I have one girl that I can't last long having sex with. By last long, I mean two minutes max, usually less then one. I read most of the threads here, and see something like this pop up from time to time, but it is usually just sex in general.

It's not really hard for me to get with good looking girls. Pretty much every time I can last as long as I want. It doesn't matter what I do, I can concentrate on the sex and how good it feels, yet still last as long as I want. Usually ends up lasting about 30-45 minutes (give or take depending on the situation).

Yet with this one girl, it doesn't matter, I can't last. If I think about sex, I bust too soon, don't think about sex, I bust too soon, if I think about nasty shit, I still bust to soon. Someone will usually reply, you are nervous, just don't worry about it. That's not the problem though, sometimes I am worried about it (consciously) sometimes I'm not. Yet it sticks in my mind, so when I have sex with a new girl, I am worried about it, but I don't have the problem.

The only thing I can think of is maybe it's too much foreplay. I'm used to the usual foreplay and stuff, but she wants more then average (naturally I oblige). I wouldn't think 10-15 extra minutes of foreplay would take me from 45 minutes to 45 seconds (sadly not an exaggeration), but that is the only difference I can think of.

Any help?

quote:Originally posted by NewRage:

Any help?

Lots. First off, when you have some time today, masturbate. Blow your wad, but don't stop. Keep on playing with yourself, and get hard AGAIN.

Now, transfer that over to the bedroom. You'll have to rest a bit longer, but though you can and WILL get hard again. So perhaps, have her blow you before hand, see if you can get a wad out that way, and then you'll usually last longer inside of her.

Otherwise if you don't care to try and, try thicker condoms, or those numbing ones (be warned, from what I hear you WON'T be able to get off, at all with them on, but it's still worth a shot for the hell of it). Perhaps try and have a hand rubbing her clit while you go at it, or have her try ridding you.

Otherwise, though, you very well might just want to get her off before hand orally, and then fuck her senseless. Works for me whenever I'm unlucky enough to find a girl that even I can't make cum vaginally. Good luck!

Do complex mathematic equations in your head.

People try to think of disgusting or off-putting stuff, thinking it helps...

If you keep your mind preoccupied you can last almost as long as you want.

get "performance" condoms they have a cream in them that numbs your dick a lil. I dryed them once it really does work... i dont have problems holding out, and i tryed them out and i actually couldnt come for fucking ages...

Im gonna go with what gus said. Get a bj, wait a minute, then fuck her.

Maybe desensitize your cock with the super tight/super ribbed Fleshlight? Other than that I don't have any idea.

Okay, a little more informations is required. I have tried trojan "extended pleasure" condoms with her before, after an hour and a half we both just gave up.

Included in the aforementioned "foreplay" is her cumming, being from fingers or tongue, it happens. The real problem is how long I last, it's just embarassing. Everything I said in the original post was truth (I wasn't making up shit, or trying to brag). I really can get girls fairly easily when I go out, and I don't have problems with any chick except this one, which makes me think it is a psychological problem.

While the ideas mentioned are good, I am really looking for something that lets me last longer, without needing to cum twice.

We don't use a condom usually, she had something or other implanted so she can't get pregnant, and is only sexually active with me so STD (or STI whatever) isn't that prominent on our minds.

So far the jacking it, then continuing after I cum and the complex equations both sound like good ideas, thanks for the help.

Cosmo: The chick I'm having problems with is fairly loose compared to some others. Being desensitized to a tight vigina wouldn't matter.

or she may just be that good.

I've been with a chick.. that was completely amazing.. we did lots of foreplay, got her off.. and she could get me off in her in under 2 mins flat.

I don't know what she did.. but god damn. It was nice.

I don't smoke cigs.. but after her I always had to smoke.