at that age but 3 months is still excessive.

IS he stressed at work, has money worries or anything like that?

hes 36, and im 19, and yea, we had a normal sex life, when i try to talk to him about it, i get, ur pushing me further away when u bitch about it, and im just trying to figure out what happened, and the 3some is out, hes talked about that before, and said too much pressure, and the sad thing? one of the lezzies here gets more action than i do, and her gf doesnt live here. i just want sex again

no money worries, not alot of stress, he used to be coporate, so he knows about that type of stress, and now he works from home, he owns his own buisness, so idk, every time i try to talk to him about it, i end up more pissed off, and i piss him off in the process, and i just want laid.

quote:Originally posted by sweet_asCANDY_hot_asFIRE:

hes 36, and im 19, and yea, we had a normal sex life, when i try to talk to him about it, i get, ur pushing me further away when u bitch about it, and im just trying to figure out what happened, and the 3some is out, hes talked about that before, and said too much pressure, and the sad thing? one of the lezzies here gets more action than i do, and her gf doesnt live here. i just want sex again

He's a 36 year old with a beautiful teenage nympho for a girlfriend??! Then the answer is simple, girl...YOU BROKE HIM!! :P

you guys sound like you're not going to last.

no, i dont think i broke him, lol, we didnt do any crazy shit, it was just typical missionary style, i was hoping after he got the book, ( and i got over being mad he got it instead of the other one) ive been looking throughe it, and found some, hes addmitted to doing some of them, hes told me hes done it mulitple times a day, so why quit with me? FYI, most his gf's have been 18- 26, so hes used to young's, lol if i got it twice a week, id be good, but 3 months sux so much ass

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Twice a week on average would be about dead right for his age etc.

You MUST get him to go for a medical check up. But without pressuring him into it.

Think back to just before the sex dried up..did anything change about him, his diet, his environment?

Uh... he's probably getting sex from somebody else.

quote:Originally posted by firekitty751:

Uh... he's probably getting sex from somebody else.



Not true. A lot of things can happen at that age. Stress, prostate problems, etc. Men do have their down times too...

Does he piss a lot more often than he did before? Increased or decreased urination tends to be a sign in men of a number of things that can also affect the sex drive.

quote:Originally posted by sweet_asCANDY_hot_asFIRE:

and i want laid.



quote:Originally posted by sweet_asCANDY_hot_asFIRE:

and i just want laid

To get laid. I just want TO GET laid!

Say it right you moron.

the only thing thats changed was about 2 months ago, he switched back to being a vegetarian, i did about a month ago, because they taste sweeter, and i thought ( in my maby its me, im ugly, not attractive etc. phase) that maby he'd get the hint and do something about our sex life, or, rather lack of one. but thats about it, ive joked around about viagra, going to the doc. to get some, and he didnt take too kindly too that, lol. u think so firekitty? i did go visit my mum for a week, got back sun. and still nothing, and all week long on the phone it was i miss u, yadda yadda, u think maby?



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I was just being a jerk, sorry.

I don't know enough about your situation to really say.

I'm assuming you've flat out asked WHY he doesn't want to sex you? What did he say?

You're only going to be young, hot, and crazy about sex for a brief period of time.

Unless you're in love, don't waste your time with this guy much longer.

My brutally honest suggestion: break up with him and find someone else.

oh man, not what i wanted to hear, but thats life, thanx fullcircle. firekitty u werent being a jerk, just ur first thought, and i dont wanna break up with him, i live with him, and we do have alot of fun together, and we have a lot more in common than ive had with any past bf's, everything else in the relationship is going great, just not the sex life

I had a friend who had to insist that her fiance sex her up more often...or...it was over. But she had a very high sex drive.

I think you really need to sit him down and talk to him like a grown up. No jokes, but a serious talk about your needs versus his needs. And...what is going on in his life right now too that he might not be telling you.

This is from Irvine Welsh's book "The Acid House"



quote:You said, when we embarked on this great adventure together, that lots of laughter was essential in a relationship.

I agreed.

You also made the point that a great deal of sex was of equal importance.

Again, I agreed. Wholeheartedly.

In fact I remember your exact words : laughter and sex are the barometers of a relationship. This was the statement you made, if I remember correctly.

Don't get me wrong. I couldn't agree more.

But not at the same time, ya fuckin cow.

too funny!!!!

thanx fullcircle, i needed the laugh, and, i do try to talk to him about it seriously, no jokes,because my lack of sex is very very serious to me and he gets pissed off about the fact im trying to talk about it. im just tryin to figure out what i can do to maby spice things up a little, maby its the fact untill a week ago, since i couldnt get sex, and i have a mouth + cock fetish, that i gave him head many many times ( ah, memories) now, i cant even do that because that doesnt do n e thing for me, just makes me more frustrated, he just rolls over and says im tired hun, im gonna nap, or, i thought ud ride me, where i say, nope, just suck ya, maby ive been to good with the head so he doesnt feel the need to have sex because he gets off on the sucking?

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^ I fapped

lol, u would huh? i would rate myself like 4/10, so maby im not hot enuff? of course, that wouldnt explain the sudden stop, unless.....idk

I think my wife is broken, she doesn't do that

an o yea and Pics!

quote:Originally posted by sweet_asCANDY_hot_asFIRE:

i would rate myself like 4/10



That means nothing. Girls tend to be awful at realising their true hotness.

Doesn't matter how hot you are though - the universal motto of guys is something along the lines of "a hole is a hole, my dick can't see".

Even if you WERE a 4, which I doubt, he would STILL want to fuck you sometimes.

If a guy doesn't want to fuck a girl he's living with for as long as you're talking about, either he has some kind of medical problem, or... uh, he's a pod person?

lol, thanx fullcircle, fray, i have a couple pics, just dont laugh, lol, cause im not that hot, http://tinyurl.com/y9cf3w

http://tinyurl.com/y9axbh

Whatever the reason your boyfriend has for not wanting to fuck you regularly, it's nothing to do with how you look =]

You should seriously ask him if he's feeling depressed or something, don't bring it up in relation to sex, just tell him you're concerned about his mood or whatever.

Yeah btw, has his general mood been different in the past few months or what?

no, his moods been the same as its always been, however, maby if i do talk to him about his mood, without involving sex i could figure out whats wrong

He probably is cheating on you. I'd be fucking suspicious.

Dudes, its a fucking troll.

Your fine, hmm there is a couple of ways first random places. Show up at his job and suck him off or just take him. Or the moment he walks into the house tackle him and take him. Blowjob while driving? Fix him a sandwitch first?

quote:Originally posted by Garrett:

Dudes, its a fucking troll.

sweet_asCANDY_hot_asFIRE I have to express my admiration as to your commitment to the relationship. From what you have told us, there is nothing wrong on your part. You are obbviously a loving and devoted g/f who is troubled by her partners distance.

I say this in order to soften the blow....

maybe he is being unfaithful?