16 years old

never been kissed (until tonight)

Okay so I was at a party tonight, and me and this girl when off on our own. This was my first time doing pretty much anything, so for your humour, I'll tell you how it went. In return, I'd like honest advice.

So we were making out and stuff, I think I was okay at that. I just tried to do what she was doing, then eventually did my own stuff. I then went on to some petting, and feeling her up, and then I went for the bra. The thing is, she was on her back, so she had to arch up and I could only use one hand. After a very awkward 10 seconds or so I just said "Uh, do you think you could do it?" I think that looked pretty bad on my part, but she undid it and I went to work on her breasts. Just licking/sucking or whatever. I then, and this was pretty awkward as well, asked if anyone ever went down on her, she said no, I asked if she wanted someone to, she said not tonight and I said that was fine. Here, I'll put in a paragraph for your viewing comfort.

So then she returned the question, I said no, I'd never gotten head but I'd like it. I went on my back and undid myself, and she worked her way down and this is where the trouble started. It was cold outside, I don't know if this is why, so I wasn't even hard. She grabbed it and sucked on it for like 5 seconds, I think it might've been working a bit, but then she gave up and came back up to make out with me. I was furiously jerking myself off, trying to not let her notice, but she never went back down there, and eventually we were just getting dressed again. Here's a paragraph.

So we just talked a bit, joked around and went back to the party. I think she wants a relationship but my buddy (and hers) likes her and I said it'd be too mean to him. He was pretty upset, I could tell. Back to the girl. I felt obligated to not just ditch her after, so I hung out with her for the rest of the party. Eventually it got weird so I eventually said "wanna split up for a bit?" and she seemed kinda mad, so I was like "or is that okay?" and she just got annoyed and walked away. We met up again later and we were still cool so I dunno how it turned out overall. Onto my problem.

Has anyone else experienced this, and if so, what'd you do about it? I was sober, so it wasn't whiskeydick. Can cold alone do that even when a girl is touching it and stuff?

Were you really nervous? Sometimes nerves can cause you not to perform to optimum standards. Other than that, I really don't know what to say.

Whatever the cause, and normally cold isn't, the most importnat thing is for you not to get worked up about it or you risk really having serious problems.

Happens to every man at some point so stop sweating it and go see a doctor. I doubt that at your age you have any physical problems but you need to know for sure.

yes, it's happened to alot of guys.

alot of times guys get nervous/anxious their first time getting head, and that trips them up and causes them to go limp.

I'm glad to hear it's not too uncommon. I as definitely nervous, and I wasn't all that turned on. We were at a public school playground and there were cars driving by and stuff. They couldn't see us, though.

What can I do in the future?

Additionally, does anyone have any advice for me based on my story? The bra thing sucked, but jeez, I don't know how anyone can get that sucker undone with one hand. I tried some things I read, slipping on finger underneith but it just wasn't happening. I probably shouldn't have offered her head either. Ugh.

advice for the future is do it in a place where you will be more comftorable and not so nervous, that way you can focus on the EXPERIENCE.

and as far as the bra thing goes man.. your biggest problem with that is you acting all nervous and insecure about it.

you don't wear fucking bras, so why are you worried about if she finds out you can't undo a bra?? jus confidently say, "hey baby a little help"-- and you're fine.. and yea you probably shouldn't have offered her head-- but don't sweat it man. you're fine. work on your goddamn confidence. I can tell jus by reading this post you are seriously lacking confidence man. so work on that shit, but overall you should be fine. stop trippin' over this shit and jus do yo thing.

On the subject of 'bra undoing'. My first non-imaginary girlfriend showed me how to undo them through clothes and with one hand. SO i'd suggest you find a female you trust and get her to school you.

Or go out and buy one and actually look at the clips.

Its all in how you 'pinch'.That's what a girl does...just reaches behind and 'pinches' it together.

It really isn't dificult...i mean even the most retarded girl wears one and manages to undo it by herself...even those who can't walk and chew gum at the same time!

Secondly, if you are doing things right she should be ripping her own bra of...

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

On the subject of 'bra undoing'. My first non-imaginary girlfriend showed me how to undo them through clothes and with one hand. SO i'd suggest you find a female you trust and get her to school you.

Or go out and buy one and actually look at the clips.

Its all in how you 'pinch'.That's what a girl does...just reaches behind and 'pinches' it together.

It really isn't dificult...i mean even the most retarded girl wears one and manages to undo it by herself...even those who can't walk and chew gum at the same time!

Secondly, if you are doing things right she should be ripping her own bra of...

There is a thread in the Sex archives about undoing bra's with one hand.

Enjoy (http://tinyurl.com/sw22w)

[This message has been edited by blackcat (edited 10-22-2006).]

About doing things right. I think I did one thing right tonight, and that was the breast work. I was doing some licking/sucking on one and sorta pinched the other one between thumb and forefinger, not pinch but just sorta roll or something. Anway, she started like breathing kinda hard and rubbing my back, and eventually the rubbing got kinda rough and nails were involved. I think this was a good sign, but I ruined it by offering head lol. My ears are open to any more advice, I'm going to bed for now.