Well, my life is real... not good, to put it one way. At home, my parents are usually arguing or fighting, and even when they're not, they have this sort of cold attitude towards each other. I've come to accept this as a fact of life - it won't change. I am stuck at home for the working week and Saturday/Sunday stay over at a friend's place - a friend who isn't that great. In fact, I have few people who I can call real friends, 3 at the most. I can't escape. Riga, where I go to hang out with my friends(Which is quite rare) is only that big - you get bored walking around the Old Town and center pretty quick. At home the situation is pretty bad. I really don't know what to do - the holiday season is usually pretty hard on me, but it seems much heavier than last year. I've gotten more spontaneous than last year, and that's saying something, because last year I cried for... well, a long time on Christmas Eve(the 24th), which is two days before my birthday.

You'd think I'd be pretty happy around that time. Sadly, no.

What I want to really do is make the family situation better, although I can't really do much except do good in school, and even that I can't do - I don't understand some stuff, other stuff I just don't learn or I forget all of my books on a subject in which there is a test the next day, etc.

Basically, I feel really bad, emotionally AND physically(I've been getting stomache, heart pains for 2 weeks or so).

I really don't know what to do - oh, I'm turning 14 on the 26th and I'm a male, if that helps.

Is one of your parents english-speaking? either you're really good at it, or it's a language you've grown up with.

Anyway I was in a similar type situation at 14. It's better now...I'm trying to figure out how it changed. Oh yeah, basically, ignore your parents. If your group of friends suck, well...I dunno how it works at your school, but at our school, we basically had a few groups of around 5-15 people scattered around the school. Go visit one of the other groups for a bit. Have a lunchtime where you just go visit all of them. Keep doing that until you're a 'regular' there.

To be honest I'm not sure how I got past it, so good luck.

Try and find someway to escape any of the pain you can't handle. Learn to love school, go and find that drugs keep you sane, or become a man-slut, but just get out of the house.

You'll end up in less pain later in life, though, if you learn to love school.

Go to the doctor, for the heart pains. Probably just angina, but you never know.

As for your parents... I know how you feel. Mine divorced. But I never really cared, possibly because there's been familial strife for as long as I can remember... just escape into books and teh internets, if you have to.

Well, my dad was a diplomat in the US for 5 years and he took us with him, so I guess that explains it.

Anyway, thanks for the advice. My school has only about 150 people in it, so it doesn't really have any cliques, but Iļl try to get around that.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

Try and find someway to escape any of the pain you can't handle. Learn to love school, go and find that drugs keep you sane, or become a man-slut, but just get out of the house.

You'll end up in less pain later in life, though, if you learn to love school.

No drugs, Gus.

quote:Originally posted by Tamerlane:

No drugs, Gus.

That's a great way to live, except that most people can't stand it. Hell, I drink socially, and only when I need to lighten up. Otherwise, anything else I do is so little that it doesn't matter... But yeah, though, GO AND BLOODY MAKE SCHOOL YOUR LIFE.

Trust me, if you can really do that well, you'll be able to go to college early, and get the fuck out of there, and back into your own life.

quote:Originally posted by Gus:

That's a great way to live, except that most people can't stand it. Hell, I drink socially, and only when I need to lighten up. Otherwise, anything else I do is so little that it doesn't matter... But yeah, though, GO AND BLOODY MAKE SCHOOL YOUR LIFE.

Trust me, if you can really do that well, you'll be able to go to college early, and get the fuck out of there, and back into your own life.

I mean, no drugs as in I can't get any drugs. I love to try some of that mar-i-huana to see if it's as good as they say it is.

You need to get laid. Yes I do mean that seriously.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

You need to get laid. Yes I do mean that seriously.



Heh. Well I do need a girlfriend but I just don't try hard enough to get one, I guess, or don't try taking my friendship to the next level with any of the girls I know now. =/

quote:Originally posted by Tamerlane:

Heh. Well I do need a girlfriend but I just don't try hard enough to get one, I guess, or don't try taking my friendship to the next level with any of the girls I know now. =/



You will find that all your home life problems and school stress tend to magically disappear or seem less serious when you know that you are going to get your cock sucked that evening.

Also girls=REAL stress which will hopefully man you up a bit (no more hour long sobbing...except if she leaves you).

[This message has been edited by jackketch (edited 12-17-2006).]

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

You will find that all your home life problems and school stress tend to disappear or seem less serious when you know that you are going to get your cock sucked that evening.

I can second that.

I third that.

quote:Originally posted by jackketch:

Also girls=REAL stress which will hopefully man you up a bit (no more hour long sobbing...except if she leaves you).

Haha, real women aren't real stress... It's just those little girls that no one loved as a kid...

Ah well, that's why we've got eyes, and brains. As men, we need to stay far away from those girls.